Noma yikuphi owesifazane othanda ukuba phakathi kwendoda. Ngokuvamile uzama ukumbamba ngosizo lwabahlaziyi. Enye yezinhlamvu zezinsikazi ezivame kakhulu yi-hysterical. Kwabesifazane, kuvame kakhulu kunabantu. Bacabanga ukuthi imbangela yesimo sabo kuba yilabo abazungezile abaholela ekuziphatheni kwabo kubazingeli.
Abesifazane abanjalo babonakala ngokubonakala okucacile kwemizwelo yabo. Abamukeli ukuthandana okuthula nokuthula. Ukuze uqonde lesi sici somlingiswa kungenzeka kuphela enkonzweni yokuxhumana. Kungase kungabonakali ngokushesha. Ngokubalulekile ekuhlotsheni isimo semvelo kufanele kube khona ukukhuphuka nokuzwelana.Izimbangela zokwethuka
Izizathu zokuvela kwezici ze-hysterical zihlukile ngokuhlukile. Kubalulekile ukuzinquma ukuze ubhekane nale nkinga. I-Hysteria ingaba umphumela wezici ezingenasici.
Kulokhu, ubuchopho abukwazi ukulawula ngokugcwele ukuziphatha nokubhekana ngokwanele nezimo ezithile. Ithonya ekuthuthukiseni ukucindezeleka, ukusetshenziswa okungalawulwa kwemithi ethile. Futhi, isizathu salokhu imfundo empofu, ngenkathi yonke impilo, akukho lutho olwenqatshelwe. Okubaluleke kakhulu kuneminyaka engama-4-7 ekufundiseni indodakazi yakhe. Udlala indima ebaluleke kakhulu empilweni yakudala nasebudlelwaneni namadoda. Ngokwengqondo, le nkathi ibizwa ngokuthi i-oedipal. Okubaluleke kakhulu ubuhlobo nobaba. Umuntu wokuqala empilweni yintombazane ubaba wakhe. Okuningi kuxhomeke ekutheni ukulalela nokuziphatha kwakhe. Kubaluleke kakhulu ukuthi usekela ubufazi besifazane, kepha akacindezeli ukuqonda kwezindaba ezithile ezithandanayo. Ngezinye izikhathi obaba ngokwabo babangela izinkinga eziningi kumantombazane. Ngingacabangi, bangakwazi ukuthwala ingane isifiso sabo esingagcwaliseki. Ukuziphatha okwanele, okuvezwe ngokuzithoba kuzo zonke izifiso nokuxuba kungathinta kabi. Ikakhulu uma ixhunywe ukunganakwa komkakhe nomama wengane. Ngezinye izikhathi empilweni yangaphambili, owesifazane wazo zonke izinsizwa zakhe uqhathanisa noyise. Lokhu akufanele neze ukwenza, ikakhulukazi ngokuzwakalayo. Kubalulekile ukwazisa ukuzikhethela, akukho abantu abafanayo.
I-hysteria evame kakhulu yilabo besifazane abaye baba nezinkinga noyise empilweni yabo. Ngesinye isikhathi, wangikhaphela noma walahla uthando lwakhe. Amadoda kaningi abahlali ngokuvumelana nokulindelekile kwezingane zabo. Abathembekile futhi bangaphuma emndenini, basebenze kanzima noma bafe. Ukuthembela emadodeni kubhujiswa esiteji sokuqala. Zonke izinqubo azizi lutho futhi azikwazi ukulawulwa ngokuzimela. Owesifazane uqala ukudiliza phakathi kothando olunamandla ngobaba wakhe nenzondo ngaye.
Isimo esibophezelayo sokuhlambalaza kuba khona kwezilaleli. Ngokuqinisekile kumele kube khona abantu abalinganiselwa kulokhu kuziphatha. Ngeseseke, akukho phuzu ekuboniseni umqondo wakho.
Abesifazane abanamahloni baxhomeke ngokungajwayelekile ezifisweni zabo. Lokhu kungaholela ezenzweni ezingenangqondo zokungalingani. Akanandaba nhlobo ngemiphumela yezenzo zakhe. Iyakwazi ukufeza ezinye izinhloso ze-foolhardy.
Zonke izibonakaliso zomlingiswa we-hysterical zingahlukaniswa ngamaqembu amabili amakhulu. Bangathula noma bezwakala. Esikhathini sokuqala akukho ukukhala, kodwa kukhona ukuhlambalaza emehlweni, ukuthula futhi konke kuhloswe ekuthinteni unembeza womuntu oseduze. Ngokuqondile nomfazi onjalo, indoda iyazizwa ingakhululekile kakhulu, iyoyiqonda isimo sayo nesimo sakhe sengqondo. Uma kwenzeka umsindo omkhulu, ukushaya izinto, ukucacisa ubudlelwane emigodini ephakeme nokukhala. Kulo mhlaba, uyakwazi ukusebenzisa amandla nomzimba.
Kuzo zombili izimo, lezi zenzo zizoqhubeka kuze kube yilapho ziheha ukunakekelwa okufanele. Umuntu lowo konke okuhloswe ngakho, kufanele ukuthi aqale ukuzola futhi afake zonke izindaba zakhe eceleni. Kunzima kakhulu ukuba amadoda abe nowesifazane onamahloni. Indlela elula kunazo zonke yokuphila iyindlela yokuthula ethule. Ungazama ukumbamba noma ukuyihlisa. Kubalulekile ukuba ulungele ukuthi lona wesifazane akazilawuli yena futhi uyakwazi ukuphonsa noma iyiphi into nganoma yisiphi isikhathi. Uma lokhu kwenzeka njalo futhi isigamu sesibili asifuni ukushintsha, kungcono nje ukushiya. Ngesinye isikhathi indoda ukunikeza owesifazane isihawu imenza ibambe ebusweni. Le ndlela ayidabuli kakhulu. Ngokuvamile kuvame ukuholela emiphumeleni ehlukile.
Izimo ze-hysterical zithinta kakhulu. Lokhu kuvame ukuholela ekudumazekeni okujulile nokujulile. Abanelisekile nokuphila kwabo, konke kuhlale kungalungile. Ngisho noma abathandekayo bezama ukumthokozisa ngangokunokwenzeka, lokhu ngeke kubangele injabulo nhlobo. Ngokuphambene nalokho, uzoqala ukucabanga futhi afune ukuthi yini engekho. Ngokuvamile kubonakala sengathi ukuphila akufaneleki okuhle nokujabula.
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Abesifazane abanamahloni basuke bezocansi. Ngaphambi kwesisindo somfazi obulalayo bafihla izinkimbinkimbi eziningi. Abesifazane abanjalo banokwesaba okukhulu kakhulu. Bakhathazeke ngokukhethekile ngeminyaka yabo. Sekuyiminyaka engama-25 baqala ukucabanga ngokuguga. 30let kubo cishe sekupheleni kokuphila. Kunzima kakhulu ukuba bazibonele. Owesifazane ophethe uhlamvu oluthile alumele neze, aphile nes cellulite, imibimbi nezinye izinguquko ezihlobene nobudala.
I-Hysteria iyinqubo engazi lutho, kodwa kancane kancane owesifazane angakwazi ukuqonda zonke izici ezinhle zalesi simo futhi abe ngumxhomeke kuye.
Owesifazane ohlakaniphile uyaziqonda kahle isimo sakhe somswakama futhi uzama ukubhekana nakho konke okusemandleni.
Okokuqala, udinga ukuzola kancane bese uyeka, mhlawumbe noma ube yedwa. Kubalulekile ukuthola indlela ephephile yokuphuma emizweni yakho emibi. Kungaba imidlalo, ukuthuthukiswa komsebenzi noma umsebenzi onzima womzimba. Mhlawumbe, ushintshe lo msebenzi futhi wenze ibhizinisi, lapho lona wesifazane eyohlale ephakathi. Udinga ukukwazi ukuphumula futhi ungafaki imigomo engafinyeleleki. Uma lokhu kuhlanganiswa kuhlanganiswa nethalenta, lokhu kungaba yisisekelo esihle kakhulu sokufeza izindawo eziphakeme. Imvelo iphoqelekile ukumsiza nokumsekela. Owesifazane kufanele ahlole ngokulinganayo lokho akudinga khona amadoda. Kubalulekile ukuqaphela ukuthi umuntu ngamunye uqobo futhi akadingi ukushintsha imigomo yabo.
Uma ungeke ukwazi ukubhekana nawe ngokwakho, ungaphendukela ezindleleni zesimanje zokwelapha ezinikezwa yimithi yethu. Lokhu kungaba izindlela ze-psychotherapy, ngezinye izikhathi ngisho ne-hypnosis. Mhlawumbe ukusetshenziswa kwemithi noma ngezinye izikhathi ngisho nokwelashwa kwemisebenzi ekhethiwe. Ukwelashwa okunembile kakhulu futhi okuphumelelayo kungabhalwa yi-psychoanalyst. Kodwa abesifazane abanesimo esiyingozi, okungajwayelekile kubo.
Kubalulekile ukukhumbula ukuthi ukungahlali kungaholela ekuguleni kwangempela. Kubangela izinkomba, izikhala, ukulahlekelwa kwesisindo ngisho nokuphuphuthekisa. Ngakho-ke, ngezibonakaliso zokuqala zendalo, kubalulekile ukuqala umsebenzi onzima.