Umama nendodakazi: psychology of ubudlelwano


Unendodakazi, ujabule, ufuna ukuthi ikhule ibe namandla, emele futhi ejabule. Lokhu kungafinyelelwa kanjani? Uthando lomama ohlakaniphile. Kubalulekile ukuthi ugcine lokhu engqondweni kuzo zonke izigaba zokuphila kwengane yakho. Kuphela-ke intombazane yakho ingaba ngowesifazane - ujabule futhi ujabule, ekwazi ukubhekana nakho konke okusemandleni. Ngakho-ke, umama nendodakazi: i-psychology of ubudlelwano iyisihloko sengxoxo namuhla.

Ubuntwana: yiba yisibonelo sendodakazi

Ekuqaleni, uyisikhungo sezwe lonke indodakazi yakho. Lokhu kungenxa yokuthi indodakazi ichitha iminyaka yokuqala yokuphila futhi iningi isikhathi nawe. Ngalesi sikhathi futhi ufunda njalo kuwe. Kuphi? Eqinisweni, konke - indlela yokujabula, indlela yokudlala ngothando, indlela yokuveza ukudabuka kwakho, ukuthukuthela noma ukunakekela abanye. Ngendodakazi, ungumuntu ongaphezu komama nje. Ngakho intombazane kuyo yonke into izolandela isibonelo sakho: ukudlala ekhaya ngamadonki, ukuvula phambi kwesibuko, ukuzama izingubo zakho. Lokhu kwenza kube lula ukuzikhomba ngezocansi zabo futhi uzilungiselele intombazane ngokugcwaliseka okulandelayo kwezenhlalakahle - abesifazane, omama nabomama. Zama ukusebenzisa leli thuba!

Amathiphu kumama:
- Gwema lo mbono wokuthi "indodakazi yami yikhophi yami." Khumbula, akufanele abe nethalenta lokudweba ngoba nje eneminyaka yobudala wayenakho ikhono. Nika intombazane ilungelo lokuthuthukiswa ngokuhambisana nesimo sakhe somuntu siqu. Khona-ke ukuthuthukiswa kwamakhono akhe kuzoqhubeka ngokuvumelana nangempumelelo.
- Ukuxhumana okuningi nokuthakazelisayo ngakho konke okusemhlabeni. Khuthaza ukwethemba kwakhe, ngokubekezela uphendule imibuzo enganakubalwa. Lokhu kuzokusiza ukuthi uhlele ubuhlobo obuseduze obuzoba isisekelo esiqinile sobuhlobo kamuva.
- Vumela intombazana encane ikusize eduze kwendlu kukho konke. Mkhuthaze, noma ngabe kufanele uphinde wenze umsebenzi. Ngaphandle kokuhlambalaza, msize uma into engasebenzi. Esikhathini esizayo, lawa makghono angeke asetshenziswe.
- Indodakazi kusukela esemncane kufanele ibone ukuthi abazali banobungane komunye nomunye, ukuthi umama nobaba bayamhlonipha futhi bamnakekele. Lokhu kubalulekile. Intombazane ifunda ukuthi kukhona psychology of ubudlelwane, indlela yokuziphatha emndenini, kanjani ukunakekela futhi abonise uthando.

Intombazane-intombazane: makabe isakaze amaphiko ayo

Esigabeni sokubunjwa kwentsha, noma yikuphi indodakazi ifuna "ukuzondla" ngokwengxenye ethile kumama wayo ukuze ukwazi ukuzama ukuzimela nokuvuthwa kwayo. Ngakho-ke, uma uzama ukuvikela intsha kusuka ezinsongweni ezihlukahlukene (isibonelo, uthando olubi, ukukhulelwa okungahlelelwe) - uzobe ethukuthele futhi abe nesineke. Ngakho-ke, kuyadingeka ukuthi ngalesi sikhathi intombazane isivele ikwazi ukuhlangenwe nakho kwayo kanye nemibono yakhe. Indodakazi yakho akufanele isebenze ngokungaqondile emyalweni wakho. Izingane zilindele ukuba sithembele, kodwa angafuni ukuthi izimfihlo zabo zixoxwe. Kule minyaka yobudala intombazane izwela kakhulu kunoma yiziphi izimpawu zokucindezelwa nokugxeka. Ngezinye izikhathi izahlulelo zakho ezibuhlungu nezixwayiso zenza izingqinamba noma ukuphikisana komunye nomunye.

Amathiphu kumama:
- Ukulawula umkhawulo. Ungazivumeli imvume yokufunda i-imeyili yendodakazi yakho, ukutadisha i-SMS yakhe noma ukumba emidwebeni yetafula.
- Khuluma nendodakazi yakho mayelana nezindaba ezihlobene nobulili. Yenza lokhu, kodwa, ngendlela yokuthi imibuzo yobulili ayizwanga isongela kuye noma, ngokuphambene, idlala. Intombazane kufanele izwe ukuthi ubheka kubalulekile ukuxoxa ngale ndawo, kanye nezinkinga zokukhulelwa.
- Zama ukugxeka abangani bakhe nezintombi, ngisho noma ungazithandi. Kunalokho gcizelela ukukhathazeka kwakho ngenduduzo yakhe ngamazwi: "Kuyamangalisa ukuthi uMark akazange akulethe ekhaya ngemuva kweqembu, ngizokukhathazeka."
- Yisho ukuncoma indodakazi yakho. Dumisani, isibonelo, izinwele zakhe, ukwakheka nokubala. Kudinga ukuthunyelwa kwakho ukuze uthole ukuzethemba.
- Ungazami ukuphoqa "ukucindezela" kwezimfihlo zakhe. Intsha iyayimfihlo. Ngokuvamile, ezinye zezimfihlo zakhe azonikeza umngane wakho osondelene naye, hhayi kuwe. Akukho lutho olungalungile nendodakazi enenkampani lapho ihlala kahle futhi ilungu layo elithembayo.
- Ungaphikisani ngaphezu kwezicathulo. Izingxabano ezincane (isibonelo, ukungcola egumbini) uthethelele masinyane. Uma isimo siba nzima futhi ingxabano isongela ukucasula ubuhlobo bakho - khumbula, mayelana ... umuzwa wokuhlekisa.

Abantu abadala: bajabule futhi bayisekele

Ukuhlubuka kwentsha kubuthaka ngokuhamba kwesikhathi. Kodwa-ke, umama kaningi akasazi ukuthi indodakazi yakhe isibe ngumdala. Futhi-ke imbangela yenkinga ingaba yinto: ukuziphatha kwendodakazi, ehlukana nomama ongcono, izingcingo ezingavamile kakhulu ekhaya noma emsebenzini akukhona lokho umama ayekufuna indodakazi yakhe ukuba icabange. Umphumela? Umama nendodakazi bathatha icala elikhulu ngokwabo. Indodakazi ayifuni ukulawulwa, futhi umama unomuzwa wokuthi angaphumelela kuqala. Ngezinye izikhathi empeleni iqinisa ukulawula impilo yendodakazi. Umama ufundisa njalo indodakazi yakhe indlela yokuphila, ibeka izixazululo ezinkingeni zakhe.

Amathiphu kumama:
"Vumela indodakazi yakho iphile impilo yayo." Zama ukugwema ukubonisana okuqhubekayo, izingcingo zefoni, ukuvakashelwa, ukukhipha ukuhlolwa. Lokhu kubuthakathaka kobudlelwane kubalulekile, ukuze owesifazane osemusha azizwe ecindezelekile ukunakekelwa komama futhi unesibindi sokulandela indlela yakhe.
- Ungalindeli ukuhlukaniswa nendodakazi yakho. Ungalokothi usebenzise i-blackmail engokomzwelo ukuze uqhubekele emaphethini akho wokuziphatha futhi uxazulule izinkinga Ungasebenzisi indlela, njengokuthi "Uma ungahlali ekhaya namuhla - ngizogula futhi ngenhliziyo futhi. Awunandaba yini nomama wakho? .. njalonjalo. Indodakazi yakho akudingeki ukuba wenze njalo ngendlela oyifunayo. Ikhona njengomuntu ngamunye. Futhi ngenkathi ekuthanda, uzozikhethela ukuthi yini engcono kakhulu kuye ekuphileni.
- Ungamgxeka othandekayo wendodakazi yakho. Intombazane inelungelo lokuzikhethela ngokomzwelo. Yebo, angathanda ukuthi akuthande. Zama ukubona okulungile, kunokuba uhlale uveza amaphutha ayo.
- Ingabe indodakazi ngokwayo iyoba umama maduzane? Mnike ukusekelwa, kodwa yenzeni ngokucophelela. Ungasho lokhu: "Kuhle ukuthi unqume ukuba umzali." Uma nje udinga mina, ngitshele. " Khumbula ukuthi umama omncane akufanele (futhi angeke) abe nesipiliyoni esingaphezu kwakho. Futhi usizo lwakho nemiyalo kuyoba yigugu kuye. Nikeza indodakazi yakho isize: "Kusasa ngihlezi nomntwana, futhi uya kuma-movie nomyeni wakho." Ukusekelwa okunjalo kuzokwaziswa yizingane zakho impilo yakho yonke.

Amaphutha ajwayelekile womama

Ukunakekelwa ngokweqile nobunikazi. Khuthaza indodakazi yakho ukuba ihlanganyele nawe ukwenza izinqumo eziphathelene naye, kodwa ungamthinti ngokuqondile. Lalela ukusikisela kwentsha (isibonelo, ngokukhetha esikoleni, izingubo, ukuzijabulisa) bese uzama ukuwalandela.

Ukugxekwa nokujeziswa okuqhubekayo kudambisa abazali nezingane. Esikhundleni sokukhomba amaphutha emadodakazini akho, vele umtshele kaningi ukuthi ungenzani ezimweni ezahlukene. Futhi uma ukuphawula kungenakugwemeka - ngaso sonke isikhathi kwenzeke ngokuzodwa ngendodakazi yakho (hhayi phambi kwabangane bakhe noma umngane).

Ukuphikisana. Ungazami ukuthatha intombazane engumfana nganoma iyiphi indlela. Awudingi ukusesha
futhi wenze njengabangane bendodakazi ukuba nobuhlobo obuhle naye. Khumbula ukuthi udinga umama, hhayi umncintiswano.

Ukungabi nokuzethemba, ukukhathazeka. Ukuvimbela indodakazi yakho emiphumeleni yokuziphatha okuyingozi (isibonelo, utshwala, inkampani embi) ngumsebenzi ongcwele womama. Kodwa ngesikhathi esifanayo, indodakazi kufanele izwe ukukhathazeka kwakho ngaye, hhayi ukuphazamiseka empilweni yakhe, abangane kanye nezenzo zakhe.

Ukuhlambalaza. Lokhu akufanele kube khona phakathi komama nendodakazi - i-psychology yobuhlobo ayibekezelelani inzondo eyodwa. Ungangcolisi indodakazi yakho. Ungalokothi usebenzise imishwana efana no "yebo, bheka wena!", "Yebo unemilenze efana nemifino" noma "yini ekhanda lakho - hhayi izinwele, kodwa utshani!". Ngakho-ke, usika amaphiko akho ngokwakho kumntanakho.