Ngokombono wezazi zengqondo, imibhangqwana eminingi lapho ukuziphatha okunjalo kungekusha, kuqukethe ukuxhomeka okukhulu kwengqondo komunye nomunye. Ngamafuphi, ngaleyo ndlela, indoda, njengombuso, incike kumkayo, izwa (noma ngokuvamile ingazi) lokhu kuxhomekeke, inomuzwa wokuthi awunamandla kulokhu kuxhumana futhi ixazulula umbuzo wokungaziphathi kahle ngendlela enhle kakhulu, ukuzama ukubonisa ukuphakama kwayo kanye namandla . Isisulu, futhi, sizama ukuzivikela, kuvame ukwenza esinye isenzakalo. Uma ingacasuli, u-tyrant uthola isisusa futhi uqala ngokwakhe. Isibonakaliso esibaluleke kakhulu sokuba khona kwengcindezi yengqondo yowesifazane kungukuthi emva kokuhamba kwakhe "kuze kube phakade", ubuyela ngokuphindaphindiwe, ukuthenga phakathi kokuncenga nokuncenga komlingani wakhe olahliwe. Ngenkathi ngesikhathi sokubuya, wayenethuba lokuphila ngaphandle kwakhe, kokubili ngokwezezimali nangokomzimba. Lezi zimbhangqwana zihlala kule modelo iminyaka eminingi futhi, njengomthetho, ungahlukanisi. Futhi behlukaniswe - bahlanganiswa futhi. Yini umuntu angayenza kulabo abangewona "abanenhlanhla" abanjalo, abesifazane abangenalo ukuthembela okunjalo kwengqondo kulabo abahlukumezayo futhi bafisa ukulahla indlela enjalo yokuphila.
Ake sizame ukucabangela okukhethwa kukho okubili: okokuqala - lapho ubudlova bubonakala ebuhlotsheni babantu abasha, lapho insizwa iphakamisa isandla, engakafiki ebuhlotsheni obuqinile ngokwanele futhi engenabantwana, kanti okwesibili - uma ubudlova kwenzeka emndenini osevele usukhona. Kuzo zombili izimo, impendulo yinye - ukuhlukanisa ubudlelwane ngendlela engenangqondo kakhulu. Kulezi zimo ezimbili, isimo se-gap asifani neze. Uma okokuqala igebe likwazi ukuhamba kalula, kanti okwesibini akulula kakhulu.
Izizathu eziyinhloko zokubambezeleka kwegebe: ukwesaba owesifazane, uma owesilisa emethusa; ukungakwazi ukuxazulula inkinga yezindlu; ukutholakala kwezingane ezihlangene; futhi, ekugcineni, ukukholelwa komuntu okwenza owesifazane akholelwe ukuthi "lokhu kwakuyisikhathi sokugcina." Esimweni lapho owesifazane esatshiswa, noma ngokuphambene nalokho, uthanda umhlukumezi wakhe noma azisole izingane ezingakwazi ukuhlala ngaphandle kobaba - lokhu kuyinkinga yowesifazane, okuvame ukubhekana nayo. Ukwenza lokhu, kubalulekile ukuqonda ukuthi isibonelo sikababa ophakamisa isandla kumama uyisibonelo esibi kunazo zonke, futhi kungenzeka ukuthi aphinde abuyele emndenini wezingane ngokwabo esikhathini esizayo. Ukulondolozwa kukababa emndenini akusona isizathu sokuzidela. Kumele kukhunjulwe ukuthi ukushaywa ngumama kuyisifo esingenakulinganiswa kwengqondo yengane, esithinta kokubili ukuzethemba kwakhe nesimo sakhe sengqondo-ngokomzwelo. Ngokombiko weqiniso, phakathi kwababulali abasha - iningi lalahlwa yicala lokubulala abantu, abahlekwa ngamama. Kubalulekile futhi ukuqonda ukuthi ukuhawukelwa akuyona inketho, ukukhumbula ukuthi umhlukumezi, lapho ethinte isandla phezu kwesifazane, akazange abe nesihawu. Kuzoba nzima kowesifazane ukuba abhekane nokumesaba kwakhe indoda uma esongela yena noma izingane zakhe. Ukwesaba kuyithuluzi elinamandla kakhulu lokuhambisa. Kulesi simo kuyadingeka ukuthi ulinganisise - ukuthi yiziphi izinto ezisongela u-tyrant, nokuthi yini okumelwe yenziwe ukuze ingabonakali. Uma kukhona indlela yokuzivikela futhi kunezingane, kudingeka wenze okuthile. Ngenxa yegebe elinjalo, kanye nasezindabeni zokuxhomekeka kwezezimali kumuntu wesibindi, owesifazane uzodinga usizo oluvela ngaphandle. Kungaba ukusekelwa kwabazali, abangane, izihlobo, noma ubani, uma nje lokhu sekugcineni kusize. Kunoma yikuphi, owesifazane ekuphumeni kwesimo sakhe kuzodinga amandla amakhulu nesibindi. Angakusizwa ngesidingo sokunakekela izingane zakhe, isidingo sokuzivikela ekudakaleni kobudlova basekhaya.
Futhi, akufanele sikhohlwe ukuthi ezimweni eziningi abesifazane baqonda konke, kodwa banqabe ukuthatha izinyathelo zokuzikhandla ngenxa yokwesaba "ukuthatha ilineni elingcolile ngaphandle kwendlu," besaba ukuthi "abanye bayothola ngakho", abangane, izintombi futhi indaba enjalo ngeke yengeze kuye, uma umuntu ephakamisa isandla sakhe. Bafihla emanzini ehlazo. Lezi zinkinga kufanele ziqedwe ngokushesha ekuhlungeni, ngoba umqondo onjalo wehlazo udlula kuphela lapho umuntu ehlakazeka ngokuphelele, isimo siqala ukudlulela kunoma yiluphi uhlaka olungenzeka futhi umbuzo awusekho ngempilo, kodwa ngokuphila komuntu wesifazane. Ngesikhathi nje isisulu, njengoba esho, sithwala imilenze yaso, uyakhohlwa ngomzwelo wehloni nokwesaba idumela lakhe nedumela lomndeni wakhe. Ngenxa yalesi sizathu, akufanelekile ukulinda.
Ngizofakaza kimi - ngibheke esikhathini esizayo, okungukuthi icala elingase libe nesahlukaniso, owesifazane kufanele alobe konke ukushaywa okubhalwe phansi - ukuya kudokotela futhi ngisho nokusebenza emaphoyiseni. Esikhathini esizayo, uma insizwa izama ukuhudula ingubo eceleni kwayo enkambeni yesehlukaniso uma inquma ukuthi ubani ozohlala nezingane, imibhalo enjalo ingamsiza owesifazane umsebenzi omuhle.