Futhi kuphela, ngenxa yesizathu esithile, lo mqondo wenziwa ukuthi konke akunakwenzeka, ubuningi obumhlophe obuqinile, obungenasici. Ngisho nokuhlanganiswa kwezinto ezinhle kakhulu azizange zenze isithombe se-stylish. Ngabe sengicabanga ukuthi ngingayifundisa kanjani intsha ukuba igqoke kahle futhi isitayela.
Okokuqala, kwakudingeka ngithole lokho engangikufunayo. Phela, ubuhle nesitayela akufani. Emakhasini omagazini wezemfashini nasezinkambeni zemigwaqo emikhulu yezemfashini, kunamamodeli amahle kakhulu. Kodwa isitayela sibonakala, noma singabonakali, lapho izingubo ezivela kwisiteji ziya ekuphileni. Ngakho-ke, isitayela ichazwa yizimpawu zokubukeka ngomqondo obanzi, okushiwo umuntu ngamunye.
Ikhono lokugqoka kahle futhi lisezingeni eliphezulu lisekhono elidinga ukufundwa. Imvelo ingabonisa ukunambitheka okuhle, ikhono lokuhlukanisa phakathi kokuhle, kodwa ikhono lokukhetha kusuka enhle kungezakho, yakha kusukela kuqoqo olukhethiwe, oluzohlanganiswa nawe - indaba yokuhlangenwe nakho, umkhuba nokufuna okungapheli. Lokhu kuchaza ukuthi kulula ukuhlangabezana nendoda noma wesifazane ogqoke isitayela phakathi kwabantu asebekhulile kunabanye abantu abasha. Kule minyaka, ukuzithemba kufike, lo muntu uyazi ukuthi ungubani, ukuthi yini ayifunayo, nokuthi yini ehlehliselwe umshicileli esithombeni sakhe.
Lokhu akusho ukuthi akunakwenzeka ukuqeqesha ingane ngentombazane. Futhi inqubo yokufunda ayihluke kakhulu kunoma yimuphi omunye.
Umqondo wobuhle, isitayela nokuhlambuluka, ngaphandle kwayo noma yikuphi ubuhle obonakalayo, ukuhlanganiswa emndenini womndeni. Kusukela esemncane, ingane kufanele ibe nehlanzekile, ihlanzekile, izingubo kufanele zivumelaniswe nombala, isakhiwo sezindwangu, yakha iqoqo. Uma ngabe ingane igqoke ngokuzenzekelayo kulokho okubekwe ekamelweni elivela phezulu, hhayi ngokuyinhloko ukunakekela i-sweater kuma-panties noma cha, ukufakazela ku-adolescents esilandelayo ukuthi akunakwenzeka ukugqoka kanjalo, ngeke kube lula kakhulu. Njengakho konke, ungaphinda ufundise izikhathi eziyinkulungwane imfundiso yokuziphatha, kodwa uma ungahambisani nemigomo eyaziwayo ngokwakho, ngeke kube nomqondo ovela kulokhu kukhishwa. Izingane zifunda konke ngokuhlangenwe nakho noma naphezu kokuhlangenwe nakho kwabazali bazo. Ngakho-ke, isifundo esingcono kakhulu sokufundisa ingane ukuba igqoke kahle futhi isitayela, ongayifundisa - ukuba yisibonelo. Vumelana, isifundo esihle kakhulu.
Lapho esekhulile, izingane ziba "ezingenakugwenywa." Bafuna ukuziphikisa kubantu abadala, ukufakazela ukuzimela nokufaneleka kwabo. Ukufeza lezi zinhloso, zonke izindlela, kuhlanganise ukubukeka, zisetshenziswe ngaphandle kokuhlukile. Ukuvezwa ngokugqoka into engacatshangwa kulula kakhulu kunezenzo namakhono akhethekile, ngokuvamile izingane zikhetha isitayela esingavamile. Abanye abazali abathinti ngokungathí sina ukubukeka kwezingane, abanye, abaqaphele ngokwengeziwe, balwela ngokuzimisela imizamo yokuzibonakalisa. Zombili izindlela azonikeze imiphumela emihle. Ukunganakwa ngeke kufundise noma yini, futhi ukwenqaba kuzoqinisa kuphela isifiso sokumelana nayo.
Indlela engcono kakhulu ukuzama ukuqonda intsha. Ngempela, izinhlobo eziningi zentsha zihle kakhulu, zingavamile futhi zilula. Ngemuva kokudlala ekukhuleni, esezizame ngezindlela ezehlukene nezindlela ezikhombisayo, kuze kube yizindlela eziphambili zezinhlanhla zentsha (emo, punks, metalheads, goths), kuyoba lula ukuba intombazane ifike phakathi kwegolide. Futhi ungabe ungakuqonda kanjani, into yakho noma cha, ngaphandle kokuzama, ungazami futhi ungazizwa wena.
Chaza intsha ukuthi, ukulingisa nokufuna ukuthola into, njengabo bonke abanye, uba yingxenye yesixuku, elahlekelwa ubuntu bakhe. Kodwa ungagcizeleli ngokwakho, uma ingane isalokhu igxilile. Kule minyaka yobudala, ukuba yingxenye yesixuku kupholile. Kungcono ndawonye, ube nesithakazelo ezithombeni zentsha, uxoxe ngazo, uthathe izinyathelo zokuthenga ezithengiswayo, unike ingane ithuba lokuzikhethela, kodwa uchaze ukuthi ukhetho lwakho lungcono kanjani noma lungcono. Ngempela, balingisa abazali, nakuba bengenakuzivuma bona ngokwabo nganoma yini.
Akukude kakhulu ukujoyina isiko. Ubuciko, umculo, indawo yaseshashalazini yakha ukubuka umhlaba nokunambitha. Vakashela iminyuziyamu nemibukiso, yiya ebhayisikobho, xoxani ndawonye lokho okubonayo.
Imithombo yezindaba, i-Intanethi, ithelevishini iningi ulwazi mayelana nemfashini nendlela yokugqoka kahle. Thenga omagazini abasha. Bobabili amantombazane kanye nabantu abasha bayifunda ngokubetha futhi balandele iseluleko. Gcwalisa ubuchopho bentsha ngolwazi olufanele. Uma ungatshelanga noma ukugxilisa noma yini mayelana nesiko lokugqoka, lo mfana uzobe enombono. Kuzokwakha kuphela kuyoba umgwaqo, futhi akuyona izibonelo ezinhle kakhulu zokuzijabulisa.
Noma kunjalo, isitayela sidalwe ngama-accents, i-trivia kanye nezesekeli. Abazali, obuntwana babo abahamba ngeenkambiso zesikolweni esifanayo, babhekisela ekugqoka izembatho. Kuphela okudingekayo futhi okusebenzayo kuphela. Bakuthola kunzima ukuqonda isidingo sokuba zonke izinhlobo ze-baubles, amabhasiki, izikhwama kanye nokuningi kwezigqoko zokugqoka. Kodwa zama ukuqonda ukuthi kuyadingeka. Akudingekile ukuba uzibandakanye kuzo zonke izinto, kodwa noma yimuphi umfana kufanele abe nenani le "indlovukazi".
Ncoma, uma ubona ukuthi ingane yenza okuthile. Mkhuthaze, ungashiyi ukungabonakali esinye isibonakaliso esisha. Ungamemeza nje: "Thatha ngokushesha!" Zama ukucacisa ukuthi kungani kungumusa ingane yakho efuna ukuyidlulisela. Empikiswaneni (hhayi empini!) Iqiniso lizalwa. Ngemva kokuxoxa nawe ngezici ezibonakalayo zokubukeka kwakho, njengoba ulalele ukuphawula kwakho okuhlakaniphile, kungenzeka ukuthi umbono womuntu osemusha mayelana nokubukeka kwakhe okungenangqondo uzoshintsha. Futhi esikhathini esizayo uzogqoka ngendlela ehlukile.
Ukunakwa nokubekezela. Njengoba ungabona, kufana naso sonke isayensi.