Ithonya lokukhulumisana ekuthuthukiseni ubuntu


Ukukhulisa ingane kuyindaba eyinkimbinkimbi, uma, ngempela, unomthelela futhi unesibopho salesi simo esifanayo. Ukuxhumana kudlala indima ebalulekile ekusungulweni nasekuthuthukiseni ubuntu. Abazali bahlala benesithakazelo kumbuthano wokuxhumana lapho ingane yabo ihlala khona. Sizoqonda ukuthi ukukhulumisana kufanele kube kanjani ekuthuthukiseni kwengane.

Ngokuvamile ngizwa umbono onjalo womzali wokuthi ingane kufanele ihambe enkulisa ukuze kuthuthukiswe ngokuvumelana futhi ngokufanele emjikelezweni wabangane bakhe. Nakuba, kwaphindwe kaningi ukuthi abantu abangazange bavakashele izinkulisa ebuntwaneni babo bakhula futhi bafinyelela eziphakeme ezifanayo empilweni yabo njengohlobo lukaSavikov. Kungenzeka ukuthi isimo sasihluke kakhulu ... Mhlawumbe lezi ziyizinto eziphilayo, okwenza abazali banikwe umuntu kanye nokuningi okuningi. Lokho, hhayi kuphela inkulisa enika umthelela wokuxhumana akuyona ukuthuthukiswa komuntu, kodwa ezinye izinto eziningi. Masikhulume ngakho konke lokhu ngokuningiliziwe.

Mama, khuluma nami

Umuntu wokuqala okuvela kuwo umthombo oqondile wokuxhumana komuntu unina. Uma umama ulinda ngempela futhi emthanda umntwana wakhe ongakazalwa, khona-ke ukuxhumana kuqala ngokuphila komntwana. Kubonakala ukuthi ingane eyomuso izwela ngokubili isimo sangaphakathi somama, nomthwalo we-semantic afuna ukumdlulisela ngxoxo yakhe engokomoya.

Isigaba esilandelayo sokukhulumisana ukuxhumana emva kokuzalwa. Umama lapha futhi ungumthombo oqondile wokuxhumana. Ungayinaki ukuxhumana ne-crumb kusukela emaminithini okuqala ngemva kokuzalwa. Ngikholelwa, ingane iyakudinga. Uyakuthanda futhi uzizwa.

Ngakho-ke, ngokuqala ngokukhulelwe nokuqhubeka ngemuva kokuzalwa kwengane, umama usebenza njengomthombo oyinhloko wokuxhumana, ngakho-ke ulwazi lwezwe, impilo, ulwazi. Akumangalisi ukuthi basho ukuthi othisha abangcono kunazo zonke abazali bayo.

UPapa unendima ebalulekile ekusungulweni kwengane nokubunjwa kobuntu bakhe. Ngakho-ke, kanye nomama kubalulekile ukuxhumana nengane, kuqala ngezikhathi zokuqala zokuphila kwakhe.

Ngibona izwe, futhi kukhona abantu kulo

Ukukhula, i-kid ibona futhi iyaqonda ukuthi kusekhona omalume no-unina, ugogo nomkhulu, udokotela onengubo emhlophe, abafana namantombazane. Uthola imizwelo kubo, ufunda ukuqaphela "wakhe" futhi ahlukanise "izihambi ezakhe", futhi kamuva ufunde ukuxhumana nokuthola ulwazi kubantu abathintana naye.

Leyo ndlela entsha, futhi eyinhloko yokuxhumana, iyadingeka ingane, futhi ngokuqhubekayo, inamandla futhi inamandla. Phela, impilo yethu yonke ukuxhumana ngqo nabanye abantu. Noma ngabe yikuphi, emsebenzini, ezokuthutha zomphakathi, esitolo noma endaweni yokuzivocavoca, yonke indawo esihlangana nabo nabantu abaxhumana nabo esiye safundiswa kusukela ebuntwaneni. I-lula ingane ezokwazi ukuyikhulumisana kusukela ebuntwaneni bakhe, ngakho-ke kuyoba lula ngaye ukwenza abangane abasha futhi uhlele oxhumana nabo nabantu abasha esikhathini esizayo. Lesi "sipho" singenasisekelo, futhi ngezinye izikhathi sitholakala ngemfundo, ukuzifundela nezinye izinto eziningi.

Ingabe udinga inkulisa, udinga isikole?

Ngicela lo mbuzo kubothisha benkulisa ngolwazi oluningi, ngathola impendulo: "Ngiyakholwa ukuthi enkulisa ingane kufanele iqhutshwe, njengoba eyala. Ngakolunye uhlangothi, ungathola imiphumela emibili: ingane eyodwa ozihlelayo, ithola ukuxhumana nokuthuthukiswa, enye "ikhefu" hhayi okungcono. "Bazali, uma ucabanga ukuthi i-enkulisa" izophulukisa "umuntu enganeni yakho, Udinga inkulisa? Okunye okunye okusho ukuthi izikhungo zasenkulisa zezingane zingaba izikhungo zanamuhla zokuthuthukisa. Banikeza kokubili ukuxhumana nokuthuthukiswa kwifomu esebenzayo engasebenzi.

Ngokuqondene nesikole, ke-ke, ungaqasha uthisha wangasese, unikele ingane ngothisha ongcono kakhulu ekhaya, kodwa uyayidinga? Ngempumelelo efanayo ungathola isikole esingcono. Isikole asikona nje umthombo wolwazi, kodwa futhi nomthombo wokuxhumana, nakuba kungabi kuhle ngaso sonke isikhathi, kodwa endaweni ethile usadinga ukuthola ulwazi lokuphila. Okungenani, iningi lethu lafunda esikoleni futhi lakhula lihlakaniphile, lithandana nabantu abanelisekile.

Ukuze ube abangane, ngakho-ke ungenzi abangane

Ngokuvamile abazali bazama ukulawula imbuthano yokuxhumana kwengane yabo, beqiniseka ukuthi banelungelo lokukhetha abangane kuphela. Uma uzama ukuthonya ingane yakho ekukhetheni abangane, kufanele ube ngu-100% oqinisekile ukuthi uqinisile. Ukulawula ngokweqile, ukuvinjelwa nokucindezela ngakwesokunene kwakho kungandisa ubuhlobo phakathi kwakho nomntanakho kuphela. Ngakho-ke, uzoba umbusi wesibindi, umzali oqinile, kodwa hhayi umngane wengane. Ngokwemvelo, akukho mbuzo wokuthembela esimweni esinjalo.

Ingane yakho kufanele nakanjani ibe nabangani, ngoba awufuni ukuthi ingane yakho ibe nomkhawulo ekukhulumisaneni. Ukuntuleka kokuxhumana nabangane bakho kudala izingqinamba, ukucindezeleka, ukuzihlukanisa, ikakhulukazi ngesikhathi sokuphila kwentsha.

Futhi, awudingi ukwahlulela abangane bakho ngengcebo yomndeni wakhe, ngoba izimfanelo ezingcono kakhulu zomuntu azitholakali izinga lemfundo nesimo sezimali. Ikakhulukazi ebuntwaneni, ukhetho lwabangani kulezi zindlela ezingenhla akuvumelekile. Uma kungenjalo, ingane kusukela ebuntwaneni buntfwana ikhuliswa ngobuhlakani kanye nesithakazelo.

Izwe liseduze - ukuxhumana nemvelo

Fundisa ingane yakho ukuthanda izwe elikuzungezile. Izingane yizo abacwaningi abakhulu kakhulu, njengoba bengakaze babone utshani nxazonke, bethinta i-butterfly, i-dandelion noma inhlama. Tshela ingane yakho konke owaziyo ngokwakho. Mnike izwe elinemibala yemvelo, iphunga nemisindo. Ngakho-ke, uzikhokhela wena nomntwana onemizwa emihle, unike injabulo nothando.

Ithonya lokukhulumisana ekuthuthukiseni ubuntu kunzima ukugcizelela. Njengoba kungabonakala kulokhu okushiwo ngaphambili, ukukhulumisana akugcini nje ukuxhumana nabanye. Okokuqala, ingane ifunda ngawe umhlaba omzungezile nokuthi yini oyinike yona iyohlwanyela okusanhlamvu kwekusasa lakhe elizayo. Xoxa nezingane zakho bese uhlwanyela okusanhlamvu okungcono kuphela, ngoba maduzane uzothola izinzuzo ...