Ngingahlanganyela kanjani nomfana ngaphandle kwezinkinga?

Ngingahlanganyela kanjani nomfana ngaphandle kwezinkinga? Ngalo mbuzo, mhlawumbe, kwakukhona zonke izintombi ekuphileni kwakhe. Ngokuvamile, le nkinga ikhula ekukhuleni, lapho, ngokwezazi ze-psychologists, kusengumqondo wezinsana wokuthandana nokuthanda.

Le mizwa iphela ngokushesha, futhi ikakhulukazi emantombazaneni, ngenxa yokukhula kwayo ngokushesha. Amadodana adlulisa kakhulu. Uma intombazane izama ukulahla imizwa yendodana ethile, lo mdlali uqala ukusongela, athembisa ukuzibulala, noma ngisho nakakhulu, asebenzise ubudlova obhekane nentombazane. Lokhu kuziphatha kuyimbangela engokwemvelo yokwesaba phakathi kwezocansi eziningi ezihle kakhulu. Ngakho-ke, kubaluleke kakhulu ukukhetha amacebo ngenxa yokungavumelani, okuzophephile, kodwa akuzona zonke izintombi ezikwazi ukuhlukanisa namadoda ngaphandle kwezinkinga. Lapha ungakwazi ngisho nokudinga ukufaka i-psychology.

Umfana uthatha inqubo yokuhlukanisa, eqaliswe yintombazane, ngenxa yesigodi sakhe sesilisa. Njalo ilungu lezocansi ezinamandla, kusukela endaweni yokubuka kwengqondo, lingumbusi, umdali nomnikazi, okusho ukuthi akumukelekile ukuba akholelwe ukuthi isinqumo sokuqeda ubuhlobo sithathwe ngumuntu, futhi lona uyintombazane. Ukuhlanganyela nabafana kungaba kalula futhi ngaphandle kwezinkinga, udinga nje ukufaka owesifazane ojwayelekile "ngobuqili". Okokuqala, kubaluleke kakhulu ukulungisa umuntu osemusha ngokungahambisani okuzayo. Kungcono ukubeka ingcindezi kulokho abantu abaningi abangathandi. Ukwehliswa okwengeziwe, izicelo ezikhuthazayo zokuziqaphela ngokwengeziwe. Indlela engcono kakhulu ukuvame ukuhamba nomfana wakho ukuvakashela abangane. Kukhona ithuba elihle lokuthi imvelo yowesifazane njalo futhi eqinile iyokwenza nje umfana akhole kuwe. Okwesibili, ku-8 amacala angu-10 kulo mzamo uphumelele, ukumema lo mfana ukuba azi kahle umama wakhe. Njengomthetho, ku-psychology yamadoda, lokhu kubangela ukwesaba, ngoba bahlangane ngomshado oseduze. Okwamanje, wonke umuntu uye wazi isikhathi eside ukuthi abafana abafuni ukulahlekelwa inkululeko yabo.

Kungakhathaliseki ukuthi azama ukuhlukana nobuhlobo, insizwa ivele isinikeze lesi sixazululo, njengoba ithi "ngokuqondile ebunzini." Lokhu kungakha isimo esingalindelekile. I-Psychology guy, ingahluka, kusukela ekusetshenzisweni kobudlova ekuqondeni kwakho, ekuthambekeni kokuzibulala. Lokhu kuboniswa izibalo. Ngesitatimende esiqondile sesinqumo sakho sokuqeda konke ubuhlobo, ngeke ukwazi ukuphuma ngaphandle kwenkinga ngaphandle kwezinkinga. Uma, noma kunjalo, sekuyisikhathi sokusheshisa ukushiya umfana ngokuphuthumayo, khona-ke kukhona izinketho eziningi zokwenza ngaphandle kwenkinga enkulu, kodwa impumelelo yabo izoba ngezindlela eziningi ingalindelekile. Indlela yokuqala iphakamisa ukuqala ingxoxo mayelana nengane, (hhayi ukuthi ukhulelwe). Njengomthetho, ezimweni eziningi, abantu abasha bayosheshe baqaliswe yingqinamba yokuzivikela yezinyathelo zokuvimbela ukuxhumana okuqhubekayo nawe. Ungashiya enye indlela, uma uqiniseka ngokuphelele ukuthi umuntu onokwethenjelwa ngokomqondo, ungamtshela, njengoba kunjalo, iqiniso. Isikhulu esilindele kuwe, lezi zimibuzo ngesitayela esithi "ngani?" Futhi "yini engalungile?". Okubaluleke kakhulu, ungamtsheli ukuthi unomunye uthando empilweni yakho, ngisho noma kuyiqiniso. Ukuqashelwa okunjalo kungakusiza kaningi ukuvutha intukuthelo nokuzihlonipha, okungekho okudingayo.

"Ukuzibandakanya nomfana kumele kube kuhle, ngokumomotheka okulula nokukhumbula okujabulisayo kwakho" - uma uCoco Chanel esho. Leli qiniso alilona elihle ukuthatha ngokoqobo. Ukuyingxenye akusho ukulimaza - lokhu akude nesinyathelo sowesifazane. Ingxenye nomfana futhi ungahlala ubungani, into esemqoka ukukwenza kahle!