Lolu hlu alukwazi ukubalwa kuze kube sekupheleni. Kuzo zonke imindeni kukhona "izingxabano" zabo kanye nezingxabano. Kodwa ngasizathu sini inkathi enjalo ejabulisayo yokuphila kwakho ehlanganiswe "nefu lokungaboni"? Indlela yokulondoloza ukuthula emkhayeni womndeni. Harmony "Mina + Myeni = Ingane = Uthando.
Okokuqala, sonke singabantu, futhi noma yikuphi ukuguqulwa (ngisho nalabo abalinde isikhathi eside futhi abajabule) kuthinta ingqondo yethu. Sinenkathi yokujwayela. Inkathi esinikeza ithuba lokujwayela izimo ezintsha zokuba khona (kulokhu, umntwana ozelwe) ukuzivumelanisa nabo. Umyeni wakho akwenzeki ukuba ngokushesha, ngolunye usuku, ajwayele ukuthi awusekho kabili, ukuthi awukwazi ukukhuluma ngokuzwakalayo futhi umeme izivakashi nganoma isiphi isikhathi sosuku, awukwazi ukubukela ithelevishini phakathi kwamabili, futhi ulala nawe phakathi kwamabili, uvumelane. Ungalokothi ukhohlwe ngakho. Lesi "sikhathi sokuhlala" senziwa kuzo zonke izindlela ezahlukene isikhathi eside nangendlela ezahlukene kunzima. Kulokhu, owesifazane uhlale elula ukuzivumelanisa. Wayenesigqoke ngaphansi kwenhliziyo yakhe izinyanga ezingu-9. Wayesevele esetshenziselwa ukubhekana nokuphazamiseka okunye nokuzivimbela ngandlela-thile. Futhi lo muntu? Kuye, yonke imisebenzi kanye nokuphazamiseka kuza kuphela emva kokuzalwa kwengane. Unomjikelezo wemithwalo yemithwalo yemfanelo, okumele futhi ayisebenzise nayo. Futhi ngalesi sikhathi umama kufanele abekezelele umyeni wakhe. Kusobala ukuthi manje usindayo kakhulu - ukondla ubusuku nokugula okuhambayo, futhi, ngenxa yalokho, ukuntuleka kokulala. Kodwa wonke umuntu uyazi ukuthi isimiso sezinzwa samadoda siyinkimbinkimbi kakhulu kunalabo besifazane futhi senza isaphulelo kuso.
Funda ukusabalalisa amacala nemithwalo yemfanelo ukuze ungahlupheki, kepha umyeni akahlupheki (nokho usadingeka ukuya emsebenzini ukuze ahlangabezane nezidingo zakho). Isibonelo, uma i-crumb isiqalile ukukhala, zilalise. Yiqiniso, kukhona obaba abangakwazi ukubhekana kalula nezinyembezi zezingane, kodwa ngokuyinhloko, amadoda awakhuthazi izinyembezi zezingane (kunalokho ngoba ziqonda ukungabi namandla kwazo ekuqedeni izimbangela zokukhala). Ukuthatha lo msebenzi ojabulisayo, uzokwenza isevisi enkulu kakhulu kokubili ubaba nomntwana. Wena ingane ngeke kudingeke uqinisekise amahora amathathu "ukungalili." Uvele umnike isifuba futhi bonke bazolala ngokuthula.
Wayejwayele ukugqoka izingubo zomyeni wakho, ukupheka ukudla okusha nsuku zonke, uhlanzeke kaningi? Manje nje nje kunenkinga enkulu. Indoda iyacasuka. Akasetshenziselwa ukupheka kwakhe futhi nje akwazi ukuthi angayina kanjani indlela oyenzayo. Ungakhathazeki. Asikho isidingo sokufunga futhi ukwesaba ngalezo zincithakalo. Kukhona njalo indlela yokuphuma. Isibonelo, pheka ukudla hhayi nje njengoba ulungiselele ekuqaleni, kodwa ngobuningi obuningi. Ukwanele ezinsukwini ezimbalwa. Kuzodingeka nje ukufudumala (futhi lokhu, umyeni wakho uzokwenza ngaphandle kwezinkinga, ngokusebenzisa imishini yasendlini yanamuhla). Ukuhlanza? Simply! Ungaphonsa konke okuzungezile - futhi akudingeki uhlanze. Njengoba ukuhlakanipha kwabantu kuthiwa: "Akusikho lapho bahlanza khona, kodwa lapho bengalokothi bahlambuluke khona." Futhi ungakwazi ukugeza phansi kanye ngesonto. Awunaso isikhathi sokudla? Umyeni kulesi sifundo kuyoba nzima ukufundisa. Udinga ikhono nesineke, ngisho nokufaka izinsimbi zemikhono. Kodwa sibonakala sikhohliwe ngogogo abakhululekile futhi bachitha ubusuku nathi? Kungani benganikeli ukukusiza ngesikhathi ophakelayo? Ngicabanga ukuthi bayokujabulela ukukuphathisa nakho konke okufunayo nje (futhi bayothokozwa nokuthi yiziphi izinhlobo zemikhono emincane ezincane ezisezintanjeni zemvuthu).
Kodwa! Akufanele sikhohlwe ukuthi "ukukhathalela kakhulu" "ugogo kumele futhi aphumule kuwe (futhi wena uvela kubo). Bangezisho kanjani ukuthi ukhathele izivakashi futhi ufuna ukuhlala nomndeni wakho, kakhulu ukuze ungakhubeki? Mema ukuba ahambe, ahambe ndawonye, ngivumele ngiqondise imoto, ngitshele ukuthi ungabonga kanjani ngosizo lwakhe, futhi uma sekuyisikhathi sokuya ekhaya, nikela ukuya esitobhini sebhasi bese nima. Futhi ukhumbuze ukuthi ngokuqinisekile uzomlinda lapho uvakashele ngolunye usuku. Ngakho wonke umuntu uyokwaneliseka omunye nomunye (nogogo, nawe, nomyeni wakho).
Angikwazi kodwa kodwa ngithinta isihloko esifana nobulili. Lesi yisici esibalulekile kunoma yimuphi ubuhlobo bomndeni. Umyeni wakho uzokuthola kunzima ukwenza ngaphandle kocansi (futhi nawe, ngicabanga, futhi). Kodwa kuthiwani lapho ingane ilele eduze komnyango? Ulahla izingalo zakho, jikela emuva futhi ... zama ukulala. Misa! Futhi udinga yini iphutha? Unenkathi enkulu yesicelo sakho. Ukhohliwe ukuthi ubulili abuboshwe embhedeni? Fantasize - ngakho uzothola ukuvumelana phakathi kwakho nasemkhayeni.
Futhi khumbula njalo ukuthi akukho okubizayo kunokuba umndeni wakho ujabule. Ungavumeli i-idyll ihlelwe ngenxa yezingxabano zasekhaya kanye nezingxabano. Bheka ukuyekethisa. Noma kunjalo, kodwa yibo thina-abesifazana kufanele "baphumelele noma yiziphi izingxenye.