Izicelo zabathandekayo noma indlela yokuthola isigamu sesibili?

Uma sizwa umbuzo: "Futhi yiziphi izicelo zakho ezithandekayo?", Ngokushesha sicabanga ngendoda enhle egijima kuyo kithi ngehhashi elimhlophe, limbambe ngesiqhwa futhi limyisa kude enqabeni yakhe enhle ... Konke amazwi. Ekuphileni, konke kuhluke ngokuphelele, futhi izikhulu zivame ukutholakala, ikakhulukazi izikhulu zamahhala. Wonke amantombazane, njengamadoda, afuna ukuthola umlingani wabo womphefumulo. Ngezinye izikhathi kuthatha iminyaka, futhi ngezinye izikhathi imizuzu embalwa. Njalo ihora elizungezile kukhona inqwaba yabantu, abalingani abangase babe khona, esivame kakhulu ukungaqapheli ngezizathu ezihlukahlukene. Ngakho-ke yiziphi izicelo zethu kubathandekayo noma indlela yokuthola isigamu sesibili? Thola umlingani womphefumulo, engingathanda ukuphila kuwo wonke ukuphila kwami ​​akulula, kodwa ngifuna ukuthi umuntu osithandayo ahlale eduze kwethu, alungele ukusiza njalo nokusekela njalo. Ungamthola kanjani? Abanye abantu bayakwazi ukukwenza ngaphandle komzamo, ngandlela-thile ngokwabo. Isibonelo, bakhulela ndawonye, ​​benza abangane, bafunda futhi ekugcineni bahlobene futhi baba umndeni owodwa onobungane.

Abanye bachitha impilo yabo yonke befuna umlingani wokuphila ... Ngezinye izikhathi bayithola ngokushesha, futhi ngezinye izikhathi bashintsha abalingani njengeglavu. Futhi abanye, ngokuvamile, ngaphandle kokuzikhandla, hlalani ngokuthula ekhaya bese ulindele ukuthi isimo sezulu sivela olwandle. Futhi kunama-workaholic anjalo abasebenza emsebenzini abakhohlwa ngokuphila kwabo siqu kanye nezimpukane ngokushesha ezidlule kuzo. Futhi ngesikhathi esifanayo banelisekile ngakho konke, futhi abafuni ukushintsha noma yini. Izazi zengqondo zithi umuntu kuphela oxhumana naye, ozolile futhi othakazelisayo ekukhulumisaneni, kuphela uma enomuntu siqu ohleliwe. Lapha ungakwazi ukukhumbula izimo ezimbili zokuphila ezenzeka ngokoqobo. Kukhona lapho uhlala khona eyedwa intombazane enhle kakhulu futhi enhle. Kodwa angizange ngithole umfana. Unyaka usuvele uchithe ukufuna umngane wakho wokuphila, futhi uthole ingxoxo eyodwa yendawo. O, bangaki ababehlukene futhi behluke ... Angifuni ngisho ukukhumbula, kodwa ngolunye usuku waqala ingxoxo nomfana oyedwa. Futhi ngaleso sikhathi wayesevele eneminyaka yakhe yokuqala eyunivesithi. Cabanga ukumangala kwakhe lapho lo mfana evela esikoleni sakhe, kusuka ekhishini elifanayo.

Ukucabanga, bafunda ndawonye iminyaka engu-11, futhi babona ngemva kweminyaka engu-13 kuphela. Kodwa babeyi imiphefumulo emibili ngempela, baqondana ngezwi lesigamu. Kusukela kuleso simo kubonisa ngokucacile ukuthi le ntombazane iyezikhethele izicelo eziyisisekelo kumuntu wakhethiweyo. Futhi ngithole. Ngakho-ke zonke izintombazane kufanele zikwazi ukuthi yimuphi uhlobo lomfana ofuna ukubona eduze kwakhe. Awudingi ukubuka i-macho, akusiyo njalo umuntu olungele ukuhlala nawe kuze kube yilapho esegugile. Le ntombazane ithole umfana ojwayelekile ngokubukeka, kodwa eshaweni nasomlingweni, akakwazi ukubikezela futhi ngendlela engavamile yokuthandana. Lesi yisibonelo sokuthi awudingi ukubheka okuhle kusuka ngaphandle, ubuke ngaphakathi komuntu. Sesivele sikhuluma ngabantu abahlelwe emsebenzini. Futhi kunezibonelo eziningi. Enye intombazane enhle, kodwa ethobekile yayihlala nabazali bayo. Wasebenza kanzima, kodwa kuphela umfana owayengekho.

Ehlezi ekhaya, akahambanga kuma-discos namaqembu. Kodwa ngolunye usuku wanquma ukuvakashela. Wamenywa emhlanganweni owodwa, lapho ahlangana khona nendoda ethandekayo. Wayesekhulile kuye iminyaka emihlanu, kodwa into ethile yabakhanga ngokushesha. Kunzima ukusho ukuthi yini, kodwa kwakuyi-spark. Futhi ngokuqinisekile ngeke kubonakale, futhi ngemva kwehora lokuxoxa kwakunzima kakade ukuba baphile ngaphandle komunye nomunye. Futhi izimo ezinjalo zivame kakhulu. Zonke zihlukile futhi asikwazi kahle ukuthi sizophi futhi nini lapho sizohlangana nomfana noma intombazane yamaphupho ethu, kodwa, okubaluleke kakhulu, akukaze kuphele. Izicelo zabathandekayo ziyanyamalala masinyane, uma uhlangane namehlo wakho kumfana noma intombazane, ngaphandle kwakho noma impilo yakho eyayiyimpunga futhi ayikho. Ungabheka umuntu ocebile, kodwa uzothola umfana olula othola amabhakede angu-400 ngenyanga, kodwa uzokuphatha ngezandla zakhe. Noma uzohlangana nomdayisi, kodwa uzochitha amahora amaningana nawe ukulala ... Uzokhetha ini? Wenzani? Kungakhathaliseki ukuthi ukhetha izicelo zakho noma uthando lwangempela: ingabe lowo mbuzo?