Indlela yokuthola "igolide elisho" ekukhuliseni ingane?

Wonke umzali uthanda ingane yakhe futhi uyamthanda konke okusemandleni akhe. Ngokuvamile lokhu kuholela ekutheni abazali bafeza ngokungazelelwe noma yisiphi isifiso somntwana. Lena iphutha elikhulu. Ukungalaleli okunjalo komzali kuvela ekuziphatheni kwezingane, ukuhaha nokunganakwa kwabanye. Iningi lezingane, njengoba lijwayele ukuzithokozisa kwabazali njalo, liveza ukunganeliseki nganoma yikuphi ukwenqaba izidingo zabo, futhi ukunganeliseki kwabo kuboniswa ekuhlaselweni kwabahlaziyi, ukufutheka noma intukuthelo kubazali.

Okunye okudlulele ngokwezemfundo kuyinkinga ngokweqile nengane. Kulokhu, ingane ivinjelwe cishe konke. Lokhu kuvela ekuvaleni kwakhe komlingiswa, ukuthobeka ngokweqile nokujabha okubuhlungu.

Indlela yokuthola "igolide elisho" ekukhuliseni ingane?

Uthando oluningi ngokweqile lomntwana luboniswa ngugogo nomkhulu ocela amathoyizi namaswidi. Ingane iyazi ukuthi ingayifinyelela yonke into evela kuzo, futhi isimo sesidingo sibe isimo sakhe esivamile.

Uma umntwana enqatshelwe okuthile, uqala ukuhlambalaza abazali bakhe ngokungamthandi, angakhala, akhathazeke. Esimweni esinjalo, kubalulekile ukuchazela ingane, njengokungathi kalula futhi kalula, isizathu sokwenqaba, ukungamhlazisi futhi ungenzi izizathu. Ukuthi ingane ayizange iphenduke kumbusi wesibindi, kuyadingeka ukuyicacisa ukuthi izwi labazali ngumthetho, ukuphikisana nabo futhi akulungile. Kudingekile ukuqinisekisa ukugunyazwa kwabazali ngokushesha ngangokunokwenzeka, ukuze ingane iphathe ngokubili abazali bobabili ngenhlonipho, ukuze umbono wakho ubaluleke kuye.

Akudingekile ukuchitha ubudlelwano nomntwana. Izingane eziningi ziqonda abantu abadala uma zichaza kahle ukuthi ukuziphatha kwabo kubi. Khuthaza izenzo ezinhle zengane, zijwayele umusa, isihe, ukuphana. Izimfanelo ezinjalo, ngokungangabazeki, zithinta kakhulu umlingiswa womuntu omncane. Uma ingane isheshe ifunde ukwabelana namaswidi amancane namathoyizi, izomsindisa ezinkingeni eziningi ekukhulumisaneni ekuphileni kwamuva.

Ungenzi olunye ulwazi olubi kakhulu lwezemfundo. Abanye abazali bagcina izingane ngokuzithoba ngokugcwele futhi zivumela ukuzikhulumisana nabo njengamagama athi: "Vala!", "Ungakhuphuki!", "Hamba!", "Phuma!". Lokhu akunakwenziwa noma, ngoba ukukhulumisana okunjalo kulimaza ingqondo yengane. Uqala ukwesaba abantu, uba yedwa kuye, athole ubuningi bezinkimbinkimbi. Ngokuvamile, izingane ezikhuliswe ezimweni ezinjalo ziqala ukungabi nomusa kubazali bazo, ukuba zizesabe. Kumele siqonde ukuthi ingane ingumuntu omncane. Akuzona zonke izidingo zakhe ezingenasisekelo nobugovu.

Ukuze ugweme lokhu okungaphezulu kokubili kwezemfundo, uhambisane nemithetho elandelayo yokuziphatha nezingane.

- Ukulalela zonke izidingo zomntwana. Ukuhlukanisa izidingo zakhe zangempela kanye nokushaya. Ungaphuthelwa ezindlebeni zesicelo somntwana.

- Hlala uqine ngokwakho, wenqaba ukugcwalisa i-caprice yengane. Ngemva kokubona ukuthi akakwazi ukuphikisana nomzali, izinyane lizonqika futhi liqaphele ukuthi uma umama noma ubaba ethi "cha", kusho ukuthi "cha." Uma ubona impumelelo ekuziphatheni kwengane, qiniseka ukuthi umtshele lokhu, mbonga ngakho.

- Khuluma nengane yakho kaningi. Mtshele ukuthi kusho ukuthini "ukuziphatha kahle" nokuthi "ukuziphatha kabi". Mbonise izibonelo zokuziphatha okuhlukile kwezinye izingane emgwaqweni, esitolo, enkulisa. Ngokuvamile lezi zibonelo "zokuphila" ezinjalo zokuziphatha okubi zinomphumela omkhulu wokufundisa.

- Yakha ubuhlobo obuseduze nengane. Yibani umngane wengane yakho kusukela esemncane, ngoba izokunika ubuhlobo obuhle nokuqonda ezinganeni zakhe, okubaluleke kakhulu. Izingane azithandi othisha abaqinile, kodwa zilalela wonke amagama omama wabo asebekhulile.

Ubani ozoba yintombazane yakho kuwe.