Yini okufanele uyenze uma umenyiwe ukuvakashela?

Uthole isimemo, futhi manje, eqhutshwa umqondo womsebenzi noma isifiso sokwenza abantu babe mnandi, hamba lapho ungafuni khona ngempela. Ungaqinisekisa kanjani ukuthi wonke umuntu ovakasheleyo ulungile? Futhi ngaphezu kwakho konke.
Isimo esinqaba - isifiso esikhulu saseBrithani sokuhlukanisa ngesonto lokuqala emva kwamaholide kaKhisimusi noNyaka Omusha - iminyaka eminingana, ochwepheshe bafunda inhlangano kahulumeni waseBrithani "Siza umndeni." Ukubheka kanye nokuhlola kwabonisa ukuthi ukuphumula komndeni kuyisisusa sokuqeda ubudlelwane uma bevele beqhekekile (ngamacala angu-90%) futhi bebuhlungu kakhulu, noma ngabe konke kwakuhle ngaphambili (ngo-50%). EYurophu, izifundo ezinjalo azange zenziwe, kodwa izazi zengqondo, abasebenzi bezenhlalakahle, kanye nabantu abavamile abahlala ezindlini ezinomsindo obuthakathaka bodwa bazi ukuthi isikhathi eside amaholide, ukuphikisana okuqhubekayo nokuxabana. Futhi esinye sezikhulu "eziphambili" zalesi simo, ngokumangalisa, abantu abasondelene kakhulu - izihlobo nabangane, hhayi kuphela umlingani, kodwa ngisho neyabo. Ngempela, ukusekela ukudla okudliwayo, ukuguqula kahle ukudla, ukuhambela imindeni yonke emvelo, ukuvakashelwa okukhululekile kunogogo nomama okhungathekile ukungabi khona kwakho, nokuhlala isikhathi eside ngesonto endlini yabangane bakho, kumele ube nezinzwa zensimbi nomlingani ongakaze uhlangabezana nemizwelo emibi.

Amabhonasi ama-5
Uma ukukhulumisana kukhulu noma kungamnandi, ukuhambela izivakashi noma ukwamukela izivakashi kuyashintsha ibe yindleko enzima. Noma kunjalo, kunezizathu zokuya emsebenzini wezinhlelo eziphoqelekile. Ngisho noma wazi kahle yonke into yemibuthano, ungachitha isikhathi esiningi nawe, awuthandi abanye kulabo abakhona.
1. Umkhuba kuyinto enhle. "Njalo ngeSonto lokuqala lonyaka sihlangana nogogo futhi sidle uphase ngokusho iresiphi yakhe" - kubonakala sengathi iyabuhlungu futhi ibuhlungu. Eqinisweni, kuyinto ehlala njalo, engashintshi eyenza impilo yethu yengqondo nengokwenyama. Bakha ukuzethemba kithi ezingeni elingenakuqondisisa, umuzwa wokuvumelana emhlabeni nasemphefumulweni.
2. Ukukhulumisana nesizukulwane esidala kuqinisa umshado. Futhi yilokho kanye, ithebula lokugubha, lapho ukuphikisana okusobala kungacaciswanga futhi kuphela izihloko ezamukelwayo ezivame ukuxoxwa. Kuqinisa ubudlelwane obungokomoya phakathi kwezizukulwane kanye nemicabango mayelana nokubaluleka komndeni ngokubanzi.
3. Imihlangano nabangani "yiminikelo" yemvelo ngokomzwelo. Ukubambisana okukhulu, kunesithakazelo esikhulu. "Usekele umngane - ngokubuyisela wamukele isifiso sakhe esiqotho sokusiza. Woza uphinde uvuselele ngempelasonto yakhe enesizungu - uzojabula ukukusindisa esimweni esibi. Cha, yebo, akekho ocabangela noma yini futhi akarekho lutho. Ubungane nje buqobo bukhomba impendulo, ukushintshaniswa nokuphindaphindiwe njalo.
4. Amaholidi - yisizathu sokulungisa ubuhlobo. Phakathi kwengxoxo evamile etafuleni lokugubha ukudlala kulula ukwenza isinyathelo phambili ngendlela yegama elilodwa lomsindo. Kwabe sekunye okunye ...
5. Ubuhlobo nezihlobo nabangane kuyisibonelo kubantwana. Bazofana nani, babe abangane, njengazo, bajwayelane, baxabane futhi bathethelele, basamukele isimo sethu sengqondo kubantu kanye nezwe ngokujwayelekile futhi bawamukele njengowokuphela kweqiniso.

Akunzima kakhulu
Angifuni ukuhamba, kodwa angikwazi ukunqabela. Ungakukhuthazelela kanjani ukujabulisa okunjalo? Hlala, ugcwalise umndeni nomsebenzi wezenhlalakahle, ubheke ngeso lengqondo ngehora bese ubonisa konke ukubukeka kwakho, kubi kangakanani lapha? Akunjalo! Uma uvumelene futhi ufika, sebenzisa isikhathi esiwusizo. Noma ezithakazelisayo. Noma kumnandi kakhulu.
Sivakashela omncanekazi, ugogo nomkhulu.

Iholidi elinesizukulwane esidala ngokuvamile lihamba kanje . Okokuqala kuyodingeka ukubika: njengomsebenzi, njengezingane, njengezempilo. Bese uzama konke ukudla, ngoba ugogo wakho uzama kanzima, bese ulwa nomuzwa wokukhathala okukhulu futhi ucabange ukuthi yini enye ongayisho. Futhi abaphezulu, abazoba nzima nakakhulu, kungakhathaliseki ukuthi bangabantu abathandekayo nabanomusa kangakanani. Njengoba uneminyaka yobudala, abantu banemizwelo engaphansi, kancane, futhi njengoba kukhona ukushintshana okuqhubekayo kwamandla ekukhulumisaneni, ngokuqinisekile ungashiya ingxenye yakho. Ngakho ukukhathala.

Hlanganisa kokubi
Khumbula zonke izenzakalo ezimbi kakhulu zamaholide alolu hlobo kulo mbuthano. Ulalele kanjani indaba engapheli: "Lapha sisebuntwaneni bakho", njengoba usuphule umkhumbi wakho omthandayo owakuthandayo ngokushesha emva kwamazwi omyeni wakhe: "ULeelena uyathanda izinto ezinhle", njengoba u-tata ethanda ukukudonsa u-pantyhose, isikhathi eside kangakanani. Yini okudingekayo? Ukuthi ukuhambela okuzayo kubonakala kuwe emva kwemizwa enjalo ejabulisa kakhulu. Okubi kunalokho, akunakwenzeka ukuba.

Ngomzwelo omuhle, futhi. Futhi thola okungenani plus eyodwa kumcimbi ozayo. Masibe ngumfana onjenge-patekazikazi omncane, oyithandayo kakhulu, kodwa ngokwabo, abazange bakwenze, kuzodingeka bachithe kaningi futhi ekuphekeni.
Nikeza ukunakekelwa komndeni. Akukho okuyokwandisa ukunikezwa kwamandla, njengesisombululo sezinkinga ezihle. Memezela ukuthi unqume ukudala umuthi womndeni, futhi udinga ulwazi olunembile mayelana nezenzakalo zonyaka. Izinkumbulo ezihlangene, izindaba kanye nezimpikiswano kuzobanika amandla okukhuphuka kwamandla, kuzophakamisa isimo sengqondo, kuzobenza bajabule ngokwengeziwe. Izinkumbulo zomndeni zenza abamele isizukulwane esincane ngendlela ehlukile, kepha futhi ngokuqinisekile: zisusa ukukhathazeka futhi zenza umqondo wokuzinza.

Iholidi yinkampani enkulu (yebo ngisho nezingane) . Kuyoba mnandi kakhulu. Izingane ziphikisana kuqala ngezipho, ngakho-ke ngenxa yokuthi ngubani, lapho uhlala khona, khona-ke kungcola iholide ngokuphelele. Futhi uma inkampani iphinda ikhethe umuntu ongajwayelekile?
Woza kakade "upsy". Ngomqondo othile, ngesimo sengqondo esihle, noma ngabe asihlobene ngokuqondile nomcimbi. Yenza usuku oluthile okuthile okuzokukhokhisa ngenjabulo enhle nejabulisayo (uthenge izingubo zangaphansi ezinhle kakhulu, thola kumanethiwekhi omphakathi we-intombi endala, uchithe nomlingani ubusuku obuphambene nabo). Into esemqoka ozwa ngayo. Khona-ke iqembu lizoba mnandi kakhulu. Phela, hhayi izenzakalo kuphela ezishintsha imizwa yethu. Kukhona futhi impendulo.
Hlela ukuzijabulisa ngehora. Yebo, lokhu kuyindlela edla isikhathi esiningi futhi enesifiso. Kodwa emcimbini uqobo, akudingeki uqinisekise izingane futhi usungula lapho uhamba khona, ukuthi ungenzani nabo.

Hlela ubuciko. Izitshalo (ngisho noma zilula kakhulu, ezivela ezintweni ezithuthukisiwe nezinto ezidala) zizoshintsha leli holide libe ngcono: ulethe isimo sokukhanya futhi ukwandise kakhulu izinketho zokuzijabulisa. Futhi nezingane, uma uzibophezele, kuzoba lula ukuchaza ukuthi kungani amanye omalume no-akazi beziphatha kabi kangaka.
Bamba izandla. Uma wena nomlingani wakho esesibuthanweni esingasondelene nawe, ungabe usuka komunye nomunye. Okuzungezile ngeke kunakekele, kodwa ubuhlobo bakho buzofudumala: uzozizwa usondelene futhi uzibonele ngokuthi "thina".
Ingxenye yesikhathi. Enye indlela - musa ukusondelana nhlobo. Xoxa nabanye, uhlanganyele ekuzijabuliseni okujwayelekile futhi ngesikhathi esifanayo uxoxe njalo nomlingani wakho kuphela ngamehlo akho. Kuyoba mnandi futhi kuthakazelise (ngemuva kwakho konke, umdlalo), ukuqonda (amathuba okubukeka ankulu kakhulu) futhi afana ne-sexy. Kusihlwa ngeke kudlule ize, futhi ngemuva kwalokho ngokuqinisekile uzoba nokuthile okuzoxoxa ngakho nokuthi yini okufanele ukwenze.
I-reverse side of the holiday
Abaningi bethu abakwazi ukuma isigqi sokuphila kwemikhosi. Yilokho okudingayo ukucabangela ukuze ugweme imiphumela emibi. Ungavumeli lutho lonakalise lo mnandi!

Ukuthukuthela nokuxabana
Umuntu ngamunye unendawo yakhe siqu-leso sikhala esizungezile, esivumela abantu abasondelene kuphela, futhi ngezinye izikhathi sifuna ukuba sihlale sikhululekile. Ukungenelela kule ndawo yabangaphandle kubangela imizwelo emibi ngokumane nje ezingeni lezemvelo. Uma "izinxushunxushu" zincane, khona-ke ukucasuka ngeke kube namandla kakhulu. Futhi uma abantu endaweni yakho siqu "bethathwa phansi" izinsuku ezimbalwa manje?
Ukunganeliseki kokubili "Uma abangane bakho noma abazali beza, ungumuntu ohlukile!" - ngamunye wethu angasho inkulumo enjalo. Ngokuyisisekelo siziphatha ngendlela ehlukile lapho sikhulumisana ubuso nobuso nomlingani futhi uma singena kumbuthano obanzi. Ngokuvamile, ukuziphatha akuguquki kangcono kumuntu osondelene nathi, noma ngabe kuphela ngenxa yokuthi sikhathalela kakhulu abanye abantu.

Ukucindezeleka nomzwelo wokukhathala okukhulu
Amaholidi ashintsha umbuso wethu. Futhi ukuphoqelelwa ukuya emicimbi ehlukahlukene kuqinisa ukucindezeleka. Ngenxa yalokho, umzimba uchitha inani elikhulu lemithombo yawo, futhi emva kweviki sithola sengathi asinamandla. Akumangalisi ukuthi ngokuphendula kwesinye isimemo, kunesifiso sokumane uthumele amakhadi okubingelela, sibonga kanye nezincazelo kuzo zonke izihlobo nabangane ongenakuzamukela noma ukuvakashela. Unelungelo lokulahla! Ukuzibandakanya ekukhulumisaneni kuvame ukukhombisa isifo sokushisa ngokomzwelo. "Imithi" evela kuye - ezokungcebeleka, uchithe yedwa noma embuthaneni omncane kakhulu.