Uma abakhethiweyo bakho bengavamile kodwa bephuza, kodwa noma cha, kuqala kokunaka ngalokhu. Vele uzame ukuyilawula, yenzeni kuphela unobtrusively, ngaphandle kweminye imilutha kanye ne-scandals. Khumbula, amadoda ayithandi uma etshelwa ukuthi angaphila kanjani. Kulula, kuleso simo kubalulekile ukubhekana nale nkinga ngokucophelela futhi ngokucophelela. Okokuqala, udinga ukuthola ukuthi yiziphi izici zokuphila kwakhe noma imvelo ezenza akwenze. Futhi ngakho-ke, ake sibuyele kumqondo wezinsizwa eziyinkimbinkimbi futhi sithole ukuthi: uma umuntu ephuza kancane, izizathu zalesi simo?
Njengoba uyazi, umphefumulo wesilisa uyisihlathi esimnyama, futhi thina besifazane, akunakwenzeka njalo ukuqonda ukuthi kungani benza lokhu noma lezo zinto. Kodwa, njengoba wazi, yonke into inezizathu zayo ezikhethekile ezivumelekile. Kungaba kokubili ngaphakathi nokuhamba nayo ekuphileni kwansuku zonke. Umuntu angase anganeliseki ngomsebenzi wakhe, isikhundla sakhe, isikhundla sakhe. Yazi, amadoda kunzima kakhulu ukukhuthazelela ukukhathazeka kokuphila nokuphazamiseka kulokhu noma kulolu chungechunge lokuphila noma ubudlelwane. Ngenxa yalokhu, kunokuba bavulele kuwe futhi bakhulume, bayishiya tet-a-tet ngotshwala nezinkinga zabo. Uyakhathala ngomsebenzi ofanayo, kokubili ngokokuziphatha nangokwenyama noma nje ongakwazi ukuphumula, kanye nengilazi yobhiya, msize nje kulokhu. Futhi, kaningi, abantu badla utshwala, kungenxa yethu, abesifazane. Isibonelo, uma ezwa buthakathaka kunakho, ke kulokhu, ethatha utshwala, uyazicabangela ngokuzimela njengomuntu. Phela, utshwala njalo lunikeza indoda isibindi nokuzethemba. Futhi, utshwala, lunikeza isibindi hhayi kuphela kwabesifazane, kodwa nakweminye okuthiwa i-halves enamandla. Uma ngithathile, ngizoshisa amaconsi ambalwa, ngokuqondile ukuze kube nesibindi, umfana angatshela intombazane ukuthi ayiyithandi nokuthi yini angathanda ukuyilindela yona esikhathini esizayo. Esinye isisusa esibalulekile ukuthi umuntu anganeliseki impilo yakhe yomndeni. Ukuhlambalaza nokuhlambalaza okuqhubekayo, ukuhlambalaza nokunganeliseki, ngokushesha noma ngemuva kwesikhathi kumkhumbuza ngaphandle komkhuba wokuphila ozolile nokulinganisiwe. Lapha, icala elibonakala licace kakhulu livela kulo wesifazane uqobo, owathi ngenxa yokucindezela kwakhe kumyeni wakhe noma isoka lakhe, uyamkhuthaza, ngokucindezela kokuziphatha okusheshayo, ukuyiqeda konke engilazini ye "imithi" eqinile. Ngendlela, yizinkinga empilweni yakhe eyisizathu esibaluleke kakhulu sokunamathela komuntu ukuthi uqala ukuphuza. Lapha singakwazi ngokuphepha futhi sihlanganise isici socansi. Lapho, yena, engaqiniseki ngamandla akhe wesilisa noma eqiniseka ukuthi ubulili ngaphandle kwamabhodlela ewayini ngaphambilini ngaphambili akusikho konke okudingayo. Nalapha futhi, ngokucacile, kungaba yisizathu sokuthi ngosizo lokuphuza utshwala, umfana uvele elwa namahloni akhe noma amanye amathebhu akhe angaphakathi. Lokhu akusebenzi nje kuphela ekuphileni okusondelene. Ngemva kwamaconsi ambalwa okuphuza utshwala, ufundisa zonke izinto eziyinkimbinkimbi, uyaba nomuntu othakazelisayo, ekhululekile futhi ethakazelisayo. Khumbula izinkimbinkimbi zabantu - lokhu kuyinkinga yabo yamadoda amakhulu, futhi ubulili obuqinile buzama ukulwa nayo yonke indlela. Noma kunjalo, akukhipha eceleni, iqiniso elingenakuphikwa ukuthi okhethiweyo wakho uvele ekhishwa yizinkinga zansukuzonke, izinkinga zansuku zonke nokunye noma uzizwa ehlala yedwa futhi engenasici. Futhi lapho ehamba ebhasini kusihlwa, yena, ngokumane, ngaleyo ndlela, uhamba kude nakho konke angakusho kukwanele. Isiphetho kulokhu kungenzeka ukuthi akanayo nje izinto zokuzilibazisa nezenzo, okungenzeka ukuthi, ngokuqondile, uyakunakekela lokhu futhi aziphazamise.
Ungakhohlwa ukuthi ngale ndlela, indoda ingakwazi ukulwa nezinkumbulo zakhe ezingathandeki nokuthukuthela ngokuphila, izingcindezi kanye nezimo ezihlukahlukene zomzwelo zezwe langaphakathi. Noma nje isizathu esiyinhloko sayo yonke into yendawo yakhe, ozakwabo nabangani bakhe. Ngokuqondene nabangane, yinkampani yabangane - yile ndawo lapho ukwenqaba ukuphuza utshwala kuyinto engalungile kunoma ubani, ngisho neze umuntu ophuzayo noma isoka. Kodwa-ke, uma ubheka le nkinga kusukela ekubukeni kwemithi, kufanelekile ukuphendukela kumuntu ohamba naye - ngemva kwakho konke, ukulangazela kwayo ingilazi egcwele kungase kungabi yizifo ezimbi kuphela.
Futhi ngokuqhathanisa phezulu komugqa oyinhloko ngaphansi kwayo yonke into engenhla, kubalulekile ukuphawula: kungani uzithuthukisa wena emcabangweni wokuthi okhethiweyo wakho uphuza kancane. Akangena emabhokisini onke amasonto onke, noma ngisho naphakathi nenyanga, akadakwa nsuku zonke kuningi, okungukuthi, emkhunjini omhlophe. Uma umuntu ephuza kancane - izizathu zalokhu zingase zingabi nengozi kakhulu, ngakho ungagijimeli eziphethweni futhi ungamfaki uphawu lomlutha wotshwala. Ukumbiza ngokuthi udoti kungaba yisenzo esingalungile. Yiqiniso, uma ungumsekeli ophelele wokuphila okunengqondo futhi ungasebenzisi iziphuzo eziqukethe amaphesenti atshwala athile, bese ukhuluma nje nenhliziyo yakho ekhethiwe. Into eyinhloko yenzeni ngaphandle kokuhlambalaza kanye namahlaya. Mchaze kahle ukuthi akuhambisani nawe, futhi ungathanda ukuba ayeke ukuphuza. Uma umuntu ethanda futhi ekwazisa, ngokuqinisekile uzolalela umbono wakho.