Ngokuvamile kwenzeka ukuthi lapho sihlangane nendoda, siqala ukucabanga ngaye, kancane kancane sithandana naye. Kodwa ungambeka kanjani lo muntu? Lo mbuzo uthanda abesifazane abaningi. Ukuze uhlele kuye, landela le miyalo emithathu: lalela, uphumule futhi usekele!
Njengowesifazane, indoda ithanda izindlebe
Abantu abaningi bacabanga ukuthi inkulumo ethi "uthanda izindlebe" ibhekisela ekuziphatheni kobulili kuphela, kodwa akukho lutho oluthile, amadoda azimisele kakhulu ukukholelwa kunabesifazane. Yiqiniso, ukudumisa kwabesifazane kufanele kube kuhle. Isibonelo, indoda ikutshela ngeminye yemisebenzi yakhe "enkulu", futhi wena, ngokulalela ngokuvumelana naye, mtshele ukuthi ungumuntu omuhle kangakanani, noma umtshele ukuthi "Akumangalisi ukuthi uhlakaniphile kangaka!" Kufanelekile ukudumisa, bese kukhanya njengebhande elikhanyayo. Amadoda avuma cishe noma yikuphi ukuthobeka okuseduze kakhulu nenhliziyo yabo, ngoba yonke indawo bafuna ukuqinisekiswa kokuzikhandla kwabo namandla.
Owesifazane kufanele akwazi ukulalela indoda
Ngokwemvelo, abesifazane abanjalo njengama-boltushki, ukuthi ezimweni eziningi azivumeli ngokoqobo ukuthi bafake igama labo ku-interlocutors labo. Kumele kukhunjulwe njalo ukuthi indoda ifuna ukuphuma, isibonelo, ukutshela owesifazane mayelana nokunqoba kwakhe, futhi mhlawumbe ukukhononda ngokunqotshwa okungafanele. Futhi ikakhulukazi emihlanganweni yokuqala, ukuhlela umuntu, akukhuthazwa ukuba aqondise inkhulumomphendvulwano, abe neqhinga - ake akhulume, ngenkathi ebuza imibuzo ehola phambili. Lalela umngane wakho omusha ngokucophelela, futhi uzame ukunikeza i-delniesovety uma efuna, bonisa isithakazelo esijulile empilweni yakhe.
Okokuqala, ngale ndlela indoda eyokuthola i-interlocutor enhle, futhi lokhu kubaluleke kakhulu ukuze imbeke kuye, ngoba kude kakhulu owesifazane ngamunye angadume ngokukwazi kwakhe ukulalela. Okwesibili, le nqubomgomo ingadlala ezandleni zakho, njengoba ufunda kabanzi ngakho, ungenza kanjalo isithombe somuntu siqu. Into eyinhloko, ungakhohlwa ukunaka ngalesi sikhathi ngezindlela ezihlukahlukene ezingxoxweni zakhe nasekuziphatheni kwakhe, ngoba izinto ezincane zingabuye zisho okuningi ngezinto.
Lo muntu uzimisele ukungabaza konke
Sekuyisikhathi eside kusukela ukuthi ubulili obuqinile bubizwa kanjalo ukuthi abameleli bayo kumele bahlale behlala njalo. Akuyona imfihlo ukuthi indoda ayifuni ababuthakathaka ukuba babonakale kuye noma kwabanye abantu, futhi njengoba izibopho ezinzulu ezibekiwe kuye, uzivame ukungabaza ngawo wonke amandla akhe. Ngenxa yalokhu, abamele abesilisa abaningi banzima kakhulu, isibonelo, bathola ukwehluleka okukhona, ngokubaluleke kakhulu "ukukhathazeka" ngalokhu. Uma owesifazane efuna ukuthola indoda ethandekayo, ke umsebenzi wakhe ukukhuthaza ukuthembela kuye.
Noma yimuphi umuntu okwazi izinto eziningi ngamakhono akhe, kodwa kuphela uma ethola owesifazane ongamsekela kahle empilweni, ujabule ngisho nangempumelelo yakhe encane kakhulu, hhayi ukuvumela ukuba izihluthu ziphelelwe ithemba. Indoda ayiyi "superman" yedwa, yilokho owesifazane akwenzayo. Ngisho noma ungenawo umuntu ophezulu, ngisho nangomsebenzi, unenhlanhla, kodwa uma umuntu eqiniseka ngokungazi lutho, khona-ke kuyoba namandla okunqoba kancane kancane zonke izintaba ezintsha, futhi owesifazane uzokwazi ukuthi kuyimfanelo yakhe. Yilesi siqeshana esisibonelo sokulingisa futhi singagcwalisa izidingo zombili zombili.
Ukuhlela indoda owesifazane kufanele abe njalo "isikhukhula." Akunakwenzeka ukukhombisa ukuphakama komuntu phezu komuntu, noma ngabe kungenye indlela ekhona. Phela, indoda ifuna ukubonakala ibona inamandla kunazo zonke - umsizi wesifazane nesekelo.