Ezingqondweni zanamuhla, ngokuvamile zibizwa nge-skazkoterapiya zezingane ezinzima. Kodwa-ke, akubona wonke umuntu oqonda ukuthi yiliphi igama elithi "therapy-tale therapy" lisho. Abaningi bayakudidanisa nokufunda izindabakwane izingane ezisuke zineziphambeko ezihlukahlukene zengqondo. Eqinisweni, incazelo ye-therapy yamathambo yezingane ezinzima ihlukile ngokuhlukile.
Umqondo wezokwelapha zamathambo
Okokuqala, kufanele kuqaphele ukuthi i-skazko-therapy isondelene kakhulu nokwelapha ubuciko, nje ukwelashwa kwezobuciko kusetshenziselwa amacala alula kakhulu. Izingane zinikezwa ithuba lokudweba lokho abazizwayo nokuzicabangela ukuze balwe nezinselele nezinkathazo. Kodwa-ke, lapho izingane zihlala zithola izithombe ezinjalo ezihlukumezayo, khona-ke esikoleni bese ziya skazkoterapiya. Ijwayele ukusetshenziselwa izingane ezinzima ezindlini zezintandane. Ngokuvamile kunezimo ukuthi ngosizo lwale ndlela baphulukisa izifo ezingenakulungiswa odokotela abangenakulinganisela ngokubheka i-dibilism.
Ngakho-ke, yiyiphi imithi yokwelapha inganekwane kunomntwana onzima? Umntwana unikezwa umdwebo wakhe futhi ucelwa ukuba atshele ngalokho okwenzeka kulo mfanekiso. Izingane zidinga ukungena emlandweni, chaza konke okuvezwayo, futhi okubaluleke kakhulu, kungani yonke into idonseleka ngale ndlela. Omunye wemisebenzi esemqoka yesazi sengqondo ukukhombisa ukuthi unesithakazelo ngempela kulokho okushiwo yingane. Uma lokhu kungeke kwenzeke, ke izingane ziqala ukungena ngokungabaza ukuthi umuntu udinga izindaba zabo futhi baziqhenya ngokwengeziwe.
Indlela yokwelashwa kwe-fairytale isebenza kanjani
Kungani ingane kufanele ikhulume ngalokho okwenzeka esithombeni sakhe? Eqinisweni, konke kulula. Uma ekhuluma, ngakho konke okwakubonakala kunesabekayo futhi kungenathemba, kancane kancane kuqala ukushintsha, ukukhula emininingwaneni, okuba yinto enhle futhi enhle. Ngenxa yalokho, ufika ngokuphelela okuhle futhi ukwesaba kwakhe kuqala ukunyamalala.
Omunye anganikeza isibonelo esicacile sokuthi ukwelashwa kwe-fairytale kusebenza kanjani. Omunye umntwana wabhala izihlahla ezishisayo. Emthini owodwa kwakukhona umgodi, okuvela kuzo izilwane ezazithola ziwela emlilweni. Kodwa lapho eqala ukusungula indaba yezinganekwane, endabeni yakhe yabonakala izimvemvane, ezazikwazi ukuvula amaphiko emlilweni ngamaphiko azo. Ngakho-ke, umntwana wasusa ukwesaba umlilo.
Ukwelashwa kwethebula kuvela ku-Gestalt therapy. Umthetho oyisisekelo wale ndlela wukuthi ungakwazi ukunqoba ukwesaba uma uqedela isenzo. Kusho ukuthini lokhu? Umuntu usaba ukwesaba okuthile bese eqala ukukubona okuphindiwe kakhulu. Ngakho-ke, isikhathi ngasinye esondelayo esesabisayo, umane ezama ukugwema isimo, esabe kakhulu. Kodwa ngesikhathi skazkoterapii ingane idlula le ndawo esabekayo kakhulu futhi iyaqaphela ukuthi ngemva kwalokho iqiniso akusekho okubi kakhulu. Into eyinhloko yukuthi isazi sezokwelapha singayenza ngokusaba, ukusekelwa, kodwa ngesikhathi esifanayo asivumeli ithuba lokubalekela futhi esimweni esesabekayo.
Zonke izingane zithanda ukutshela izindaba. Futhi wonke umuntu ngokucophelela noma ngokucophelela ufuna konke kuphele kahle. Lesi yisisekelo sendlela ye-skazko-therapy. Ingane, esitshele ukwesaba kwakhe, ngokusekelwa kwengqondo kwengqondo, izama ukuphela kokujabula komlando futhi lapho lokhu kwenzeka, ukwesaba kuqedwa. Ngakho-ke, lapho esebenza nezingane ezinzima, isazi sengqondo kufanele sibanikeze umsebenzi wokuveza okuthile okwesabisayo, isibonelo, izinhlekelele. Ngemuva kokuba umdwebo usuqedile, udinga ukucela ingane ukuthi itshele indaba ngalokho okwenzeka esithombeni. Uma ngabe isazi sezokwelapha sisebenza neqembu lezingane, khona-ke kufanele akhiphe inganekwane ngayinye ilungu leqembu ngabanye. Ungabeki ukucindezela ezinganeni bese ufika ngokuphela kokujabula esikhundleni sabo. Noma kunjalo, ungacela imibuzo ephakamisayo njengale: "Yini enye engenzeka?", "Kungani kwenzeke ngaleyo ndlela?", "Kungabe kukhona okungashintsha isimo?". Kubalulekile ukukhumbula ukuthi isazi sokusebenza kwengqondo sisiza ingane ukuba ikwazi ukubhekana nayo, kodwa ayilwi nokumesaba esikhundleni sayo.
Ukwelashwa kwe-tale kuyindlela ehlose ukusebenza ngezinkathazo. Ngemuva kwengane ingavumela ukuhamba okuthile okungamniki ukuthula, angaqhubeka nokuphila ngokuthula.