Indlela yokubuyisela isifiso kowesifazane emva kokubeletha

Umbhangqwana oshadile ojabulisayo awunakujabula nhlobo, kukhona umcimbi omuhle emndenini wabo: umntwana wazalwa. Abazali abasha bayajabula ukuzama indima kababa, umama futhi bajwayele imithwalo yemfanelo emisha. Kodwa inyanga idlula, omunye nodokotela usuvele unikezela phambili ukuqala kabusha kocansi.

Futhi ngokuzumayo kunenkinga eyodwa engathandekayo: noma isifiso sokuphuma ngokuphelele endaweni ethile, noma ukusondelana akusekho injabulo. Ngelinye igama, ubulili abubuyanga emuva. Akasenakudonsela kuye, noma ngokuphambene nalokho, akadonseli kuye. Ukufudumala komdlandla kunciphisa, ubukhulu bobuhlobo buhlanganisiwe. Amacala anjalo, ngeshwa izigidi, uma zingekho ngaphezulu. Kodwa lokhu esikhathini esizayo kungaba yisizathu esiyinhloko sokuhlukanisa.

Ngakho kwenzekani? Kuphi ukuqabisa okudala okunomdlandla nokufudumala okushisayo? Ingabe zonke izinjabulo nezinjabulo zisemuva futhi ngeke zibuyele? Futhi ungabuyisela kanjani ukufutheka kowesifazane ngemuva kokubeletha? Ngokujwayelekile lokhu kwenzeka ngesikhathi sokuqala, izinyanga ezimbili emva kokukhulelwa. Kodwa kukhona, ngeshwa, amacala lapho isifiso sobulili sinyamalalala isikhathi eside kunangezinyanga ezingu-6-7 noma ngaphezulu. Futhi yiluphi uhlobo lobulili olungaba khona, lapho konke ukunakwa kugxile kwengane.

Kunezizathu eziningana zalokhu futhi zingahlukaniswa ngamaqembu amabili amakhulu: ngokomzimba nangokwengqondo. Okokuqala kungabandakanya: izinguquko ze-hormonal emzimbeni, ukuncelisa, ukukhathala, ukuguqula isibalo; okwesibini: ukucindezeleka, ukushintsha indlela yokuphila, ukunikeza ingane indima ebalulekile emndenini.

Ake sicabange ngezindlela ezithile zokubuyisela uthando kubantu besifazane emva kokubeletha.

Okokuqala, owesifazane kufanele akhulume nenhliziyo yakhe enhliziyweni yakhe. Sitshele ngezinkinga zakho, izinkathazo, ukwesaba. Ingxoxo enjalo isisiza ukuqondana futhi izokwenza ukucaca okunye ekuhloleni okuqhubekayo. Futhi unganqikazi ngemibuzo: ngokucacile kuzokwenziwa, okungcono kuzoxazululwa.

Okwesibili, kubalulekile ukuthi owesifazane azikhulule kancane. Kubalulekile ukubiza ukuqiniswa okungeziwe kumuntu wabazali, indoda kanye nezinye izihlobo ekunakekeleni ingane. Usizo oludlulele kulokhu ngeke lulimale. Futhi ngaphezulu ukujabulela izinzuzo zobuntu.

Okwesithathu, thola ukulala ngokwanele. Njengoba ingane idinga ukunakekelwa ubusuku nemini, kunzima ukuyenza. Kubalulekile ukuzama ukulala kanye nezingane futhi emva kwesikhathi umama omncane uzozizwa kangcono kakhulu.

Okwesine, ziqaphele wena. Ngokuvamile owesifazane, uthathwe ngokukhulisa ingane, uyakhohlwa ngokuphelele ngaye futhi akanandaba nokubukeka kwakhe. Isikhathi esithile, shiya umntwana ekunakekeleni umyeni wakhe noma abazali bakhe, bese uvakashela i-beauty salon. Ukuphila ngokushesha kugcwalisa ngemibala emisha nokuzwa.

Okwesishiyagalombili, ujabulele njalo ngomzuzu, noma ngabe unemizuzu engu-5-10 kwesokunxele. Kungcono ukuba ndawonye bese unakekelana.

Okwesithupha, ukukhulula ubudlelwane bomndeni. Ukucabanga okuningi ngokuthi impilo enhle yayingakafiki ngaphambi kokuzalwa kwengane, futhi kungcono kangakanani kwaba nokubonakala kwayo. Zama ukukhipha izimfanelo ezinhle ngisho nasesimweni esibi kakhulu.

Futhi, ekugcineni, okwesikhombisa, akukho cala ungesabi. Yebo, kunezinguquko ezithile ekubukeni nasekuzileni, ngezinye izikhathi ngisho nokungajabulisi. Kodwa konke lokhu kudlula isikhathi. Nakuba kungenjalo ngokushesha, lokhu, ngaphezu kwakho konke, kuxhomeke ekuziphatheni komzimba wesifazane ngamunye.

Amadoda kufanele ahlale eqaphile futhi athathe izinyathelo zokubuyisa isifiso sangaphambili esidlelwaneni. Kuyafaneleka ukunakekelwa nokukhathalela omkakho ngangokunokwenzeka. Okokuqala, layula ingxenye yakho emisebenzini yasendlini. Futhi ngosuku lokuphuma, kufanele uhambisane nomndeni wonke. Futhi kuyisifiso sokuthi umfazi uyagqoke kancane futhi wakhiwa. Lokhu kuzosithinta kokubili impilo nemicabango. Akufanele ugijimise othembekile ekuthandaneni obuseduze, isikhathi esithile ngemuva kokuzalwa kwengane, kungcono ukuba nesineke futhi ulinde. Futhi uqale umyeni wakho, udinga kancane kancane ngaphandle kokungqubuzana, kuhle kumuntu wokuqala okokuqala, kungcono ngokubuthelela, kancane kancane ufike kumakhelwane wakho oyintandokazi yomfazi. Ngisho noma kufanele uphazamise ngoba ingane ivukile, ungaphelelwa ithemba futhi uqhubeke nokukhuthazela okufanayo, ukuzola, ukufudumala nokuzwela. Ungabelana ngeminye imibono. Noma ushintshe kancane isimo. Ngemuva kwakho konke, njengoba wazi, izinguquko, ngisho nezincane, ziholela ekuhle kakhulu. Ngokusho kwabaningi bezocansi babuyele inzalo komunye nomunye ngaphansi kwamandla weqembu ngalinye. Futhi uma kukhona uthando olusele, kufanele udle isinyathelo futhi wenze okuthile.

Kucatshangwa izixazululo ezingeni elithile kusiza ukubuyisela isifuba sangaphambili emva kokubeletha. Futhi okubaluleke kakhulu, okudingayo ukukholelwa ukuthi zonke izinkinga zokuphila okusondelene nazo zesikhashana. Futhi, abesifazane abathandekayo kufanele baqaphele ukuthi ukukhathazeka, ukunakekelwa nokunakekelwa akudingeki kuphela kwengane, kodwa futhi noyise. Ngesinye isikhathi owesifazane kufanele athole isikhathi somyeni wakhe, unake ukubonakala kwakhe. Futhi okubaluleke kakhulu, besifazane abathandekayo, yini okufanele ikhunjulwe: UTHANDO NOKUPHILA kuzosiza ukubuyisela uthando kumuntu wesifazane, ukunqoba noma yiziphi izithiyo nobunzima, futhi ukuphila komndeni omusha ngeke kube kubi nakakhulu kunalokho. Futhi kangcono nakakhulu!