Ngingenza kanjani umyeni wami aqale ukupheka? Kungenzeka ukuthi nguwe opheka wonke umndeni. Ngisho noma uthanda ukupheka, usadinga ukuhlukanisa imisebenzi. Amadoda angcono ekuphekeni, udinga nje ukuwazisa. Kanjani? Qala ngesicelo sokwenza is sandwich evamile. Uma udla, dumisa ithaleni lomyeni wakho futhi uthi awukaze udle isangweji elimnandi ngokwengeziwe empilweni yakho! Ezinsukwini ezimbalwa, mcele ukuthi apheke amaqanda aqhephukile ekuseni - ngokuqinisekile uzobhekana nalo. Dumisa leli qanda eliqhekekile ngesonto elilandelayo - bheka, lizoba yisidlo somqhele walo. Ukwenza ngale ndlela, kancane kancane uzofika ekutheni umthandi wakho uzothola ithalenta le-culinary. Le ndlela yokwandisa ukuzethemba isekelwe eqinisweni lokuthi abantu badunyiswa nsuku zonke. Akukho lutho olusishukumisela ukuba senze okuthile okungenani, njengokuqiniseka ukuthi senza okuhle nokuthi akekho ozokwenza kangcono kunathi. Ungamenza kanjani ukuhlanza? Ngokuqinisekile umuntu wakho ekuqaleni kokuphila ndawonye waphula isitsha, esula uthuli, ukuze uqiniseke ukuthi akufanele kuvunyelwe ukuhlanzwa. Ngaphezu kwalokho, wena ngokwakho ukwenze ngokushesha futhi kungcono. Ukuze ushintshe isimo esingenabulungisa sezinto, ukubekezela kuyadingeka. Ungadli futhi ungakhononda ukuthi kwezinye imindeni yonke into ihlukile. Mane nje - yeka ukuhlanza endlini. Ngokuqinisekile uye wajwayele ukuyala endlini, futhi manje uzobe engamangali ngokumangala. Bese utshela ukuthi mhlawumbe waqala ukuvuza othulini, ngoba uma uphuma, uguga ngokushesha. Mcele ukuthi ahlanze indlu yakho. Vala amehlo akho ku-vase ephukile, kodwa udumise kahle ukuthi umyeni wakho wenza konke.
Ungaqeqeshi ekhaya kuphela
Uma wesaba ukuthi ngeke ukwazi ukusebenzisa zonke izinyathelo ezincane kanye namacebo ngesikhathi esisodwa, sebenzisa nabangani. Kulokhu uzosizwa ngezincwadi ezaziwayo mayelana namasu okuphatha: uRobert Chapdini "I-Psychology of Influence" kanye ne "Indlela Yokuthonya Abantu" nguDale Carnegie. Lokhu kuziphatha kuwumgomo wesifazane obuthakathaka. Amadoda afana nokusiza futhi ngokuvamile enza lokho esibacela ukuba bakwenze. Kuphela lapha sinenkinga - asikwazi ukubuza, sikhetha ukwenza konke thina ngokwethu. Futhi lokhu kuyiphutha elikhulu. Ngemuva kokubuza indoda yakho ngisho ne-trifle, umtshele ukuthi uyamdinga. Amadoda afana nalesi sizwa kakhulu. Ubuciko ukubuza ngokuzithobayo, ngezwi eliphansi futhi kukutshela ukuthi ubuthakathaka kangakanani. Kholwa, kusebenza! Ungamenza kanjani avuke ebhedeni ngezimpelasonto bese uwachitha ngendlela oyifunayo? Ngosuku olufudumele lokushisa, uzojabula ukuhamba. Uhlela futhi ukulala embhedeni wonke uMgqibelo. Ungamkhipha kanjani endlini? Nansi indlela: mnikeze njengenye indlela yokuhamba into engaqiniseki ukuthi ayibangeli intshiseko. Isibonelo, bathi bamemela uMama ukuthi bamvakashele ngoMgqibelo noma ukuthi kuzodingeka ukuba aqede i-mezzanine. Lapho ubhekene nombono onjalo, noma yisiphi esinye isiphakamiso sizobonakala sikhangayo. Mnike isikhathi sokuba "esabe", bese esedlula, uthi, Yebo, kungaba ngcono ukushiya indlu elangeni, kunokuba ubaba emadongeni amane. Ngokuqinisekile uzogwinya ingwegwe futhi ugijimele ukuphambanisa amasondo emabhayisikili. Lena indlela ephumelela kakhulu kunesikhalazo esimisiwe se-izimangalo "asikho", "njalo". Kungani udinga ukulwa? Ukungezwani okuncane ebuhlotsheni, kungcono. Ungayenza kanjani, ekugcineni, ukulungisa ikampompi? Uma umyeni wakho engenazo izandla zegolide, futhi umcabango wokuthi konke okungazungeze indlu kungenziwa ngaphandle kwe-masters kubonakala sengathi uyinkohlakalo, unento eyodwa kuphela - ukumkhohlisa. Kudingeka sithole indlela yokuthi umyeni athathe isando kanye nesando isikhumba, owake wabuza kuye inyanga. Ungaphazamisi isimo sakho sengqondo ngesinye isihlamba. Ukusebenzisa kangcono umgomo wokuncintisana, obizwa nangokuthi isimiso sokubamba iqhaza. Akekho umuntu ongakwazi ukukhuthazela lokho eceleni kwakhe kukhona ongcono kunaye, owazi okuningi futhi uyazi kanjani.
Lokhu kusebenza kanjani ngokusebenza? Tshela umyeni wakho ukuthi uvele uhlangana nomakhelwane othembise ukungena kulobubusuku bese eqhuba isikhali. Noma enkampanini yabangani babuza ngalokhu kusuka komunye omaziyo. Kuzo zombili izimo, kusihlwa inkinga izoxazulula: umyeni uzokwenza konke ngokwakhe. Lesi simiso sisebenza njalo. Kodwa ngeke isetshenziswe uma kuqhathaniswa nomyeni kwabanye. Iphuzu akusiyo ukumhlambalaza, kodwa ukudala isimo somncintiswano onempilo. Futhi into eyodwa: dumisani umyeni wakho nganoma yikuphi, ngisho nesenzo esingelutho. Futhi akukhathaleki ukuthi ushaya i-nail ngephutha. Ungamenza kanjani agcine izwi lakhe? Wavume ukuthi umyeni wakho uzobiza ntambama futhi akutshele ukuthi uzobuya nini ekhaya. Ufuna ukwazi, ngoba upheka isidlo sakusihlwa. Kodwa akabizi futhi akabuyanga. Ubeka isidlo efrijini futhi, ulaka, ulale. Ngosuku olulandelayo uyamenza uhlazo, futhi uvikelwe yiwo wonke amaqiniso namahloni, uthi uyazinikela emndenini, esebenza kuze kube sekwephuzile ebusuku. Kungani ungabizanga? Ngikhohliwe, kwakungekho inethiwekhi, induna yayihlezi eceleni kwami, kungaba khona izizathu eziningi. Kodwa basho into eyodwa: akazange abonge imizamo yakho. Indlela yokubhekana nalokhu? Sebenzisa isimiso sokulingana, okungukuthi, "njengami kuwe, nami ngiya kuwe." Emasontweni ambalwa alandelayo, ungapheki nhlobo ukudla. Futhi emva kwezinsuku ezimbalwa, hlela ukuhlangana naye emva komsebenzi futhi uphuze isikhathi esingangehora. Yebo, uzokuhlambalaza. Ngakho-ke? Sebenzisa izimpikiswano zakhe!
Awazi ukuthi ungafuni kanjani noma ungafuni ukwenza lokhu, ngoba kubonakala ungakufaneleki? Kulesi simo, ulungiselele ukulala kwakhe okuphakade. Uzokuphatha njengomuntu ohlala njalo elinde futhi ebekezelela konke. Kodwa awufuni ukuzizwa sengathi uyisisulu. Umgomo wokulingana uzomnika ithuba lokuzizwa sengathi unesikhathi lapho engagcinanga isithembiso. Ngeke ayenze futhi, kodwa uzosifakazela kuso. Ungamenza kanjani ucingo uma ephuma ekhaya isikhathi eside? Umyeni wakho usesendleleni yebhizinisi. Wethembise ukuthi uzobiza, futhi nonke nilinde ucingo, kodwa ngeze. Akalingi izinsuku, futhi iselula yakhe ivaliwe. Ukhathazekile uma kwenzeka okuthile. Umyeni wakhe ubiza ngosuku olulandelayo, wamangala ukuthi ukhathazekile. Lesi simo sikuthukuthelisa. Ngesikhathi esilandelayo lapho ehamba, ungalindi ucingo lwakhe futhi ungaphenduli ucingo uma ebiza. Woza isikhathi sesine kuphela, uzibuza ukuthi kungani ekhathazekile. Ngitshele ukuthi unezinto eziningi ongayenza futhi wazikhohlwa ngokuphelele ngakho. Kuyoba okwanele ukuthi abize kaningi. Kungani? Okokuqala, isimiso sokulawula imvelo sisebenza lapha. Ngesikhathi lo muntu eqiniseka ukuthi ulinde ucingo lwakhe, uzobe ehudula isikhathi. Uma elahlekelwa ukuzethemba okunjalo, uzokubiza ngokushesha, ngokushesha nje lapho eqaphela ukuthi uyeke ukulinda. Esikhundleni sokukhathazeka, sebenzisa isikhathi sokuzinakekela wena. Masibe ikhanda lakhe, ukuthi uhambele kanjani. Ungayenza kanjani ukuthi uqale ukulahlekelwa isisindo futhi uzibuke? Amadoda ayengavamile, aqhathanisa nabo - ngokungafani nathi, awaphazamisi isisu. Futhi impikiswano yokuthi iyingozi empilweni, lokho kukhuluphala kungabangela isifo sikashukela, umfutho wegazi ophezulu, nokungabi namandla, indoda ayithathi ngokungathí sina. Yini okufanele uyenze, uma edla isidlo adla izinhlamvu ezine, bese elala phansi? Mtshele ngomuntu osebenza naye emsebenzini olahlekelwe isisindo futhi manje ubonakala ekhangayo. Sebenzisa futhi isimiso sokucindezela, okungukuthi, ukwandisa inani lakho emehlweni akhe. Kanjani? Ngosuku olulandelayo, zigqoke ngokugqamile kunokujwayelekile, futhi kusihlwa, khuluma ngesenzakalo esikhethekile esithinta wena nomngane wakho. Mtshele ukuthi uthanda amanye amadoda! Uma eqaphela lokhu, uzothatha isisindo ngokushesha.
Uma ufuna ukuthi kube, ngombono wakho. Uhlele ukuya eholidini nabangani, kodwa umyeni wakhe unezimpikiswano eziyinkulungwane zokwenqaba. Ungamqinisekisa kanjani? Sebenzisa isimiso sokuvumelana - ngenkathi ingxoxo iziphatha njengoye. Vele uhlale, nje ubambe izandla zakho, wenze ukufana okufanayo. Kulesi simo, i-interlocutor iqala ukukholelwa ukuthi ngaphambi kwakhe kukhona umuntu ocabanga njengoye. Kungcono ukuthi uhlale eceleni kweserofa - khona-ke ibanga eliphakathi kwakho lizoba ngaphansi uma uhlala uhlangene etafuleni. Phakathi nengxoxo, faka isandla ehlombe lakhe, uthinte izandla bese ubheka amehlo akhe. Sebenzisa lezi zinkulumo: "Ngikuqonda kahle," "Ngiyavuma ngokugcwele nawe," "Ngicabanga okufana nawe", bese ufaka ngokucophelela "kodwa ..." bese uhambisa izingxabano zakho. Ingxoxo enjalo izophela ngokunqoba kwakho!