Ubuhlobo phakathi komfana nentombazane: izikhathi ezinzima

Ubudlelwane nomfana - kuwumsebenzi onzima, ngezinye izikhathi wezinto zokugqoka, akudingi nje ukubekezela, uthando nokufudumala kuphela, kodwa nokuqina nokubekezela. Futhi konke ngenxa yokuthi sonke sihlukile, futhi ngezinye izikhathi sihlala nemingcele yomuntu okwenzekayo oh, kunzima kangakanani. Kodwa lapha usuvele unamakhadi ezandleni: uma ucabanga ukuthi kuyakudingeka ukuhlupheka futhi wenze imizamo ngenxa yobuhlobo, khona-ke konke kuzokukusiza. Isihloko esithi "Ubudlelwano phakathi kwendoda nentombazane: izikhathi ezilukhuni" kuzoqokomisa izinkinga ezithandwa kakhulu ezivela emibhangqwaneni emisha, lapho sizozama ukunikeza izincomo ezizosiza ukugwema lezi zikhathi, noma ukuphuma kuzo, ezithwale ukulahlekelwa okuncane.

Noma yikuphi umbhangqwana ongcono ongazange ube nawo, nokho ebuhlotsheni phakathi komfana nentombazane, izikhathi ezinzima zenzeka kuwo wonke umuntu. Kubonakala sengathi: konke kulungile kuwe, akukho ukuphikisana nokukhalaza okwake kwavela, kodwa kungazelelwe kwavunguza isiphepho. Ake sithi ngaso leso sikhathi: ngakho konke konke okukodwa konke kuphefumula futhi kuqhume, akukaze kwenzeke. Cishe, wena kanye nomfana ubeke ezinye izihlamba ngaphakathi kwakho, ukuze ungalimazi ubuhlobo bokuqala. Kodwa-ke, akunakwenzeka ukugcina intukuthelo isikhathi eside, ngezinye izikhathi iyaphuma emva kwesinye isiqu. Futhi ukukhwabanisa okukhulu kuphuma, okushiya uphawu olubi ebuhlotsheni phakathi komfana nentombazane. Ukuthungela kungumkhiqizo wokungathembeki okuthula. Kunzima, yebo, ukuthembela umuntu ongamazi uma nje ungathanda. Kodwa uma uthatha isinqumo ngobuhlobo obunzima ngempela, khona-ke kufanele nje ubonise okungenani ubuncane bokuzethemba kumlingani wakho, ngaphandle kwalokho uzothola umbono wokuthi uyawuhlola njalo uphinde ulawule. Futhi enjalo, ngikholelwa, ngingathandi muntu. Yebo kukhona indoda: owesifazane, naye, akanakwenzeka ukubekezelela ukungathembeki njalo. Ngakho-ke, funda ukwethemba abathandekayo bakho, kunoma yikuphi, baze (ngokuzumayo) bakhombise ukuthi abakwazi ukwethenjwa. Kodwa-ke, cishe, ubuhlobo buzophela.

Ngokuvamile, umbhangqwana osemusha kunzima ukuphikisana uma kuziwa ngesikhathi sokuhlanganyela. Ngokuyinhloko, ingxabano ingavela mayelana nabangane bakho nesoka lakho. Ake sithi ufuna ukuhlala e-cafe nezintombi zakho kanye nomfana, uphuze itiye futhi uxoxe ngezinto ezibalulekile futhi ezithakazelisayo. Futhi lo mfana uzama ukukuvimbela kulezi ziphukuphuku, ngokubona kwakhe, ukuhambela, ukumema abangani bakhe, ukuthenga ubhiya nezinhlanzi futhi kusihlwa ubheke iqoqo legolide lebhola lezwe. Ngendlela, awuthandi ibhola kusukela ebuntwaneni. Ngakho-ke, wena, kanye nakho konke, ungamelana namasu omuntu wakho. Kuthiwani lokhu okungenzeka? Yebo, akukho okuhle. Ngenxa yokungaboni ngaso linye, wonke umuntu uzohlala enombono wakhe, futhi ngenxa yalokho, uzochitha konke kusihlwa ku-TV ngaphandle kokuxoxa. Kodwa kwaba mnandi kakhulu ukuchitha isikhathi! Kodwa abatholanga ukuyekethisa.

Nakuba kukhona ngisho nambalwa. Owokuqala kubo: namhlanje uyahamba ngezintombi zakho ku-cafe lapho ukhishwe khona ekuseni. Futhi isoka lakho kanye nabalingani bakhe bayojabulela inkampani yamadoda kanye nebhola ngebhiya. Ngeke ubuyele ekhaya sekwephuzile, kodwa abafana bazoqedela umbukiso, wena nomfana uzogcwala imizwelo emihle, nihlanganyele ngezikhathi ezimnandi zokuhlwa, futhi, nijabule, nilale. Ukhetho lwesibili: uzokwenza isimiso esingavamile sokuhamba nabangani bakhe kanye nezintombi zakho. Ake sithi namuhla uchitha ubusuku nabangani bakhe, futhi kusasa uya ukulima emigwaqweni ngeyakho. Eqinisweni, ngokusemthethweni, udinga ukuhlela izikhathi eziningi ngangokunokwenzeka ezimbili. Ngaphezu kwalokho, kunconywa ukuthi usungula okuthile okuthakazelisayo: tshela, uya enkampanini, ku-ice rink noma ku-cafe kuphela. Futhi-ke ngokuhamba okujwayelekile uzoyeka ukuchitha isikhathi sodwa ndawonye.

Omunye umzuzu onzima ongahlala endleleni yobuhlobo obungabambisani nokuhlukunyezwa yi-hterogeneity yezintshisekelo zakho. Ake sithi isoka lakho lithanda ukuphumula okusebenzayo: ungamniki isinkwa, menze nje enze okuthile okuthakazelisayo nokwedlulele. Namuhla uyakudonsela ukuba uhambe-kart, kusasa - ukukhothaza, ke-ukuzuma kusuka kwibhuloho. Futhi konke lokhu kubangela ukwesaba nokwesaba kuphela. Ujwayele ukuhlezi ekhaya kusihlwa, ukuze uthole ukukhululeka ku-cafe. Ngokuthandayo, usukhulile isikhathi eside futhi uhlotshiswe kahle, futhi ungadonseli ekuzilibazisekeni nokuzijabulisa. Ngenxa yalokho, ekuqaleni kobudlelwane, wena, ngamazinyo akho, hamba othandekayo wakho lapho efuna ukuya khona. Bheka ukuthi ubamba iqhaza kanjani emincintiswaneni eyingozi yokuhamba ngebhayisikili, ngenhliziyo echotshozayo, ubukele njengoba ephuma ebhuloho, elandelwa eqenjini elincane le-raber. Futhi awukwazi ukubamba ukukhala lapho ethatha lesi sinyathelo singena ku-40-meter swalasha. Kodwa maduze awukwazi ukuzithiba futhi ukhulume ngokucacile kumfana ukuthi ukuzijabulisa okunjalo akukona ngawe. Futhi-ke, uyambonisa ukuthi ubamba izinwele ezavela phakathi nemihlangano naye. Khona-ke le ndoda ikuzwela isikhashana futhi ilalela eduze kwakho, ibheke indlela obopha ngayo inqama yesikhombisa ebusika. Kodwa lokhu akukwazi ukuqhubeka isikhathi eside - kungekudala kuyoba khona ukuxabana, okushiwo ukuthi awukwazi nje ukukwenza ndawonye, ​​ukuthi uhlukile kakhulu. Ngokuvamile abantu abakwazi ukuzilungisa kabusha ngokushesha futhi bathole phakathi kokuzilibazisa komlingani wabo into ezojabulisa yena naye. Labo abaphumelela kulo bangasho ukuthi banenhlanhla: baqala ukuhileleka ezintweni ezilodwa, ukuya eminye imisebenzi ngenjabulo futhi bakhulume ngawo ngamahora. Eminye imibhangqwana cishe cishe ihluleka njalo.

Kunamaphuzu ambalwa angaphazamisa ukuphila kombhangqwana osemusha. Isibonelo, lobu buhlobo nabangaphambili. Ngezinye izikhathi kuvela ukuthi abanye bobabili banokuxhumana okuhle kakhulu nabangaphambili. Bangakwazi ngisho nokuhlangana e-cafe ihora noma amabili, bexoxa futhi baphuze ikhofi. Akumangazi ukuthi lesi simo sezwe asivumelekile nakwezinye izingxenye futhi kubangele umhawu omkhulu. Kuphi "isigamu" sokuqala esisabela esithukuthele: "Ngeke ngiyeke ukuxhumana nabo. Bangabantu abalungile kakhulu! ". Kodwa lapha kudingeka uzame ukuqonda umlingani wakho bese uzibeka endaweni yakhe. Ungathanda yini ukuba nesimo esifanayo, uhlale ekhaya bese ulindela lo mfana kusuka e-cafe, lapho ehleka khona ngokuthula ne-ex-girl? Nansi impendulo yentukuthelo yakho, kungcono ukuphula zonke izibopho zakudala bese uqala ukuphila impilo entsha.

Phakathi kwezizathu. Kubangela ukungqubuzana phakathi kwebhangqa, kungase kube nokuhlelwa okunye, njengemali, ukubukeka komlingani wakho (cishe mhlawumbe ngesikhathi esisodwa empilweni yakho wacabanga ukuthi uzoba ngcono kangcono, futhi akufanelekile ukuba ugqoke, kodwa umfana ukungaguquguquki ekukhethweni kwakhe), ubudlelwane nomndeni ... Kungani besiwabiza ngokuthi "amancane"? Ngoba isilinganiso sabo asibalulekile ngempela. Uma uthanda isoka lakho, uzofunda ukuthola ukuyekethisa nesithunzi ukuze uphume ezimweni ezinzima zokuphila. Futhi impilo yakho izogcwala imizwelo emihle kanye nenjabulo engavinjelwe!