Uma ubumba emmpandeni wale nkinga, kubonakala ukuthi yonke into iyimvelo yemvelaphi yomuntu. Isaga - umuntu uyisidalwa esingaphelele, ngoba akunakwenzeka ukuchaza yonke "imfucumfucu" ebuhlotsheni. Sivame ukulahlekelwa okuthile, njalo umuntu ovela kubini (m + f) ngeke anelisekile ngento ethile. Yiqiniso, lokhu ngeke kwenzeke ezimweni zokuqala zokwakha ubudlelwane. Konke kuvela kancane kancane, lapho umuntu "ehlushwa" nge-monotony futhi wembula ukuthi ubani osondelene naye ngokuphelele. Asikho isixazululo kule nkinga, kodwa kunezinhlawulo eziyisisekelo njalo, okulandelayo okuzokwazi ukwakha umbhangqwana ofanelekayo. Kuzokwazi ukuveza kubo, kuqala, ukuhlonipha omunye nomunye. Khona-ke kufika izinga lomuntu onjalo ngokuthi "ikhono lokukhuthazela nokuzwelana". Futhi ekugcineni - ukuqonda okufanayo.
Kwenzeka ukuthi ubudlelwane buwela phansi ngesinyathelo somuntu wesifazane. Kuthiwani kulo muntu icala? Ngempela, indoda iyisivikelo sobulili obuthakathaka, unamandla, unesibindi futhi unganakunyakaziswa. Kungabonakala, kufanele ahambise lokhu kulahlekelwa ngokuqinile futhi aqhubekele phambili. Ekuphileni kwangempela, konke kuhluke ngokuphelele. Futhi, yini ephawulekayo, lapho umuntu eqina futhi eqina ngokwengeziwe isikhundla sakhe sokuphila, ubuhlungu obukhulu nakakhulu lapho eyohlala naye othandekayo. Lesi yisikhathi esingokomqondo esingokomqondo: umuntu uyisimiso sezinzwa ezibuthakathaka kunokwesifazane. Futhi kungakho kuyadingeka ukumnika usizo olubonakalayo ekunqobeni lesi sigaba sokuphila. Ngakho ake sikhulume ngokuthi singamsiza kanjani indoda esanda kuqeda intombazane.
Into yokuqala okudingeka uyikhumbule yindoda esesimweni esifanayo - ayifuni ukuthola imbangela yalokho okwenzekile kuwe. Uma owesifazane engakutsheli ukuthi kungani enza lokhu, isizathu asikho kuwe. Iphutha labaningi yi-"self-flagellation" eyaziwayo. Indoda, uma owesifazane ethandeka kakhulu kuye, uqala ukuzicabangela ngombono ongalungile, isb. uzisole ngakho konke okwenzekile. Umphumela uba ukucindezeleka isikhathi eside, ukulahlekelwa ukuzethemba nokwehluleka kwengqondo. Esimweni esinzima kunazo zonke, kubantu abanamandla okubuthakathaka, kukhona nesifiso sokuphuza utshwala njengendlela yokunciphisa ubuhlungu. Futhi-ke, lokhu akusizi ukuthi ukhohlwe owesifazane, noma kulula ukudlulisa ukuhlukana kuye. Ngakho-ke, uma bekungekho isizathu esicacile sokuhlukanisa - ungazami ukukuthola ngokwakho.
Into yesibili engasetshenzwa kulokhu kuvele nje ukuthi uphile futhi ulinde ukuthi okuhlangenwe nakho nokubuhlungu kudlule. Lona impendulo yombuzo wokuthi ungamsiza kanjani umuntu osanda kuphuka nentombazane. Le ndlela ibuhlungu kunazo zonke kubesilisa nabesifazane, kodwa inempumelelo engu-100%. Masikushaye futhi utshele izikhathi eziyinkulungwane, kodwa leli zwi elithi "yisikhathi sokuphulukisa kakhulu amanxeba", enza njalo futhi yonke indawo. Ubuhlungu obuvela ekulahlekelweni ekugcineni kudlula.
Indlela yesithathu ubuhlobo obusha. Kuphela akusiyo ubuhlobo obunzima wena ngokwakho, obuthakathaka ngokusuka kwenye intombazane ukuya kwenye, kodwa ubuhlobo obuvele buvele kuwe ngenxa yokuphila komuntu okujwayelekile. Ungazivali, funa abantu obaziyo abasha, kodwa ungazami ukuqala into entsha, uhlole, ukhulume futhi wena ngokwakho ngeke uqaphele ukuthi uzomomatheka kanjani, nakuba ngenyanga edlule ucabanga ukuthi ngeke uphinde uyenze. Futhi-ke, awuhambisani neseluleko sabaculi abaqoqayo abaqoqayo abanobunye bathi indlela engcono kakhulu yokukhohlwa intombazane ingamantombazane amaningi amasha ngangokunokwenzeka emva kwakhe. Ngaphandle kokuthi akusizi ukukhohlwa umuntu, ngakho-ke akunjalo neze umuntu.
Okwesine kuyoba izindlela ezinjengokukhathalela, njengoba besho, ngenhloko ukusebenza. Lokho amandla, usizi oluthola kuwe, lungabonakala ngokuphelele ekuphileni kwansuku zonke. Ungahlali ungenzi lutho, usebenze, udlale imidlalo, ufunde umsebenzi omusha, ngemuva kwakho konke, kodwa ungenzi lutho, ngoba lokhu kuzoholela kulokho okushiwo ngenhla.
Owesihlanu yiqiniso, iholide elinde isikhathi eside. Khumbula konke okukukhathalelayo, bese ushiya ukuphumula. Kodwa, ngokuphambene nezigwebo ezivamile, ukuphumula okungcono kakhulu kuleso simo ngeke kube yizilwandle zasolwandle zaseTurkey, lapho iningi labesilisa abalahliwe, kuphela ukusebenzisa i-mini-bar futhi bafuna ukwenza iholide yeholide, namaholidi asebenzayo endaweni ethile kude nalokho okuzokukhumbuza okwedlule. Izindawo zokubhuka ze-Ski, ukugibela kwentaba, ukudoba, ukuzingela, ukudoba kuphelele. Ngamafuphi, ukuphumula okusebenzayo yilokho okudingayo lapho owesifazane ephosa.
Mhlawumbe, azikho ezinye izindlela, ngokusho, zethonya lomzimba ngokwakho. Hlala kuphela ngokomoya. Futhi lokhu kusho ukuthi kufanele ucabange ngalokho okwenzekile nokuthi kwenzekani. Bheka impilo evela ngaphesheya ngaphambi kokuba uphelelwe ithemba. Mhlawumbe uzokhumbula ukuthi yini ofuna ukuyenza ngaphambi kokuthi ube nesigamu sesibili futhi lokho okwakungeke kwenzeke kuso. Kungaba yinto yonke, konke - ukuqala nge-hike ngamatende ngesonto ehlathini, ekupheleni kokuthenga ikhaya elincane le-brewery! Hlaziya konke okwenzekile. Kodwa, hhayi nje ngesimo sengqondo esingenangqondo.
Yiqiniso, zonke lezi zeluleko azikwazi ukukusiza ngaso sonke isikhathi. Kunezici eziningi lapho izinga lokuhlangenwe nakho kwakho lithembele khona. Okubaluleke kunazo zonke kuzoba yisikhathi osichitha kanye nowesifazane owakushiya. Uma kuthatha isikhathi eside, kuyoba nzima ukukhipha izinkumbulo. Kodwa, kunoma yikuphi, ungakhohlwa ukuthi konke kuhamba isikhathi. Futhi, ukuze uhambe ngokushesha, landela konke okungenhla futhi uzozizwa uphinde futhi umuntu ojabule, owenza kahle.