O, le mikhuba
Imikhuba yabantwana iqala ukwakha kusukela esigabeni sokuqala sokuphila. Ziyikho konke ngaphandle kokuhlukile, okuhle nokulimaza, okungenabungozi nokungenangqondo. Imikhuba ingasho okuningi ngomuntu. Bavelaphi? Njengoba sesishilo kakade, ukubunjwa kwabo kuqala kusukela ebuntwaneni, lapho izingane ziqonda entsha futhi zibamba izindiza, zikopishe ukuziphatha kwabazali bazo. Ngakho-ke, uma abazali, abangane abaseduze noma ngisho nabantu abangaziwayo beqaphela izikhala kule ndaba, sekuyisikhathi sokubhekana nemikhuba yabantwana.
Ukukhulisa izingane kuyadingeka nokubunjwa kwemikhuba ewusizo. Empeleni, akukho msebenzi okhethekile kulokhu, futhi imfundo ephakeme yokufundisa ayidingi. Kuphawula ukuthi ngethoyizi ngayinye entsha, isihloko, umcimbi ophindaphinda nsuku zonke, umkhuba omusha ubonakala futhi. Isibonelo, banika ingane ibhasikidi noma ibhokisi lamathoyizi - manje kungumkhuba wokuzihlanza emva komdlalo. Ngifuna ukugqoka nokuziphazamisa - ungakufundisa indlela yokubeka kahle emashalofini ekamelweni. Ngenjabulo idonsa amapayipi - vumela ama-rinses ibhodlela lamanzi bese umisa ibhulashi. Futhi ezinyathelweni ezincane ezinjalo kuzotholakala ukuthi ngeke kushiye indawo yokuphumula, hhayi ewusizo kakhulu. Indlela yokukhulisa izingane ukuze zikhule zibe ngabantu abalungile?
Amathiphu awusizo wokukhulisa izingane
Ukukhulisa izingane ngabantu abalungile, akunconywa ukukwenza ngaphansi kokuphoqelela okuqinile. Ungaqapheli zonke izinyathelo zengane futhi uhlale uthi kufanele ukwenze. Zama ukuqinisekisa ukuthi ingane futhi ungalandi ukufundisa futhi ushiye indawo yokuthuthukiswa komuntu ngamunye. Khuthaza ubuciko, isinyathelo, kodwa hhayi ukuvumela.
Abantu abadala bangabathishela abakhulu kanye nezimpawu zomlando. Okufanele ukwenze, kodwa ngokufika kwezingane endlini, thina ngokwethu sibhekene nokuqapha kwabo. Noma yiziphi izenzo zethu ziyabonakala futhi zihlolwe yizo. Ngakho-ke, abazali ngokwabo kumele babonise izibonelo zokuziphatha kwamasiko futhi bachaze imithetho yabo. Vumelana, ingane ayinakwenzeka ukuba ihlelwe futhi iqoqwe, uma ekuseni ubaba efuna i-tie ngokusheshisa, umama uyisihluthulelo sendlu, kanti umfowenu omncane uyisitokisi esiyintandokazi ahamba nayo enkulisa. Ngaphezu kwalokho, isibonelo sakho asidingi umzamo owengeziwe. Njalo kunjalo lapho isenzo ngokwayo sifundisa. Babingelela lo makhelwane, babamba i-elevator yomgijimi ezitebhisini, bavala ngesicabha umnyango ukuze bangavuli ugogo, babonga iphephandaba elisha le-kiosk isisebenzi - ingane ibona iphinde ithathe iphethini yokuziphatha. Isibonelo somuntu siqu yisikhathi esikhiye ekukhuliseni.
Izenzo eziqotho. Injabulo yesenzo esihle, sezenzo ezinhle asikwazi ukuqhathaniswa nanoma yikuphi ukukhokhwa kwempahla. Umsebenzi wakho ukuchaza ingane ukuthi ungathola ukwaneliseka ngokubona ukuthi wenza into efanele. Abantu abadala kuleli cala akudingeki babe nesidingo sokudumisa nokukhuthaza amagama. Ngaphezu kwalokho, izingane zizophinda ziphindele ngokushesha, ezithokozisa bobabili, nabazali, kanye nabantu abathintekayo kule nqubo ejwayelekile.
Isilinganiso sokubekezela akufanele sikhathele. Ngokulinganayo futhi njengokwakhiwa kwakho, ubuhlakani, ubukhali. Akulula ukufundisa ingane ngokushesha ukuthi ikholelwe ngobuqotho ukuthi ukuxhaphaza amazinyo, ukugeza, ukulahla ukudla, ukulala ebuthweni sakho kuyamnandi kakhulu. Isikhathi sokuqala kuyodingeka siphindwe, sichazwe, sibuyiselwe, sikukhumbuze ukuthi singavumeli imisebenzi. Futhi lapha kubalulekile ukungaphuki, gwema konke ngokushesha ngangokunokwenzeka, phuthuma ingane. Ngokuhamba kwesikhathi, uzoletha izinqubo ezijwayelekile zokuzenzekelayo futhi ngeke aqaphele ukuthi umkhuba owusizo usuhleliwe kanjani. Ngendlela, ukuhlanzeka nokuzithiba ngemuva kokubukeka kungenye yezakhi ezibaluleke kakhulu zokukhulisa okuhle. Kubonakala sengathi ukuxubha amazinyo kuvikela kakhulu ukulwa nobuvila.
Hlola ukuqina. Njengoba ingane ikhula, i-curve i-curve yayo, okubonakala ekuqaleni ibonakale iyingozi, imikhuba izobe ikhohliwe futhi inganakiwe. Lapha, futhi okuyizimanga kuqala, lapho ingane ikhohlwa ngokuphelele umkhuba onamandla! Ngokuvamile lokhu kwenzeka ekukhuleni, lapho izingane ziphikisana nombono womphakathi. Bakhathazekile, bunzima, akuyona into ethakisayo yokuphinda izinyathelo ezifanayo zokubophezela: ukuhlanza izicathulo, kusihlwa ukuqoqa isikhwama esikoleni, ukuthatha udoti, ukwenza umsebenzi wesikole. Ukuqina kwakho, ngaphandle kokuhlukumezeka, ukuphindaphindiwe kokuphindaphindiwe, ukuzola okuzokusiza ukuba ulinde manje futhi ngeke ubhubhise imithetho kuze kube sekupheleni.
Kuthemba nokuzimela kwengane. Ngezinye izikhathi abazali ngokwabo bavusa futhi basuse ukuziphatha okubi kanye nemikhuba emibi yezingane zabo. Ngokuvamile kaningi kukuvumela ukuthi uphule imithetho yokuziphatha, noma ushintshe ngokuzenzekelayo noma nhlobo uzame ukwenza konke ingane. Ekuboneni kokuqala, abafuni ukukhathazeka okungadingekile, isikhathi sokuchitha, ukuphikelela futhi bakwazi ukuthola ukuyekethisa. Ngakho-ke baya esikhwameni sokungabonakali phambi kwabantu abangabazi. Zenzele ingane ngokushesha masinyane noma yiliphi ibhizinisi ngokwayo, uzame ukulondoloza umthwalo. Eqinisweni, i-egoist evila, engenakuziphendulela iyakhula, okuyinto noma iyiphi inkinga noma inkinga empilweni izoxazululwa izenzo zabanye. Ukugcinwa okunjalo ngokweqile kwabazali akushiyi ithuba lomntwana lokuzibonakalisa. Zama ukubopha izihlangu zezingane bese uxazulula izinkinga zesikole. Mvumele asebenzise isikhathi esiningi futhi angenzi kahle, kodwa uzokwenza ngokwakhe!
Khumbula ukuthi imfundo efanele ngezindlela eziningi yenza ukuphila kube lula kubantwana. Ingane izokuqiniseka ngokwengeziwe, ngeke ihlupheke ngenxa yokungasebenzi, izogcina isikhathi esibalulekile ekusetshenzisweni kwezinhlelo zayo. Uyokwazi ukufezekisa ukuqashelwa futhi uzohlonishwa emphakathini. Phela, kuyinto ejabulisayo njalo ukuxhumana nokubhekana nomuntu ophethwe kahle. Futhi mangaki imizwelo emihle lo mndeni ozobhekana nawo, lapho kungadingeki ukuthi umuntu ahlupheke futhi aphikisana nezingane. Abazali "abanezinhlamvu ezinkulu" banesibopho sokukhulisa izingane ukuze bakhule babe ngabantu abalungile. Kulesi simo, kulula ukuvumelanisa kuleli zwe futhi uzokwazi ukufeza impumelelo enkulu kokubili emkhakheni wezobuchwepheshe nasezimpilweni zabo.
Ukubheka kwezicwaningo zezingqondo
Ingane ngayinye ifunda izinto ezintsha futhi ihlakulela imikhuba ngaphansi kwethonya lemicabango yangaphakathi, eyakha isikhathi esibucayi. Izazi zengqondo zihlukanisa ngisho nemingcele ecacile yalesi sikhathi. Baqala, isigaba esiphezulu sokuthuthukiswa nokuqedwa. Kubalulekile ukuthi ungaphuthelwa futhi ubathumele endleleni efanele ingane. Uyoziqondisa ekuhlakanipheni kokuphila ngokuphefumulelwa kwakhe, umuzwa wemvelo nokuzalwa. Khona-ke imikhuba iyoba ikhampasi yakhe ngekusasa.
Uma ingane iphikisana nombono womphakathi, khona-ke kanye nokugxila ekuthuthukiseni ubuntu, lokhu kuhlinzekwa yisifo. Izinguquko ze-chaotic, ukulahlekelwa kwezimpawu zomhlaba, ukungaqondi kahle endaweni ezungezile. Mhlawumbe ngisho lokhu kungukubhikisha nokubiza abantu abadala ukuthi baqonde ukuthi unesidingo esisha futhi badinga ukucatshangelwa.
Ukwesaba imikhuba emibi, izifo ezivame ukuziphatha, ukuziphatha kwemizwa yindlela yokusabela kwengane yengane ibe yinkinga yangaphakathi. Kulokhu, ukulungiswa kwezindlela zemfundo kuyadingeka. Kunconywa ukufuna usizo kusuka kwengqondo yengane. Umsebenzi wakho kufanele usondelane nengane ngangokunokwenzeka, ukusekela nokusiza ukuzivumelanisa ngesikhathi sokuqeqesha ngaphambilini engaziwayo.
Akukho okusekela ubuqiniso bamazwi abantu abadala, njengobonakaliso obusobala babo. Ngakho-ke, ngezikhathi ezithile kuyasiza futhi kuyadingeka ukuhlela izinsuku ezingenamithetho, uma okuningi kuvunyelwe futhi kuvunyelwe. Isibonelo, vumela ingane ingasheshi ukuvuselela umbhede ngempelasonto, ukugeza, kwasekuseni. Ngifuna ukuzulazula bese ngibheka amathangi - sicela! Into ehlukumezayo kakhulu ukuthi abantwana banamathele kakhulu esimweni sezinto futhi noma yikuphi ukugula kungabangela ukungakhululeki. Ngokushoyo, ngeke akwazi ukulandela isakhiwo, lapho igumbi lingasuswa, esiswini sikhathazeka ngendlala futhi ngokuvamile jikelele jikelele awunamandla. Khona-ke ingane ilahlekile, ididekile, izama ukubuyisela umyalo. Kuphazamisa kakhulu! Lapha uyaqonda ukuthi isikhathi esichithwa ekukhuliseni ingane ngendlela efanele kuzokugwema ukuqoqwa kwezingxabano futhi ngeke kuphazamise umhlaba wakhe wangaphakathi.