Phela, ngokuvamile iningi lethu likhula kuqala emndenini owadalwa ngabazali, bese udala owakhe, futhi ngokushesha ungaba yingxenye yemindeni yezingane zabo. Kuningi okulotshiwe mayelana nendlela yokwakha ubudlelwane bomndeni ngokufanele futhi senze isimo sezulu ngokomzwelo. Kuyadabukisa ukuthi lezi zifundo zabachwepheshe bezengqondo zesazi zezenzo azijwayele ukusebenza, ezimweni eziningi zijwayelekile. Yiqiniso, abachwepheshe bezengqondo ezifanayo bangasiza ekusunguleni impilo nokudala isimo sokuqonda okufanayo, kodwa kuphela emakilasini abo kanye nokuqeqesha, emva kokukwazi, nokuqonda okudingayo kuqala. Kodwa, ngeshwa, abantu bakithi abasetshenziselwa ukujwayela kwengqondo, futhi bavame ukufaka isicelo sosizo kumchwepheshe olingana nokugula kwengqondo. Mhlawumbe, yingakho abakwa-psychologists bavame ukubizwa ngokuthi "izingqondo zokucabanga".
Kodwa ngezinye izikhathi kulula ukubeka imicabango ngokuhlelekile, futhi ukuwahambisa esiteshini esidingekayo akwanele, ngoba inkinga yomndeni ijulile kunokuba ibonakale ekuqaleni. Izinkinga zivame ukuvela lapho abashadile beqala ukusabalalisa imithwalo yemfanelo, kanye nokubeka indawo yendoda nendawo yowesifazane emndenini.
Ama-stereotypes.
Ukuphila kwethu konke kuyisimo esikhulu esisodwa, esisekelwe enkambeni yokwenza izinqumo mayelana nokusebenza kwezenzo kanye nokungaqondakali kahle, futhi ngokujwayelekile ukugxeka kokucabanga kuyisici sabantu abaningi emhlabeni. Kwenzeke emakhulwini eminyaka ukuthi kufanele sithembele emibonweni yabanye, sicabange izifiso zabo namathuba abo. Futhi akukho lutho ongakwenza ngalo, iqiniso lokuthi siphila emphakathini udlala indima enkulu. Phela, kukhona abantu abangeke banandaba nombono womphakathi, bakha imithetho yabo kanye nemithethonqubo futhi baphile ngazo. Kodwa ngokuvamile ziyabonakala emphakathini njengezikhwama. Ngeke nje ube khona ngesikhathi esifanayo nesixuku nangokumelene nesixuku. Okuphoqelelwe ukukhetha.
Ukulingana kokucabanga kubonakala ngokukhethekile ebuhlotsheni bomndeni, noma kunalokho ukwakhiwa kwabo. Inqubo yokuphatha impilo yansuku zonke, ukucacisa amalungelo kanye nemisebenzi yabashadile, indawo yowesifazane emndenini ushintsho ngesilinganiso esincane kakhulu, ngezinye izikhathi, asikwazi ukusila.
Ikakhulukazi iphathelene nokuhlukaniswa kwemithwalo yemfanelo phakathi kwabashade. Ngakho, ngokuvamile ungabona lokhu okulandelayo: owesifazane - impilo, indoda - impilo yokuphila. Ngisho noma uhlola umsebenzi wesikole ukuthi i-monotony yayo iwukuntuleka kokuxhumana futhi ngezinye izikhathi akuyona into eqinile kakhulu, khona-ke lokhu kusatshalaliswa kuhlukile futhi ufuna ukukubiza ngokungalingani. Ngesikhathi esifanayo, uma indawo yabesifazane emndenini inqunyelwe kuphela imisebenzi, ukushada komyeni akufanele, owesifazane wesimanje uzovuma lokho.
Ngokujwayelekile abesifazane bavame ukuzibeka endaweni yabafundisi endlini. Ngempela, unina, ugogo wakhe, mhlawumbe nezinye izihlobo. Ekubuntwaneni sasikubona lokhu njengokubonakaliswa okufaneleko kokunakekelwa nothando evela kumama, kodwa ngokukhula kwethu saqonda ukuthi kungaba okuhluke ngokuphelele.
Owesifazane ungumdlali we-actress.
Indima yabesifazane emndenini, inezinhlobonhlobo eziningi, ezenza kahle. Ukusebenza okungokoqobo kwezigcawu ezithile zokuphila kungaba nomona ngisho nezitayela ezinamakhono kakhulu. Kodwa ngokuvamile konke okwenziwa owesifazane, wenza ngomphefumulo nangenhliziyo ehlanzekile. Ngaphandle kokulindela noma iyiphi inzuzo ngokwabo, yebo, uma ikhathalela umndeni wakhe kuphela.
Ngakho-ke, uma ufingqa zonke izinyathelo zomndeni wesifazane, ungazihlanganisa ngezikhundla ezithile. Ngakho-ke, okokuqala owesifazane wenza njengomfazi, othandekayo nothando nokukhathalela. Futhi ngokubheka izibopho zezindima ezihlosiwe zendodakazikazi endlini. Ukuze uphathe impilo, qaphela ukuthi konke okusemakhaya kwakudingeka konke, cabangela zonke izidingo futhi usakaze isabelomali somndeni njengoba kuvela, kungokwowesifazane kuphela. Ungakhohlwa ngezidingo zomyeni wakhe othandweni nomzwelo, ukuze ebusuku owesifazane kufanele abe inkosikazi enamandla.
Ngokuhamba kwesikhathi, uqala ukuhlanganisa indima yowesifazane ngendima yomama. Nakuba ukukhathazeka nezinkinga ziphindwe kabili, ngokuvamile inkathazo enjalo kumfazi injabulo nje. Ngokufika kwengane kanye nokwethulwa kwalona wesifazane engxenyeni yomama, yena, ngaphandle kokuhlala nomfazi, inkosikazi nenkosikazi, naye uzama indima yomfundisi. Phela, nakuba izingane zikhuliswa ngabazali bobabili, umama uhlala esondelene nengane ngaso sonke isikhathi, futhi upapa uba yinto yokulalela ngokungenakuphikiswa. Kodwa kuphela ukukhulisa izingane akwanele, kumele futhi bafundiswe, bathuthukise kubo isifiso sokwazi. Ngokuvamile kusukela eminyakeni yokuqala yokuphila kwethu, ingane iyaqiniseka ukuthi umama uyazi konke. Ngakho-ke, singasho ngokuphepha ukuthi owesifazane naye udlala indima yothisha. Futhi ngokuqhubekayo ukugcwalisa zonke izibopho zangaphambilini, lo wesifazane uphinde abe umeluleki, isazi sengqondo sekhaya, udokotela, umfundisi, futhi kamuva ugogo.
Uma ubheka konke lokhu kusuka ngaphandle, kubonakala sengathi inhlanganisela enjalo ayinakwenzeka. Kodwa empeleni, ngibheka owesifazane ovamile, siyaqonda ukuthi isimangaliso sisaphila.
Owesifazane kufanele azi indawo yakhe.
Naphezu kokusebenza kwayo okuningi emndenini, abesifazane abavame ukuhlala bengalingani. Futhi umuntu uyozibheka njengomuntu ophezulu naphesheya kowesifazane. Ngakho incazelo yokuthi indoda ihlale ilungile, ukuthi umfazi akufanele aphazamise lapho abantu besho, nokuthi indawo yowesifazane ekhishini. Ngisho noma ucabanga ukuthi yini abantu abangayenza ngaphandle kwabesifazane?
Ngakho uphi ngempela owesifazane? Uma ulandela imifanekiso engokwenkolo, indawo yowesifazane ayikho phambi komuntu - ukuthi angeke athathe zonke izinkinga kuye, hhayi ngemuva kwalowo muntu - ongazange akhohliswe, indawo yowesifazane eduze komuntu, kusukela enhliziyweni yakhe - ezohlala izwa ukuvikelwa kwesandla sakhe esinamandla , nothando oluvela enhliziyweni. Futhi ngala mazwi kunzima ukungavumelani.
Ngakho-ke, abesifazane abathandekayo bathatha indawo yakho efanele eduze komyeni wakho othandekayo, futhi ungazitholi icala. Ngempela, ngubani, uma kungenjalo, kufanele afaneleke kuphela?