Ingabe kufanele uzwe izizathu mayelana nesimo sezulu esibi, ikhanda noma izinto ezibaluleke kakhulu? Esimweni esinjalo, akufanele ubeke ikhala lakho bese uthola indlela efanele ekukhulekeleni, ngoba khona-ke kukhona amancane namasu amancane. Ake sikhulume ngendlela yokukhohlisa intombazane ukuba ifike ngosuku.
Okokuqala, ungakhathazeki. Umcabango owodwa olula usiza: kukhona cishe umuntu oyedwa ongenakuphikwa okungenani kanye. Ngemva kokuqonda lokhu, kufanele ube lula futhi ube nethemba kakhulu ngezinto ezinjalo. Le ndlela yokucabanga izokunika ukuzethemba, futhi ngenxa yalokho - ikhono lokuqala kalula ingxoxo, inzalo, ukumema ngosuku, njll. impumelelo nobulili obuhlukile. Ngakho umthetho wokuqala: ungesabi ukulahlekelwa yimpi, ungakafiki empini!
Okulandelayo, kufanele uthole indlela yomuntu ngamunye kumuntu ngamunye, enikeze ukuthanda kwakhe, ukuzilibazisa kanye nomlingiswa. Abanye baqhakazile lapho bebona izimbali futhi umfana ephuma ngaphandle kwamafasitela, noma ngisho nokudweba okungcono okuthile ku-asphalt noma eqhweni. Abanye bavele nje bephupha lokuba nezingane ezinethemba elibhekiswe ngaphambi kweqiniso "Namuhla kufanele nakanjani siye kwi-cinema (yaseshashalazini, cafe, epaki, njll)!" Isibonelo, omunye umbhangqwana oshadile oshadile usatshela wonke umuntu "indaba" yakhe. Le ntombazane yayinenkinga yokuphila: izinkinga zezempilo, ukukhathala kokuhlanganisa umsebenzi nokutadisha, izinkinga zomndeni. Umngane wakhe wafika kuye ekupheleni kosuku wathi: "Uyayifuna noma cha, futhi manje siyahamba. Udinga ukuphumula nokuphumula. " Kusukela ngaleso sikhathi, akakaze ambheke njengomngane wakhe, - waba ngumvikeli wakhe oqinile futhi othembekile.
Ake sithi uthola ukuthi (njengamantombazane amaningi ngempela) uthanda abantu abanobuthakathaka. Akudingekile ukulinda umzuzwana omuhle noma ithuba lokuhlala yedwa naye ukuze uqale ukusebenza okusebenzayo. Ngezinye izikhathi sonke sijabule ukuba sibe khona, ngakho mnike ithuba elihle kangaka. Ukugijimela kuye emgwaqweni umemeza uthi "Ndodakazi, ngidinga usizo lwakho!" Futhi wanezela: "Ngidinga ukuhamba nawe", uzobe usumenze amomotheka, futhi lokho okumangazayo kungathinta impendulo yakhe enhle.
Tshela intombazane engazijwayele ukuthi iyathandeka kanjani nokuthi ikuthandayo kanjani, kodwa umhlaba ungalungile kangangokuthi kungenzeka ukuthi unesoka noma ngisho nendoda, mhlawumbe kokubili ngesikhathi esisodwa. Kungenzeka ukuthi emva kokucindezeleka okunjalo, yena, ehlaba umxhwele, uzothi ukuthi empeleni akunjalo futhi ngokuqinisekile ngeke wenqabe ukuxhumana okuqhubekayo nawe.
Ungesabi ukubonakala ungenangqondo, ungesabi ukumangala, uma ungazi ukuthi ungathonya kanjani amantombazane ukuba afike ngosuku. Ungasho nje ukuthi "Ngicabanga ukuthi ulahlekelwe okuthile." Intombazane yona iyodangala ukuhlunga konke okukhethwa kukho ekhanda lakhe noma ubheke nxazonke. I-t-shirt ewusizo kakhulu ngokubhalwe phansi "Ngingumzuzu wakho wesibili olahlekile", ongaboniswa ngokungaqinisekisi ihembe.
Khumbula, into eyinhloko yikhono lokudala indawo ezolile, hhayi ukwesabisa intombazane ene-antics yakho futhi ngesikhathi esifanayo ukuze ungabonakali uyamkhathaza. Awufanele futhi ube nesibindi noma ngisho nokuhlukumezeka, uzama ngazo zonke izindlela ukuthi uthole imvume yokulinda isikhathi eside isimemo sakho. Akekho oyakwazisa inkulumo ethi "Awazi ukuthi ulahlekelwa yini", "Yebo, ngeze - uzozisola kamuva", njll. Kunalokho, ngokuphambene nalokho: udinga ukuhlala uzolile futhi uziqhenya. Ngaphezu kwalokho, akukho lutho olushukumisa intombazane kuwe, njengenye intombazane eseduze nawe. Futhi, noma ngabe wenqatshelwe, vele wenze sengathi awukhathali ngakho futhi ungaxhumana kalula nabanye, abantu abathandekayo. Ngemva kwesikhashana, emva kokubuza ukuthi ngabe intombazane ayishintshanga yini ingqondo yakhe, cishe, uzofunda ukuthi manje akahambisani nokuhamba ngosuku.
Uma kungumbuzo womngane wakho, ubuhlobo lapho konke okungeke kudlulele khona esimweni "sabangane" kunento engathà sina, ke nje ukumbonisa ukunakekelwa kwakho, ukunakekelwa nokuthi akusize ngalutho sonke lesi sikhathi oseduze. Khumbula lapho angathanda khona, ukuzilibazisa nokuthanda kwakhe. Ngisho nesimemo esilula se-cinema singanikeza kahle kakhulu, sinezela inkulumo ethi "Ngiyakhumbula ukuthi uthanda ama-comedies (ama-melodramas, ama-horror, njll)." Mtshele ukuthi ufuna ukumfundisa indlela yokudlala, ukudlala bowling futhi uqiniseke ukunqoba. Kumemele ekhonsathini noma embukisweni wemidwebo, uthenge incwadi, i-CD yomculo noma ikhekhe eliyintandokazi yakhe - into eyinhloko ukukhombisa ukuthi uyazi ukuthi ufunani, futhi uyamlalela namagama akhe.
Kodwa, mina, indlela ehlakaniphe kakhulu ukukwenza intombazane icabange ngawe ukuze azikhethele ukuthatha isinyathelo sokuqala. Ngakho-ke, isibonelo, umfana oyedwa isikhathi eside wakhuluma nentombazane, okuyinto wonke umuntu ayephupha, kuphela ehlangane naye. Yena-ke, wayazi ngalokhu, okwakumthelela omkhulu ekuziphatheni kwakhe nokwehluleka kobulili obuhlukile. Futhi-ke emhlanganweni esikhundleni sokujwayelekile "Sawubona! Wenzani? "Umfana wathi kuye:" Ngikhuluma nomngane wakho ngolunye usuku futhi, ngokuthembeka, angilindele ukuzwa lokhu ngawe "futhi waqhubeka nje. Ezinsukwini ezimbalwa wamlobela ama-sms amcela ukuthi achaze ukuthi wayesho ukuthini. Njengoba kungekho mpendulo, intombazane yaqala ukubiza lo mfana, kodwa engakayitholi impendulo. Futhi ngemva nje kwamasonto ambalwa wakwazi ukumnxusa ukuba ahlangane futhi axoxe ngokuthula konke. Izimbali, ukumomotheka kanye nenkulumo ethi "Kwakudingekile ukuthi ngandlela-thile ngikuvuselele futhi inzalo" ayizange imshiye engenandaba.
Ngendlela efanako, ungaba nomthelela kunanyana yimuphi intombazana, uthi ukulindele ukumangala noma into engakaze ibone, nokuthi kuyoba yindaba yakho yokucabanga.
Ngakho akubaluleke kakhulu ukuthi iyiphi indlela oyikhethayo, into eyinhloko ukwenza ngokuqiniseka nangokuhle. Kumele kukhunjulwe ngaso sonke isikhathi ukuthi amantombazane ayakuthanda ukunakekelwa, anakekele futhi afune ukubona eduze komuntu onesibindi, onamandla futhi ozwelayo. Zama ukuba babe noma, okungenani, ukuqinisekisa intombazane ukuthi unjalo futhi uphumelele kuwe kuqinisekisiwe!