Esikhathini sethu, kunamacala amaningi okuba ezinkampanini ezintsha. Futhi ngubani, uma kungenjalo intombazane ehloniphekile, ukhathazeke ngobudlelwano obuzayo? Uma usembuthweni lwabafokazi futhi ufuna ukwenza umbono omuhle, futhi futhi usondele kubantu, kufanele ufunde ezinye izincomo. Into esemqoka khumbula ukuthi uyintombazane futhi udinga ukuziphatha njalo ngesithunzi.
Zibuke ngokwakho ngabanye abantu
Okokuqala, udinga ukwenza umzamo wokuhlola ngokwanele ukuziphatha kwakho. Kunconywa ukwenza lokhu ngisho nangaphambi komzuzu lapho uqaphela ukuthi kukhona okungahambi kahle futhi sekuyisikhathi sokushintsha. Uma ngabe omunye emphakathini omusha uyakubona enendima enjalo, isimo sengqondo esihle singashiwo "ukuhlelwa". Yebo, kungakhathaliseki ukuthi ukwesaba, ukungathandeki, njll, udinga ukuzibheka ngaphandle futhi uqonde ukuthi yiziphi iziphambeko zakho ezibalulekile, ngokuvumela ukuzithoba, ukuziqhenya nokuziqhenya kokuzihlonipha. Bese uqonda izinguquko: yini engalungiswa masinyane-yenza okokuqala: ulethe ukubonakala kwakho ngokuhlelekile, ufunde uhlobo oluthile lokuthuthukiswa kwezincwadi, ugcwalise isilulumagama ngezinkulumo ezidingekayo njalonjalo. Futhi yini ongayazi okwamanje, angasishiya eceleni. Kodwa ungakhohlwa ngakho bese uzama okungenani ukufihla ukwehluleka kwakho, uma ungenamandla entweni ethile, ungaqali ingxoxo ezokuholela kule ndawo. Ngokwesibonelo, awunayo imizwa yokuhlekisa futhi awukwazi ukuhleka usulu, kodwa ke wanquma ukugcoba - akufanelekile!
Phatha abantu ngendlela ongathanda ukuba bakuphathe ngayo
Into yesibili inkulumo engenhla. Hlakulela ngokwakho isimo sengqondo sokuqapha nokucabangela abanye abantu. Ngaphandle kwamakhono afanele, uzohlale uwela ezimweni ezimbi kakhulu futhi zonke izinkinga zakho zizohambisana nalokhu iphuzu. Into esemqoka ukufunda ukuhlonipha imibono yabanye ukuze abantu bahloniphe umbono wakho.
Zigcine emphakathini uzizwe ungakhululekile - kalula. Ngisho noma ufike nomngane oyedwa noma ababili, futhi balahlekelwa ngesikhathi esibucayi kakhulu futhi abazi ukuthi baziphathe kanjani, basebenzise isimo futhi babonise konke ukuhlakanipha kwakho. Into eyinhloko ilula futhi isiqiniseko sokukhulula ngaphakathi kwesizathu. Thanda ukukhulumisana futhi kuzokuthanda.
Ngokuba intombazane incono kakhulu ukujwayele ukuxhumana nobulili obuhlukile ngokusebenzisa izingxoxo ezihlakaniphile. Ukuxhumana ngalunye kunikezwa ithalenta lokukhulumisana, udinga nje ukuyihlakulela kumkhawulo odingekile futhi wonke amadoda enkampanini yakho entsha ayakho. Ngakho-ke, funda izincwadi ezimbalwa zezincwadi futhi ukhulume ngezihloko ezizosondelana nabo bobulili bobabili. Into eyinhloko ukuthi ngisho nalabo abaxhumana nabo abangazange bafunde izincwadi ezikhethekile bangase basekele isihloko. Zizwa ukuthi yiziphi izinkinobho ozidingayo ukuze ucindezele ngesikhathi.
Yazi umngane wakho
Uma ufika enkampanini entsha, khona-ke kulaba besifazane uzoba "umphikisana" ngokuzenzakalelayo, futhi kumadoda, inyamazane efunayo. Ngakho-ke, kusukela emzuzwana wokuqala udinga ukusho ukuthi ungubani, kodwa ulalile ngokuthula. Njalo wazi ukuthi ulalele kanjani i-interlocutor yakho futhi uma kunesidingo, bonisa ukuzwelana noma okungahambisani nalokhu - injabulo.
Amasu wabesifazane
Ngaphansi imibono female gizmosmozhno cabangela izinto ezimbalwa ukuthi uzokukwenza unkulunkulukazi kusihlwa futhi umngane best emphakathini ngokuphelele.
Umthetho wokuqala "Ukubukeka"
Ngaphambi kokuya enkampanini entsha, qinisekisa ukuthi ulungele ngokwengqondo lokhu. Bheka ukubheka ngeso lengqondo. Zama ukucabanga ukuthi uzwa okuthile okuhle kulaba bantu. Akufanele uzizwe ungathandeki, kodwa ngokuphambene nalokho, ukuthi wena futhi kulula futhi kulula, kokubili ekukhulumisaneni nasendlini efanayo. Cabanga ukuthi uthola injabulo kubangane abasha futhi baphatha kahle. Yibone ngeso lengqondo ukuthi uthole umngane noma umuntu onjengawe emibonweni. Ngokuvamile, zizwe isimo sokuzethemba.
Inombolo yesi-2: "Ziba ngokwemvelo"
Usuke wangena futhi wangena, futhi manje ungena ngaphakathi. Lapha -ukubona abantu abasha: abangani nabangani abasha! Akudingeki ucabange ukuthi ngubani owakubheka noma owakuthandayo, kodwa ongubani. Khumbula, futhi bacabanga ukuthi uyayithanda yini noma cha. Khumbula ukuthi udinga ukuzigcina ungazami ukujabulisa umuntu. Yiqiniso, lokhu akusho ukuthi udinga ukukhombisa ukuthi ngubani "umnikazi" kusukela kumzuzwana wokuqala , kodwa futhi akudingekile ukuba ube mnandi ngokungadingekile - lokhu kuzokwazisa abaningi. Uma othile ezwa ubuciko bakho, khona-ke ungasebenzisa lokhu ngenzuzo yakho.
No. 3 "Funa okuthile okuhle kuwo wonke umuntu"
Uma ungena, ungaqala ukubheka abantu nokuziphatha kwabo kalula. Akudingekile ukugxila ngokushesha ekuhlulekeni kwabantu, ngokuphambene nalokho, bheka izinzuzo. Uma ubona isithunzi, khona-ke ungakwazi ukuxhumana kalula nomuntu ngalokhu.
№4 «On the positive»
Yeka ukuthi lesi siphakamiso asizange sibonakale singakanani, kufanele usilalele, ngoba sidlala indima ebalulekile. Konke, njengawe, kungenxa yezinto ezinhle nokuxhumana okuhle, futhi konke okubi kunqatshiwe.
№5 «Ukubaluleka ngosizo amakhono siqu nolwazi»
Lalela ngokucophelela. Ngaphambi kokuba uqale ukukhuluma ngawe futhi ngokuvamile ukhulume okuthile, lalela, abantu baphekwa: yiziphi amagama abazisebenzisayo, abakushoyo, abakushoyo, uhlobo luni lokukhuluma, yiliphi inkulumo, inkulumo esetshenzisiwe nokunye.
Uma ukukhulumisana kangcono kunokuba i-interlocutor yakho ibe yizinto eziphazamisayo akuphazamisi, ikakhulukazi uma wena ngokwakho ungabhekana nakho nanoma yini. Uyakwazisa wena futhi uma kwenzeka lapho ukhuluma khona. Yiba ozimele futhi unomthwalo wemfanelo futhi uzophumelela.
Izingxoxo zisekelwa kahle izimpendulo ezingenasipiliyoni. Vumela inkulumo yakho iphendulwe, kodwa hhayi amahora amathathu. Kuyoba nzima nokusebenzisa izimpendulo zelinye lamasonto.
Uma intombazane ingabonakali inhloni enkulu futhi ibonisa isithakazelo kwabanye ngabanye, khona-ke lokhu kuyisici esihle somlingiswa.
Kukhona izimo lapho konke kuhamba kahle, bese ingxoxo isuka. Ungathukutheli, kungenzeka njalo ukuthola indlela yokuphuma kweso simo, noma kunalokho isihloko esisha sokuxoxa. Uma kusetshenziselwa ukuxhumana usuvele ukwazi ukuthola umhlabathi ovamile, khona-ke ubunzima abuvuki.
Uma kukhona ukungqubuzana, qhubeka uzolile. Ungazitholi imizwelo, lalela ingqondo yakho. Ukuzitholela kuyinto ikhadi lakho lempondo kunoma iyiphi inkampani engajwayelekile.
Yini okudingeka uyenze ukuze wenze ukuzwa?
- Ngaphambilini, inyanga ukufunda ama-classics amaningi aseRussia ngangokunokwenzeka.
- Buka izindaba, qaphela zonke izenzakalo, wazi ngezindaba zezemidlalo okungenani amaqiniso ayisisekelo: ibhola, i-volleyball, ibhoksi, ukubhukuda nabanye.
- Qonda ukudoba, ukuzingela, izimoto. Akudingekile ukuba yi-Ass, kodwa ngokujwayelekile kuyadingeka.
- Landelela izitayela zomkhuba, ngakho-ke unento yokuxoxa ngayo namanye amantombazane.
- Isikhathi sokuqala kungcono ukugqoka akusikho okuvusa amadlingozi futhi kuziphatha ngendlela efanele.
- Yazi imithetho yokuziphatha nokuziphatha emphakathini. Isibonelo, uye endaweni yaseshashalazini, futhi izindawo eziningi sezivele zihlala futhi kufanele udlule ngabantu abaningana ukuze ufike endaweni yakho. Kulesi simo, hamba ukuhlala, ukuze ungabalimazi futhi, kungenjalo, ungacasuli.
Umthetho oyinhloko kubo bonke abajwayele ukuxhumana nabo ukuvuleka, ukuzithiba, umuzwa wokuziqhenya nokuziqhenya.