Indlela yokubhekana nemizwa yakho emibi

Abaningi bethu banabantwana, ngakho-ke besivame ukuzibuza ukuthi "Singabhekana kanjani nemizwelo yethu emibi kanye nemizwelo yengane?" Ngokuvamile sikhathazekile, futhi izizathu zalezi zimo zingaba yizinto, isibonelo, izinkinga emsebenzini noma ukwehluleka empilweni yomuntu siqu. Njengoba usuxazulule inkinga yokulawula ngaphambi kwemizwelo yakho, uzokwazi ukuqonda imizwelo yabantwana bakho.

Awukwazi ukuvumela imizwelo ikuthathe, ngoba lokhu kuthinta ngqo isimo kanye nenhlalakahle yabathandekayo bakho, futhi okubaluleke kakhulu, ingane yakho. Uma uzizwa ukuthi ukucindezeleka kukucindezele kangakanani, zama ukufihla kwabanye, nakumntwana wakho! Phela, ukwesaba kwakho nokuthukuthela kungadluliselwa kuye, okuzosiza ekwakhiweni kwezingxabano.

Ingabe unomuzwa wokuthi wena "ubilise" ngokoqobo? Sebenzisa amathiphu alula:

1. Phuma esimweni esikukhathazayo. Isibonelo, shiya ekamelweni, nje ungagcini umnyango! Isebenza ngokucasulayo kubantu abakuzungezile.
2. Hlanganisa i-whiskey nesandla samandla akho ngamanzi. Lokhu kuzokusiza ukuthi "uphole phansi".
3. Uma othile ephikisana futhi ephikisana nawe, ungaphumi konke ukuthukuthela okwenziwe kulo muntu. Uyakuqonda ngenkinga ethize, ungamcindezeli nezinye izinkinga zakhe. Ungcono ukuhambisa kabusha ingxoxo isikhathi esithile.

Futhi into esemqoka: akekho, ungafungi noma ubani phambi kwenceku yakho! Ikakhulukazi uma ingane yakho isemuva-izahluko ezinhlanu kuya ku-13. Lesi sizukulwane siyingozi kakhulu. Ngempela, kungukuthi kuye kwakha i-psyche. Ungamlimazi uma ungafuni izinkinga kamuva. Ingane yakho ingaqonda konke okungalungile, icabanga ukuthi ukuxabana kwakungenxa yakhe. Ikakhulukazi kule ndaba, izingxabano eziyingozi nokuhlukunyezwa phakathi kwabazali.

Uma, ngemva kwakho konke, ingxabano yenzeka ebusweni bomntanakho, landela amathiphu alandelayo:

1. Khuluma naye. Hlola izinga lokuhlukunyezwa kwengqondo. Qala kusuka kude. Khuluma ngezwi elithambile, elithambile elizofaka ingane kuye. Chaza ukuthi awunecala kule mpikiswano.
2. Ungaphenduki kakhulu engxoxweni yakho. Uma uzizwa ugijimela kude nengane yakho, mshiye isikhathi esithile ngemicabango yakho nemicabango yakho.
3. Jabulela ingane! Phakamisa ukuhamba nge-ayisikhilimu noma udlale umdlalo webhodi.

Ngakho, ngaphakathi kwethu, sasizicabangile, nokuthi yini okufanele sikwenze ngokulimala (yebo, ingqondo), evela kuwe ozimele?

Izimbangela zokuhlukunyezwa kwengqondo zingathathwa yizimpawu ezilandelayo:

• ukuvala;
• ukucasula;
• ukukhala izinyembezi njalo (ikakhulukazi ngaphandle kwesizathu esicacile);
• ukuphazamiseka kokulala;
• i-nightmares;
• ukuxhuma;
• ukubonakala kwama-phobias.

Ukuqaphela izimpawu zomntanakho, zama ukuthola ukuthi uvelaphi. Ungakwenza kanjani lokhu?
Futhi, ngosizo lwengxoxo. Imithetho yengxoxo efanele ichazwe ngenhla. Vele ungaqali ngokubukhali: "Kuyini inkinga?" Yiba lula. Buza mayelana nemimoya, inhlalakahle, ukuhlolwa esikoleni. Mhlawumbe le nkinga ngokwayo iyodlulela ngaphandle. Hlela ingane ngokwakho ngokudumisa nokuncoma. Isibonelo: "Uyazi kahle lokho umhlukumezi waphendula" noma "Yebo, uthisha akubeka kahle ukuhlola, kepha lokhu kuyilungelo lakhe siqu."
Shiya umbono wakho omubi nombi kuze kube manje nawe. Ukuthi "Ngikuxwayisile, manje unenkinga!" Kwenyusa isimo.

Uma imbangela yeziphazamiso ayikwazanga ukuqinisekiswa, noma uma ingane yenqabe ukukhuluma nawe ngakho, xhumana nabothisha, abajwayele kanye nabangane bengane. Mhlawumbe bayazi okuthile noma baqaphele into engavamile. Kodwa akukho cala ungashiyi inkinga ngaphandle kwesixazululo!
Uma uthola into ebaluleke kunazo zonke (inkinga kanye nezimbangela zayo), ungakwazi ukukuqeda kalula.

Iseluleko sethu:

1. Isizathu: amamaki amabi. Izinqumo: chaza ukuthi ukuhlola akuyona into esemqoka; ukuqasha umfundisi; khuluma nothisha.
2. Isizathu: ukuphikisana nomngani (umngane). Izinqumo: inhlangano yokuphuma kwabo; ukukhuluma nomngani.
3. Isizathu: ukufa kwesilwane. Izixazululo: ukuthengwa okusha; ukusungulwa kokulondoloza, kusho, phezu kwezilwane zomakhelwane.

Manje uyazi ukuthi ungabhekana kanjani nemizwelo yakho emibi kanye nemizwelo yengane.
Sifisela inhlanhla wena nabantwana bakho!