Futhi zonke lezi zikhathi ziphephezela kombuzo owodwa oyinhloko: yini amadoda ayilindele kusukela ocansini obuthakathaka, yimuphi uhlobo lokuziphatha nemikhuba abayithandayo kakhulu kumngane wakho? Yiqiniso, impendulo kuyo ayikwazi ukungaqondakali. Awukwazi ukukholelwa ngokujulile ukuthi wonke amadoda afana. Ngandlela-thile bafana ngokufanayo: banesisindo esifanayo sezitho, kunezici ezihlukile zabesifazane besifazane, futhi ukucabanga kwabo kuyingqayizivele ngempela. Kodwa ebuhlotsheni, wonke umuntu uyedwa. Futhi ukuqonda ukuthi impela indoda eyodwa efuna ukubona kumfazi wayo oyingqayizivele futhi oyingqayizivele uyosizwa kuphela ngezindlela eyodwa: qaphela izifiso zakhe ezivezwe ngokuzwakalayo noma ezibonakalayo ezingeni elibucayi.
Kukhona-ke, ngokuvamile ukwamukelwa kwe-postulates okubeka ubuncane bezimiso ukuthi owesifazane wendoda yangempela kufanele afane. Ngakho-ke, noma yimuphi ummeleli wesondo oqinile, ngenxa yezizathu ezisobala, udinga ukuqinisekiswa komphakathi ngobuntu bakhe. Lokhu kungokwamadoda - isidingo esinomgomo, esinganelisa owesifazane kuphela. Kodwa indlela azomnika ngayo abathandekayo bakhe lokhu kwakufisa ukuzwa - kuncike kuye kuphela. Kungaba ushintsho oluqhubekayo lwamafomu wesifazane: kulungile ukukhumbula inkulumo edumile ukuthi owesifazane ongcono ungumngane wosuku, owesifazane onobumnandi obuhle ebusuku nowesifazane kunoma iyiphi inkampani. Kodwa nokho akukho okugcizelela ubukhulu besilisa, njengokwesifazane. Ngokwezibalo, amadoda akhetha abesifazane abagqoke kakhulu abesifazane (egqoke, izithende eziphakeme, ama-pantsuit enhle) kuma-80 amacala angama-100. Nakuba kunjalo, ama-t-shirts amakhulu kanye nama-baggy jeans ahlangene nama-sneakers endala owesifazane angabheka futhi njengowesifazane . Lapha konke kuncike esitokisini sesibalo sakhe. Ngezinye izikhathi uveza ubulili kungakhathaliseki ukuthi isembatho sakhe senziwe kanjani. Amadoda angaphuthelwa abesifazane abanjalo. Futhi wonke owesifazane angakwazi ukuhlakulela izimfanelo ezinjalo ngaphakathi kwakhe.
Noma kunjalo, yimiphi imikhuba nokuziphatha abantu abathanda?
Ngokungangabazeki, basuke behlanya ngokuzethemba kwabo besifazane. Kuyaziwa ukuthi kuphela inkanyezi yokuphakama kokuqala izozifaka engozini ngokuzungezile ngokwayo ngamalungu afanele emphakathini. Ngakho-ke, indoda efaneleka kakhulu, ukuzethemba ngokwengeziwe nokwaneliseka owesifazane oyoyibheka. Kodwa lapha owesifazane kudingeka akwazi ukuzwa umzila, omncane kakhulu phakathi kokuzethemba nokuzethemba ngokweqile, okuyinto evimbela indoda yesidingo esithandwa kakhulu samadoda. Owesifazane angaba ngumngane angakhuluma ngakho konke okukhathazayo. Kodwa ngesikhathi esifanayo kumele ahlale encike kuye. Akuzona izinto ezibonakalayo, kodwa ngokomzwelo: noma yikuphi umuntu oqhakazile ngokoqobo uma owesifazane ezama "ukumboza," ekhanda noma emanzini emvula.
Umuntu ngamunye uzakhela indlela yakhe yokuziphatha nokuziphatha, okufisa ukugubha othandekayo wakhe. Kodwa kunoma yiliphi ummeleli wesondo oqinile kunesibopho sokuthi owesifazane akwazi ukulalela. Amadoda abe nobugovu kakhulu kunabo abakhethiweyo. Ngakho-ke, bathanda ukuzikhulumela kakhulu. Futhi ngaphezu kwabo bonke bayakwazisa owesifazane ikhono okungenani imizuzu engu-5-7 ukulalela i-monologue yakhe ngaphandle kokuphazamisa. Ngokuvamile, isifiso somfazi sokuphula indoda emkhatsini wesigwebo ngombuzo owubuciko noma ibinzana, ukubeka esikhundleni esihloko isihloko, samadoda kuyadabukisa kakhulu. Futhi iphuzu lapha akulona ukuthi akakakaze abe nesikhathi sokusho okuthile okubaluleke kakhulu ngaye, othandekayo wakhe, nokukhathazeka kwakhe akumkhathazi nhlobo. Abamele ubulili obunamandla bonke ukuphila kwabo balondoloza uhlamvu lwabo ebuntwaneni. Futhi ukuphazanyiswa okunjalo kulimaza umuntu: njengengane abazali abafuni ukuyilalela, ubhekene nesimo esibuhlungu, esingenabulungisa, ngokombono wakhe, icala. Ngakho-ke, lo mkhuba wabesifazane besilisa uphazanyiswa yisisusa sokwehla okukhulu okungenani ngamacala angu-40 ngamakhulu. Lapho lo muntu ongenhla uzobonga isicelo esithembekile somlaleli wakhe ukuze aphule indaba, ngoba uyakhathele ngokweqile yesikhulu sakhe futhi ufuna ukumtshela ngezinhlekelele zakhe zanamuhla.
Indoda iyathanda uma owesifazane emdumisa.
Futhi hhayi ikakhulukazi ngokwethembeka emizamweni yakhe yokucela ukusiza. Indoda yangempela ayikwazi ukwenza izincomo ngokuzenzekelayo: udinga ukuthwala le nkulumo ethandekayo ngokubukeka kwayo, izimfanelo zobuntu noma amakhono ekuphekeni. Okuphambene nabalandeli bobudlelwane obusondelene nabo obusondelene nabo, okwenziwe ubuhlobo obubusuku obunye bodwa obusebusuku sebevele bakha uhlu lwezitatimende ezenziwe ngomumo ezijabulisayo kunoma yimuphi owesifazane. Indoda ethembekileyo ayikuthandi ukuqamba amanga kumfazi wayo: angeke amtshele ukuthi ulahlekelwe isisindo, uma kungenjalo, kodwa ngokuqinisekile uzophawula ukuthi yena kanye naloluhlobo lwakhe kungcono kakhulu.
Ngokuvamile, imibuzo ehlala njalo yabesifazane mayelana nokubukeka noma ukunyamalala kwezimpikiswano ekubukeni kwayo ayithinti amadoda. Ngokuzenzakalelayo, owesifazane omkhethile futhi ofunwa nguye, nguye ohle kakhulu futhi ohlonishwa kakhulu. Futhi uyayithanda le mfanelo eyakhiwe yohluliweyo wakhe. Futhi uma uqaphela ukwehluleka okusemandleni wakhe, khona-ke uzoqala ukuqaphela kancane kancane izici ezithile ezigcwala ukuphelela kwakhe. Futhi ngalolo suku, lapho ebona ukuthi akasacabangi ukuthi owesifazane wakhe ulungile, engavamile, ehlukile, isifiso sakhe sizophela. Futhi ngokushabalalisa kwalesi sikhathi esibalulekile sokuxhuma ebuhlotsheni, ukungaxilisi ngokuphelele kwemizwa kungenzeka.
Owesifazane ubonakalisa indoda.
Indoda ithandana kakhulu lapho imikhuba nokuziphatha kocansi lwakhe kugcizelela izimfanelo zakhe emphakathini. Kumelwe azizwe edingekile kumngane wakhe hhayi kuphela ekhaya, lapho bodwa, kodwa futhi enkampanini lapho angakwazi khona ukulahlekelwa isikhundla sakhe futhi kuphela emehlweni omthandekayo wakhe. Lo mzuzu ubalulekile ngokuphelele kunoma yiluphi ilungu lezocansi eziqine. Futhi ngenxa yokuthi owesifazane uzobhekana nokuboniswa kwalokhu okuningiliziwe okufunwa, okuningi kuzoxhomeka ebuhlotsheni babo. Into yukuthi amadoda ayinkimbinkimbi kakhulu kunabesifazane. Futhi abazi ukuthi bangaziqhenya kanjani ngokwabo. Noma bangakwazi, kodwa banikezwa ngezindleko zemizamo engavamile. Kodwa owesifazane ngokoqobo ngokubukeka okuncane angenza umthandi wakhe abe nomuzwa wokuthi unjalo - omunye futhi uyayithanda ngempela. Futhi lo mzwelo wesilisa awugcini nje umnandi - basuke bekulungele ukuhambisa izintaba imizuzwana embalwa yokuhlala kulo mdlalo.