Ngokuqinisekile wena nomyeni wakho ninesibopho sendima entsha kubazali futhi niphakamise inkambo ekhethekile esikoleni yabomama nabababa esikhathini esizayo. Imisebenzi enjalo ayibalulekile, ngoba awuyiqondi nje kuphela (indlela yokunakekela ingane, indlela yokudla umama), kodwa futhi usebenzise (indlela yokuphefumula, ukuphumula okuphumuzayo). Kuyasiza kakhulu ekubelethweni! Nokho, namuhla, ngaphezu kolwazi namakhono, ungaba nabasizi bangempela abangaphezulu. Cha, akusiyo ngomuntu othandekayo (akunakwenzeka ukuthi ubani oyomangala ngokuvela kwakhe lapho ezalwa), kodwa ngomuntu obizwa ngokuthi i-muzzle (kusuka e-English doula).
Oda Odena
Ngo-1956, esibhedlela esivamile kunazo zonke eFrance, kwakukhona umhlinzeki ohlinzayo odokotela ongakaze aqiniseke uMichel Auden, ogunyaziwe lwaluhlanganisa nokusebenza kwemithi. Bakhazimulisa nodokotela. Manje u-Auden uyaziwa emhlabeni wonke! Wabhala izincwadi eziyishumi nambili ("Ukuzalelwa ngokuthokoza", "Ukuzalwa kabusha", "Impilo eyinhloko" nabanye), okwakushicilelwa ngezilimi ezingu-21! Kodwa hhayi lokhu kuphela ukufaneleka kukaMichel Auden. Emazweni ahlukene, umFulentshi uyaziwa njengendoda eyabangela amachibi okubhukuda, amakamelo anezimpahla zasendlini kanye nezifundo ... izigulane, abesifazane, ababizelwe ukusiza ekubelethweni, ngesikhathi sokubeletha.
Uyini umgqomo?
Igama elithi "dula" lisho umngane osebenzayo ekubelethweni, owake wabeletha, kodwa manje uyazi ukuthi angenza kanjani le nqubo kumama ozayo. Futhi lo wesifazane akudingeki abe nemfundo yezokwelapha. Into esemqoka yinto yakhe siqu nesifiso sakhe sokusiza. Futhi njengoba u-Dula eqonda ngokuphelele ukuthi yikuphi okwenzekayo, nguye osebenzisana nabachwepheshe (udokotela, u-anaesthesiologist, umbelethisi), uzokukwazisa ngokufanele, "ukuhumusha" amagama angokwempilo engaqondakali, achaza, ahlalise phansi. Ngomsizi onjalo, ngeke ukhathazeke ngokuthi uma udinga lutho, abahlengikazi bayoba matasa nomunye wesifazane ekubelethweni. Umsebenzi we-muzzle ukuhlinzeka ngokusekelwa ngokomzwelo, ngokomzimba nokwaziswa kowesifazane ekubelethweni. Eqinisweni, i-muzzle yenza indima ethintekayo phakathi kokubeletha owesifazane nabantu abasha futhi ... kukhuthaza ukulwa, imizamo yomama ozayo. Kanjani? Ngosizo lwamakhono abo. U-Dula uyazi amasu okuphumula, uyazi ukuthi angasebenzisa kanjani i-acupressure massage (kokubili ukuphumula nokuvuselelwa kwemisebenzi), ubonisa ukuthi yisiphi isikhundla somzimba esingcono ukuthatha isikhathi ngasinye sokuzalwa ukuze unciphise ubuhlungu, ukhumbuze inqubo yokuphefumula ... Ngisho nangomnandi ukuhambisana komculo kunakekela!
Okwesithathu akuyona into engafanele!
Ucabanga ukuthi uma ufika ekuzalweni komgqomo, umyeni wakho akudingeki abe khona? Ngikholelwa ukuthi ukuba khona "komlingiswa" oyedwa akufaki ukuba khona komunye. Futhi uma bobabili wena nomthandi wakho nilungele ngokwengqondo ukubeletha komlingani, akukho okukuvimbela ukuthi ungathathi lesi sinqumo futhi ... uthathe imbobo enekhono, enolwazi kunkampani. Ngeke kube okwesithathu okungaphezulu! Cha, lo wesifazane ngeke azithathele yena, eshiye umyeni wakho abe ngumbukeli oqaphele. Dula izomtshela lokho angakwenzela khona ngesikhathi esisodwa noma esinye, vumela, ukusekela. Lokhu kubalulekile, ngoba ubaba wesikhathi esizayo ukhathazekile kakhulu! Futhi ngawe, nangomntwana wakho. Cabanga ngakho futhi ungadingi kakhulu kuye! Ngiyabonga wena, ndoda, dula, udokotela nombelethisi, kubonakala yini ukuphanga okumangalisayo? Siyakuhalalisela! Futhi siyashesha ukukukwazisa ukuthi ngezinye amahora ambalwa uzoba ngaphansi kokugcinwa okunokwethenjelwa. Ukuguqula kuyosiza ukunamathisela ingane encane esifubeni (futhi ngesikhathi esifanayo izokutshela ukuthi ungayenza kanjani esikhathini esizayo), izolandelela ukuphathwa kwezokwelapha futhi ... shiya ukuze ubuyele ekushayeni kwakho kokuqala, ngoba ukuxhumana nalomuntu kuzohlala isikhathi eside.