Ngokusho kwedatha yesibalo sokucwaninga kwengqondo, ukukhononda okuningi kungoti kubangelwa ukungavikeleki. Abantu abanjalo banenkinga ekukhulumisaneni nabanye. Bazimisele ukuhlala isikhathi eside futhi kunzima ukwenza izinqumo, futhi bangabhekana nokuthi izidingo zabo nezifiso zabo azigcini.
Abantu abanjalo bahlale benenkinga yokucindezeleka, bavame ukuhawukela abanye abantu abazethemba futhi bahlale bezolile, futhi kusukela kulaba bantu abanokuzethemba okungenani basuke benesifiso esikhulu futhi banamathele ezinkingeni zabo.
Izimbangela, ukuthuthukiswa kwenkimbinkimbi yokuziphendulela
Izazi zengqondo zithi yonke imithombo yokungaqiniseki ivela ebuntwaneni, ngaleso sikhathi ukuthi umbono wokuthi wena uzalwa njengomuntu. Uma ubuntwana bendoda buhambisana nokuhluleka, futhi abadala bonke begxila kulokhu, ngakho-ke, uma ekhula, uzobona kuphela ukwehluleka kwakhe, futhi izimfanelo zakhe ezinhle zizobekwa phansi. Ngaphezu kwalokho, umuntu omdala ngeke azibheke njengelungele okuthile okungcono, abanye bazobonakala sengathi baphumelele futhi bafanelekile kunalokho, futhi umphumela wukuthi umuntu uthola konke okubi kakhulu, ukwehluleka nezinkinga.
Asidingi impilo enjalo, ngakho-ke sinikeza izindlela zokuqeda ukungaqiniseki. Qala ukufunda ukuthanda nokuziqhenya njengomuntu ofanelekayo.
Izindlela zokuqeda ukungabaza
Okokuqala okumele ukwenze ukuyeka ukusola wonke umuntu nento yonke ukuze ube namahloni futhi ungavikelekile, futhi akudingeki ukhumbule ukuhluleka kwakho futhi. Okudlule akukwazi ukutholakala futhi kulungiswe, kepha okwamanje kuphelele kuwe, sebenzisa wonke amathuba okuphila okuphelele.
Ukuqhubeka nokubona nokwamukela ukuthi ukujabula kwakho nenkululeko kubaluleke kakhulu kunalokho abanye abantu abangakucabanga ngakho: ozakwabo, omakhelwane, izihlobo nabajwayele. Umthetho oyinhloko: ngezenzo nezinqumo zabo hhayi ukuphazamisa abanye futhi bangenzi umonakalo, ngakho-ke unembeza ocacile uzokuvumela ukuziphatha ngendlela oyifunayo, hhayi nje umuntu owaziyo.
Funa isizathu sokuzidumisa, ukuze ungalindeli udumo oluvela kwabanye abantu futhi uzizwe futhi uzithokoze ngokwakho. Kunconywa ukwenza uhlu lwamakhono akho, lokho okwenza kahle futhi kahle kakhulu. Kungaba ngamakhono ahlukene, amakhono, ulwazi, kuhlanganise nalabo ongabonakali ufanelwe ukunakwa, isibonelo, ungakwazi ukweqa kahle i-curbs ebhayisikili. Gcina idayari uma uyidinga ukuze ngaso sonke isikhathi ugxile kwimibandela yakho kuphela.
Yeka ukuqhathanisa nabanye abantu ngokwakho, futhi izinkathazo ukuthi laba bantu baphumelele kakhulu kunawe. Abantu abaye baphumelela impumelelo oyilwela, kufanele ufunde ukuthi kuzo zonke izimo udinga ukuya emgomweni wakho, futhi ungafuni ukuhlangabezana nokulindela kwabanye. Ukuphela kwempumelelo yakho izolo kanye nezimpumelelo zanamuhla kufanele ziqhathaniswe, futhi konke kuzoba njengokufunayo, kuphela uma sonke isikhathi uya phambili kuphela.
Shintsha ukusabela kwakho ezinkingeni nasehlulekayo, futhi ujabule ngalezi zinsuku, ukwenza okungcono kakhulu, noma ukuphatha ngokungathandeki. Mhlawumbe lokhu kungase kuzwakale kungenangqondo, futhi kungase kubonakale kuyisiphukuphuku, kungenzeka ukuthi abanye ngeke bakuqonde lokhu, kodwa ngikholelwe, uzothanda umphumela. Ngokuhamba kwesikhathi, uzobona ukuthi ukwehluleka kudlule endaweni ethile, futhi noma yiliphi ibhizinisi owenzayo, ulungile kuwo.
Abantu abanokuzihlonipha okuhle abazithembi ngokwabo ukuthi konke kuhamba kahle futhi kungabonakali, kepha ngenxa yokuthi abazilungiseleli ekuhlulekeni nasezinkingeni futhi baya emgomweni wabo ngokuqinile, ngaphandle kokuvala indlela enzima.
Namuhla kunenkululeko enkulu yokuqeqeshwa nokuzivocavoca ukuze kuthuthukiswe ukuzimela. Ukuya emfundweni kanye nezifundo ezinjalo akuzona wonke umuntu ongazikwazi, kodwa njalo kudingeka kwenziwe. Letha ukuqeqeshwa okunjalo ohlelweni lwakho, kodwa okwamanje, yenza ukuziphatha kwakho.
Amathiphu wokuthi ungathola kanjani ukuzethemba
Kunezimo ezilula ezingakusiza ukuba uthole ukuzethemba, noma kunjalo izimo ezinjalo kufanele zenziwe ngokuzimela, futhi abantu abanokuzethemba okuphansi njengezimo bagweme.
Ngezansi ezinye zezibonelo. Ungazama into eyodwa, kepha kunconywa ukuthi wenze konke okufundayo ngezansi.
Ungaqala nezitolo, khetha, isibonelo, izitolo ezinamanani aphezulu wempahla ye-butovo nefenisha. Kulesi sitolo, bheka imikhiqizo oyithandayo, kodwa ungayinaki izindleko zezimpahla, cela usizo kubathengisi, ake bakutshele ngemininingwane mayelana nemishini oyikhethile. Bese, ngokuhlonipha, ngiyabonga, futhi ushiye isitolo ibhizinisi lakho, ngaphandle kokuthenga.
Isinyathelo esilandelayo siya kwesinye isitolo, isibonelo ngezingubo ezibizayo, cabangela ngokucophelela lezo zithombe ozithandayo. Bese uzama abaningi njengoba ufuna, nokuthi yini oyifunayo. Uma ungadingi izinsizakalo zomdayisi, ungawaphika ngokuzithoba, uchaze lokhu ngokuthi ufuna nje ukuzama lokho okukulo, futhi unakho konke. Bese wenza okufanayo nasesikhathini sokuqala, hhayi ukukhathazeka ukuthi ukuziphatha kwakho kungabangela ukusabela okuhle kakhulu kwabathengisi.
Izimo ezinjalo zingasungulwa okuningi:
Kunoma yisiphi isitolo, ungaya ku-cashier bese umcela ukuthi ashintshe imali ngaphandle kokunikeza incazelo.
Mayelana nalokhu ungacela emgwaqweni nje engaziwa. Chaza lokhu ukuthi udinga ukukhokha imali ekhokhwayo efonini yakho ephathekayo.
Bese ucabanga ukuthi isimo sinzima kakhulu: ungacela umuntu ongaziwa emgwaqweni ukuthi akhokhe imali, uthi ulahlekelwe noma ukhohliwe endaweni ethile isikhwama, futhi udinga ithikithi lomzila ongaphansi komhlaba noma ibhasi.
Enye indlela - iya esitolo noma cafe bese ucela ukuba uvunyelwe ukushayela ucingo lwakho lwendawo. Uma umsizi ecela ukubeka i-oda, bese wenqaba ngokwethu, tshela ukuthi ufuna nje ukushaya ucingo bese uphinda isicelo sakho.
Uma uhamba ngebhasi eligcwele noma emotweni yomshuwalense, ungacela othile ukuba akunikeze ngaphandle kokuchaza. Uma ubuzwa imibuzo, le ndoda ingaphendula ngokuthi ikhanda lakhe lihamba ngokuzikhandla, kepha owesifazane angamcela nje ukuthi azinikele.
Umsebenzi obanzi kunazo zonke kubantu abaningi ukuza e-cafe, yokudlela noma emgwaqweni ukuya kumuntu wobulili obuhlukile okhangayo, ngesifiso sokujwayelana, lokhu kwesaba kuthinta kokubili amadoda nabesifazane. Uma uzama ukwenza, naphezu kokwesaba okukhulu, khona-ke umvuzo ngeke ukwenze ukuba ulinde. Mema umuntu ongaziwayo noma ongaziwa ukuthi uye embonini, kumabhayisikobho noma kumakhonsathi.
Izimo zihlukile, umsebenzi obalulekile ukunqoba ukwesaba kwakho futhi uthathe lezi zinyathelo, bese ekugcineni uzoqala ukuzizwa ukuthi umhlaba uyashintsha, futhi uzozizwa ukhululekile futhi ukhululekile. Ngokwemvelo, awukwazi ukuphuma ekuhlulekeni, kodwa ungagxila kuzo, kodwa ukhokhele kangcono intuthuko yakho, qiniseka ukuthi uzodumisa, ngisho noma uthathe isinyathelo esincane.
Kubalulekile ukukhumbula ukuthi uma ukhuluma nomunye umuntu kufanele ukhulume ngokuzethemba, ngokuzwakalayo nangokucacile, futhi ungamemeza nhlobo.
Zama ukugcina amehlo oxhumana naye, kodwa akudingeki ukuba ubuke umuntu ngaso sonke isikhathi, lokhu kungabhekwa njengokuphazanyiswa nomlingani wakho.
Yenza ngokukhululekile, kodwa ungahambi kakhulu, ukuveza izifiso zakho, imizwa kanye nezidingo zakho ngqo, futhi uma uthi "Angifuni," ungesabi ukubonakala uzibugovu.
Uma ucela okuthile, akufanele uxolise ngokukhathazeka, kodwa kungcono ukubonga umuntu ngenkonzo, okungenani uthi "ngiyabonga".
Kungakhathaliseki ukuthi isimo sini, asikhuthazwa ukubonisa ukuhlukumezeka ku-interlocutor, akufanele uzame ukuhlazisa noma ukumcasula, lokhu kubonisa ukungavikeleki nokubuthakathaka kwakho.
Zihloniphe wena nabanye abantu, futhi kulokhu, ukukhulumisana nabanye kuzoveza ngokwengeziwe.
Thuthukisa umkhuba wokwenza ngokuzimisela ezimweni ezehlukene, ungabheke abanye futhi ungacabangi ngalokho abangakucabanga ngakho noma ukusho ngawe, nje kuphela ngezinyathelo ezithembekile ezithembekile eziya emgomweni wakho. Uma uthola lokho owawukulwela ngokulangazela, ukuzethemba kwakho ngokuzenzakalelayo kuqhuma i-oda elilodwa eliphakeme, futhi ukuzethemba kuzokuhamba nawe yonke indawo.