Esikhathini sethu akusisetshenziselwa ukushada kwasekuqaleni, kuphela ukuphothula iziqu esikhungweni noma kungabi nesikhathi sokungena kuso. Amantombazane yanamuhla ahluke ngenhloso yokuzikhethela nokuzimela. Futhi ngaphambi kokuba bashade, bafuna ukuziphilisa kakhulu, bathole imfundo ephakeme, benze umsebenzi, bahlinzekele impilo futhi basuse izinkinga zemali, okushoyo, bahlale bezinyawo zabo. Futhi ekuhlangabezaneni lokho kuphela ukunakekelwa ngothando kuphela, hhayi ngokuphila. Kodwa wonke umuntu unokuphila kwakhe kanye neqiniso, ubuhlobo bakhe nemibono empilweni. Ukufana kuwukuphela komuntu, ukuthi zonke izintombazane zifuna ukwenza ubuhlobo ubuqiniso.
Ukuzijwayeza kusikisela ukuthi emva komshado kungcono ukuhlala ngokwahlukana nabazali. Endlini kufanele kube nenkosikazi eyodwa kuphela, futhi endlini yabazali bomyeni inkosikazi izohlala njalo ngumkhwekazi. Futhi, mayelana nokuhlala kanye noninazala akukho okumele ukukusho akudingekile, ngoba akusizi ngalutho ukuthi amazwi amaningi kanye nama-anecdotes asungulwe mayelana nobuhlobo phakathi komkhwenyana nomkhwekazi wami. Ebudlelwaneni bomndeni osemusha, akufanele uphazamise nabanye abantu, ngisho nalabo abaseduze kakhulu. Ngepharadesi enhle nasendlini, futhi indawo yokuhlala ehlukile ngisho nasendlini encane izokwenza ukuphila komndeni kube ngcono.
Kubalulekile ukuba ulungele ukuthi impilo emva komshado ishintshe futhi kakhulu. Isikhathi se-candy-bouquet sasiholela emgomweni wayo onengqondo, le ntombazane yanqotshwa futhi maduzane iyoba umfazi. Manje intombazane inemithwalo eyengeziwe: ukudala induduzo endlini, ukugcina ukuhlanzeka, ukupheka. Ngemuva komshado, amantombazane anaso isikhathi esincane sokuba nawo, emihlanganweni nabangani nokuzijabulisa. Le ndoda ayinaki kakhulu njengalesi sikhathi sokuthandana. Uyazi ukuthi uyinqola yakhe eyinqobe neyomthetho. Kusemagabeni okuqala okuhlala ndawonye bese uqala ukungqubuzana nodaba lwasekhaya. Ngenxa yalesi sizathu, umshado womphakathi, ukuphila okuhlanganyelwe ngaphandle kokugunyaza ubudlelwane ubukhulu kangaka namuhla. Umshado womshado uvumela ukuthi wazi kangcono, ukuze ujwayele ukuthandana ekuphileni kwansuku zonke.
Kodwa ungesabi. Okokuqala, impilo emva komshado incike kubo bobabili bomshado. Ukuphila komndeni kuwumsebenzi omkhulu. Futhi iyoba isimiso noma cha - itholakala kuphela kulabo abashadile. Ukuphila emva komshado akusekelwe kuphela kodwa hhayi kakhulu kulolu thando, njengokungathinteki kokubili, ikhono lokulalela ingxenye yakho futhi uzwe lokho okutshelwa ngakho, hhayi lokho ofuna ukukuzwa. Kubaluleke kakhulu ukuba intombazane ingavumi ekuthuthukisweni kwayo. Ngokuvamile ngemva kokushada, amantombazane azinikela kuphela kumlingani, eqondisa zonke izintshisekelo zabo kanye nezifiso zabo kuphela. Kodwa empeleni umyeni wakho ukhulile akuthandi ukuthi wena unkosikazi omuhle nomgcini wendawo. Wabona kuwe umuntu othakazelisayo ngezwe lakhe kanye nezithakazelo. Ukuhlakanipha kowesifazane kungukuthi, emva kokushada, ukuhlanganisa ukunakekela umyeni wakhe ngokuziqaphela yena ngokwakhe, ngokuzikhandla ekuthuthukiseni kwakhe ngokomzimba nangokwengqondo.
Ukuphila emva komshado kuwukuphela kokuhlukile. Kodwa ukuthi kuyoba yini, okuhle noma kubi, kuxhomeke kuwe. Into eyinhloko okufanele uyikhumbule ukuthi uthando lwakho ludinga ukusekelwa ukuhlonipha, ukuxoxisana kwezinkinga, ukungahambisani nalokho okuthandayo. Khumbula inkulumo eyaziwa kakhulu: "Indoda iyinhloko, futhi umfazi uyintamo". Owesifazane kumele abe ohlakaniphile futhi onamandla, ngoba konke kusezandleni zakhe futhi akufanele kunciphise!