Ngokwemvelo, lesi simo siyamukeleka kuphela njengemidlalo edlalwa indima, ngokuvamile evame ukuba nobulili. Ngempela, kunezimo lapho ebuhlotsheni owesifazane engowesifazane, indoda iyisigqila. Kulesi simo, abafana abanamaphutha noma abanothando kakhulu. Bayekezela, njengoba befuna, bakhala ngezindophi futhi baphoqeleka ukwenza konke intombazane efuna nje. Abesifazane abaphendulela amadoda abo ukuba babe yizigqila badutshulwa abazenzisi abangenangqondo abasebenzisa iqiniso lokuthi ekuphileni konke kwenzeka njalo ngendlela abayifunayo ngayo. Ngokuvamile, lamantombazane yiwona kuphela abantwana emndenini. Ngaphansi kwethonya kunoma yiziphi izici, abazali babo basebenzisa ukuphila kwabo bexosha izinhlayiya zothuli kubo, bathi bangcono kakhulu, bafeze zonke izinto futhi bangalokothi banqabe noma yini. Lokhu kuholele ekutheni amantombazane aphendukela kubafazi abangenangqondo abayazi ukuthi kukhona umbono wabo nokungalungile kuphela. Ngokuvamile, azikho abangane bangempela abazungezile. Bazibutha izinceku ezizihloniphayo futhi zenze yonke imiyalo ngokungazelelwe. Uma othile ezama ukuveza umbono wakhe, ngokushesha uqala ukuhlambalaza futhi lo muntu angabeki eceleni enkampanini noma acabange ngesinye isijeziso sokuziphatha. Abesifazane abanjalo bavame ukukhula emindenini ecebile, kodwa kukhona amacala lapho abesifazane abanjalo behlala nabazali abanomholo ophansi kakhulu.
Kunzima ukusho ukuthi kungani amadoda ethandana futhi ubambelele kumantombazane anjalo. Bonke baqonda ngokugcwele ukuthi bangaphansi komuntu ohlambalazayo, kodwa baqhubeka bezitholela. Kungenzeka ukuthi kuyindaba yobuhle, ngoba amantombazane anjalo avame ukubukeka kahle. Ngaphezu kwalokho, ngenxa yokuthi bonke abantu abaseduze bayabasebenzela, bangakwazi ukuhlinzeka ukunakekelwa kakhudlwana kwesikhumba sabo noboya bezinwele, beya kuma-spa salons, ukuqina, ukuphumula kwamanye amazwe, ukugqoka izingubo nezimonyo. Uma owesifazane onjalo esebenza, usahlala yonke imali kuphela. Ngokuvamile, laba besifazane abanazo izingane, futhi uma ngabe umntwana, cishe akasakhathazeki umama. Lokhu kuye njengekati noma inja ongayidlala, futhi uma uqala ukuthukuthela, vele uguqe amadolo akho. Emikhaya enjalo, izingane zikhuliswa nguyise. Empeleni, usebenza nezinye izinkinga zasemakhaya. La madoda angamakhaya angempela. Balungiselela ukudla, bahlanze izitsha, insimbi, bahlambuluke, bahlanzekile, basize izingane ngezifundo futhi balethe ukudla kwabo kwasekuseni, ukudla kwasemini kanye nokudla kwabesifazane babo. Futhi lona wesifazane uzinikezele yena ngokwakhe, uhambisa umagazini noma ubukele i-TV. Lapho izingane zikhula futhi ziqala ukufuna ukugcwaliseka kwazo. Futhi, uma ingane ivukela, izingxabano ezimbi nezisulu ziqala endlini. Ngeshwa, owesifazane onjalo akanakwenzeka ukushintsha futhi uma indoda ikhetha owesifazane ofanayo, ubhalisela isiphetho sesigqila.
Yiqiniso, isimo esichazwe ngenhla sibi kakhulu futhi singavamile. Ubuhlobo obunjalo buyiphutha futhi bulethela wonke amalungu emndenini ukuhlupheka, ngaphandle kwenkosikazi ngokwakhe. Ngenxa yabesifazane abanjalo, abantwana bakhuthele kakhulu (ikakhulukazi abafana). Bamukela imodeli yomndeni wabo njengabo kuphela abakhona futhi, ngenxa yalokho, banqabe ngokuphelele uthando, ukuze bangaba yizigqila ezifanayo nobaba. Ngaphezu kwalokho, kunzima kakhulu ukuba babone uthando lwabesifazane nokukhathalela. Bayaqaphela kakhulu ngalokhu futhi isikhathi eside nje bengamethembi. Kuthatha isikhathi eside kakhulu ukusiza insizwa enjalo ukuba ikholelwe ukuthi kunemizwa evamile emhlabeni hhayi bonke abesifazane abasebenzisa amadoda abo. Empeleni, kukhona labo abangekho emphefumulweni othandekayo futhi balungele ukumsiza kuzo zonke izimo zokuphila.
Kodwa, uma ungathathi isimo sezinto zokuphila, isifiso sokuba yintombazane singasuka kuwesifazane kuphela ngomqondo osuselwe emthini. Ngezinye izikhathi owesifazane ufuna ukulawula. Khombisa insizwa yakho. Futhi akuyona njalo nge-BDSM, nakuba lokhu, kunjalo, futhi. Eqinisweni, abesifazane abaningi abangakhokhisi ngokwanele abafana ngenxa yezimo ezithile, kunesifiso sokugcina umuntu eseduze. Kungase kube nemicabango yokuthi kuyoba kuhle kanjani ukuyihlanganisa nge-handcuffs yebhethri ukuze akwazi ukuya noma kuphi futhi wayekade eseduze. Yiqiniso, wayengeke amcasule, wayezohlala edla izitsha ezithandekayo nezithandayo kakhulu, wazinya izinwele zakhe, wazinya izinwele zakhe, wamgqoka kahle. Kungenzeka ngisho, mhlawumbe, vumela ikhompyutha yakho ethandekayo. Yiqiniso, kusengaphambili, kuzodingeka kuvimbele amasayithi lapho angakwazi khona ukuxhumana nomhlaba wangaphandle futhi acele usizo ekuphunyukeni. Inceku yakhe ethandekayo, wayengasoze ahlukumeze, akazange abulale futhi angacasuli. Ungagcwalisa noma yikuphi ukushaywa kwakhe, uma nje eseduze, wayehlala eduze kwebhethri futhi angamshiyi yedwa.
Yiqiniso, imicabango enjalo ibhekene nokudabuka, kodwa, ngokuyisisekelo, akukho lutho olungavamile kubo uma intombazane ingaqali ukuyicabanga ngokujulile futhi yakha izinhlelo zokubanjwa. Ezimweni ezinjalo, leli cala selivele lihlaba iphunga lokungalingani kwengqondo futhi le nkosikazi idinga ukushayela imicabango ngaleyo ndlela noma ukuya kudokotela kumqondo wezifo zengqondo.
Owesifazane uyindoda, indoda iyisigqila, lena ingenye yezintandokazi zezinsikazi zokudlala imidlalo yokudlala. Ngezinye izikhathi owesifazane ufuna ukuqina, ukubusa nokubusa. Ngezinye izikhathi, kukhona ngisho nesifiso sokwenza umuntu aphuke, empeleni, emingceleni elinganisiwe. Yilezi zifiso ezibonakaliswa lapho owesifazane ehlinzeka ngomuntu we-BDSM. Napha futhi, amasosha, amabhethri nezinye izinto eziningi ezihlobene ne-BDSM ziyahamba. Kodwa konke lokhu, okuyiqiniso, kumnandi. Eqinisweni, intombazane enothando ngeke isenze isoka lakhe lilimale ngempela. Kodwa ufanisa isijeziso ngenjabulo. Mhlawumbe ngale ndlela sibheka isimiso sethu sesilisa, ngezinga elithile sizibophezele futhi sijezise amadoda ethu abathandekayo kancane ngamaphutha abo kanye nokungafaneleki kithi.