I-syndrome kaPeter Pan - lokhu kuyinto evamile kakhulu eminyakeni yamuva, igama elisetshenziselwa ukubhekisela esimweni esiyingqayizivele sengqondo. Kusho ukuthini lokhu? Ngakho-ke babonisa ubufana obude, ukungathandi nokuhluleka komfana ukuba akhule. Amantombazane angaphansi kwesifo esinjalo. Leli gama lasungulwa isazi sokusebenza kwengqondo saseMelika uDan Cayley, wabiza lesi sifo ngokuhlonishwa kweqhawe lezinganekwane zomlobi weNgisi uJames Barry.
Kulo lizwe le ndaba ayifani kakhulu, ngaphezu kwalokho, lapho iboniswe kuthelevishini, ayizange ifake ukunakwa okukhethekile. Namuhla, le ncwadi isivele ineminyaka engaphezu kwengu-100 ubudala, futhi izikrini zibonisa ukushintshashintsha kwe-Hollywood entsha, kuthinta isifo segama elifanayo, futhi ngaphezu kwalokho, abalobi abaningi abanegunya babhala ukuthandwa kwayo.
Umlando uqala ngamagama: "Ngokushesha zonke izingane zikhula. Ngaphandle kweyedwa ... "UPeter Pan wayehlala eneminyaka eyishumi nambili ubudala, wayengumntwana oyingqayizivele owafaka imibono yabanye abafana. Le nsizwa yayingenabo abazali, uPeter wayehlala esiqhingini sezingane, kanye nama-mermaids, ama-pirates, amaFairies, amaNdiya, futhi ahlale ekhathazekile Izithako ezithakazelisayo. Ngezinye izikhathi impilo yakhe yayinamahlombe, kodwa wayelokhu ephuma futhi ehlukumeza ukubhekana nazo zonke izithiyo.
Ngezinye izikhathi, uPeter uyangena ezweni lethu eliyingozi kakhulu, okungenani ukuze alalele izintombazane zikaWendy. Lapho uPetru esazi le ntombazane, wamemeza esiqhingini sakhe futhi, bavuma. Kodwa-ke, ezinsukwini ezimbalwa kamuva, uWendy wanquma ukubuyela ekhaya, lapho uhlala khona udinga ukuzidla, lapho izingane zikhula kunoma yikuphi. Futhi uPeter Pan uhlale enesinezinyanga ezineminyaka eyishumi nambili esiqhingini sezintandokazi kanye nezinganekwane ukuthi uWendy uzokutshela izingane kanye nabazukulu.
Njengazo zonke izindumiso ezihle, incwadi kaBarry yinkimbinkimbi eminingi futhi icabangela, futhi iyadabukisa kancane. UPeter Pan akuyona nje indaba yokubonga, kodwa nesihawu. "Wazigcina" ebuntwaneni, uPetru akazi ukuthi yiziphi izibopho nokuzibophezela, impilo yakhe yonke injabulo nokuzijabulisa. Ngaphezu kwalokho, akanalo uthando lwangempela. Abangane bakhe yibo bantu abathokoza nabo ngalesi sikhathi, kodwa abangekho. Ngisho nalapho abantu beshiya impilo yakhe noma befa ngokujwayelekile, uyibheka nje njengenkathazo ecasulayo, hhayi ukulahleka. Akazi ukuthi ukuzidela kuhluke kakhulu.
Manje kukhona umlobi ofanayo wanamuhla owakusho ukuthi uyamthanda umkakhe nezingane, kodwa akahambisani nawo. Ngisho noma zinyamalala empilweni yakhe, noma ezivela empilweni ejwayelekile, uzokwenza lokhu njengento evamile yemvelo.
Amazwi kuphela angasusa noma yimuphi umuntu, noma ngabe lo mbhali wadala izincwadi eziningi ezithakazelisayo. Zahlulele ngokwakho, ngoba uthi ukulahlekelwa ngumndeni kulingana nokuthi uyaphila emvula epholile ngaphandle kwefasitela. Kubantu abanjalo kubalulekile ukuhlala kude. Kodwa ingabe kufanelekile ukusho ukuthi uPererov Penov manje uhlukanisile kaningi?
Ngokuqinisekile empilweni yakho kwakukhona "okwanele", abafana abaphuthumayo abaneminyaka ehlukene abafuna futhi abazi ukuthi bangazibophezela kanjani ngemisebenzi nangothando, bephila usuku olulodwa, ababazisa kuphela izidingo zabo nezifiso zabo kuphela. Uma batshelwa ukuthi badinga ukukhula, bayayibheka njengalahlekelwa yi-congruency ye-self-spontaneity. I-Pete Pans yenqaba ukuvuma ukuthi impilo ngokwayo iphinde ibe yi-adventure, nakuba kungeke ibukeke njengengqikithi engathandeki, kodwa kuyinkimbinkimbi, iyabuhlungu futhi ibuhlungu. I-Pete Pans yanamuhla ayifuni ukwephula inhlalakahle yabo, ngakho-ke iyahamba ngokungahleli kahle, futhi mhlawumbe ayiboni nje ...
Odokotela bezengqondo bezinye izizwe bayaqiniseka ukuthi leso sifo siwumphumela wokukhubazeka emfundweni yomndeni. I-Peter Pan yanamuhla iba yikhathi senkolweni yesikhathi sethu, akakhokhwa muntu kunoma ubani, unakho konke. Kodwa intombazane yaseWendy, eyayilwela ukubuyela ekhaya emndenini wayo, ukutadisha nokusebenza, maduzane iyoba ngumlingisi ozimele.
Ikhophi endala yomlobi weNgisi uBarry igcizelela ukuthi izingane zangempela, nakuba zindlela yazo, zihle futhi zihle, ekuqaleni ngokokuziphatha kwazo zizinhliziyo, zingenakuziphendulela, zihlukumezeka, azikwazi ukuzidela noma ukuzidela. Ngesikhathi kuphela bangaba abantu abavamile, futhi kulokhu kufanele basizwe ngabantu abadala abadonswa isikhathi eside futhi bajwayele ukubhekana nezinto ezikhona ekuphileni komuntu omdala. Uma abazali bengenzi lokhu, khona-ke umfana ngeke akwazi ukukhula. Kwenzekani kuye?
Yena ngokwakhe akakhathaleli ukuthi ungubani, futhi abantu abakuzungezile bahlushwa kanye naye nokungahloniphi kwakhe, ukuqonda okuyizinganekwane, ukugwema okungapheli ebhizinisini, ukungazimisele ukubhekana neqiniso emehlweni akhe. Uhlala ecasula labo bantu abathandayo nabamnakekelayo, bachitha nabo emphefumulweni, nakuba efuna ukuthandwa nokuhlonishwa.
Umfanekiso wesimo sengqondo wePan Pan Panamuhla:
Ukukhubazeka ngokomzwelo. Ukusabela kwakhe akufanele, futhi imizwa ivinjelwe. Uveza ukucasuka kwakhe ngentukuthelo, injabulo ngokuzizwa, nokudumazeka ngokuzihawukela njalonjalo.
Ukungabi namandla okuzenhlalo. Kungakhathaliseki ukuthi uzama kanzima kangakanani, akanalo abangane bangempela, ngoba yena ngokwakhe akakwazi ukuwazisa abantu futhi angakunikela kalula. Lapho esemusha, uwela ngaphansi kwethonya lontanga yakhe. Angazi okuhle, futhi yini embi, ngakho-ke yenza ngokuphazamiseka. UPetru wathinteka kakhulu futhi anentshisekelo yabantu be-showchuzhim kunomndeni wakhe. Ungumuntu onesizungu futhi uma lokhu kuqonda kufika kuye, ukwesaba kuhlela.
Inkambiso yenhlanzi . Ufuna ukungaboni izinkinga, ecabanga ukuthi bazozixazulula ngaphandle kokuhlanganyela kwakhe. Akalokothi axolise, ngoba akavumeli amaphutha akhe. Ufanelwe ikhono elihle lokugxeka abanye kwabanye.
Ukuthembela kumama . Uyazi ukuthi ungumama wakhe - uyamcasula futhi ngesikhathi esifanayo uzizwa enecala, kodwa usafuna ukuqeda ukunakekelwa kwakhe nomthelela wakhe. Unobungane obunzima nomama wakhe, ngoba uhlambalaza ngokuthukuthela. Ngenkathi encane uPeter Pan ucindezela ngomzwelo, ngakho unina unika lokho akufunayo, ikakhulukazi ngokuqondene nemali.
Ukuthembela kubaba. Uyise akakwazi ukuxhumana ngendlela evamile. Ufuna ukusondelana noPapa ngokomoya, kodwa akazethembeki ukwamukelwa kwakhe nothando lwakhe. Ngisho nalapho esekhulile, uyise uhlala engumhle kuye. Ngenxa yalokhu, izinkinga zangunaphakade zizalwa ngobukhulu.
Ukuxhomeka ngokocansi . Ungumuntu ongenakusiza emphakathini ukuthi lokhu kushiya uphawu olukhethekile ebuhlotsheni bakhe nobulili obuhlukile. Lapho sekufika ukukhulelwa, uPeter Pan uqala ukufuna umngane, kodwa ngenxa yokungazi kahle kwakhe, amantombazane ayamahloni kuye njengedemoni evela empepho. Uyesaba ukuthi uzobe esenqatshelwe, ngakho siyafihla lokhu ngaphansi kwesigqoko sobuhluku nobuhlukumezi. Ngakho-ke, ngisho nangemva kweminyaka engama-20, uhlala engumfana, unamahloni okuwamukela futhi utshela wonke umuntu ngempumelelo yakhe yokucabanga.
Izimpawu:
- Kusukela eneminyaka engu-12 kuya ku-17, uPeter Pan unezimfanelo ezine ezizibonakalisa ngokwazo ngezinga elihlukile - ukwephula indima yezocansi, uhlamvu olungenasici, isizungu nokungahloniphi.
- Kusukela eminyakeni engu-18 ukuya kweyengu-22 bayeka ukuphika izinkinga zabathintana nabo futhi bavele baba yizintatheli. Bayekezela ukukhangwa ngokobulili ngokwabo, bayaziqhenya. Ngaphezu kwalokho, zibhekene nokuhlukumeza ngokweqile.
- Kusukela eminyakeni engama-23 kuya kwengu-25 kunenkinga enkulu, badumala empilweni, baqala ukuxhumana nomusa wabo.
- Kusukela eminyakeni engama-26 kuya ku-33 ubudala, uPetru kaPeters bahlanganiswa neqiniso lokuthi ukuphila kuphelile futhi baqala ukuziphoqelela ukuba babe ngabantu abadala, ngaphandle kokuthatha umthwalo kunoma yini.
- Kusukela ku-34 kuya ku-45 ubudala - ngalesi sikhathi, ngokuqinisekile kukhona umndeni, izingane kanye nomsebenzi, kodwa abayeki ukuphelelwa ithemba, ngenxa yokuthi ukuphila kwabo kuyithandeka kakhulu futhi kunomusa.
- Ngemuva kweminyaka engama-45 kaPeter Pan uqala ukucindezeleka futhi uthukuthele nakakhulu. Kunezikhathi lapho bacabanga khona ngokuthi akukho okushiwo empilweni futhi abadingi ukuphila. Baqala ukucinga ubusha, bashiye umndeni futhi bafune abesifazane abancane.
Abaningi bethu sebevele beqonda ukuthi isiqhingi sezinyamazane siyisihlathi esibi kakhulu. Ngezinye izikhathi singakhumbula indlela epholile ngayo ebuntwaneni, kulula futhi enganaki, kodwa ungazami ukubuyela emuva. Ngokuqinisekile ngoba bayeka ukungenangqondo, bengenangqondo futhi bengenangqondo. Kodwa, ngeshwa, akubona bonke.