Ake sibheke lo mzwa kusuka kolunye uhlangothi. Uma kwakungekho ukwesaba, bekungeke kube nomqondo wokuzimela. Singakwazi ukuhamba silula ngaphesheya komgwaqo ngaphandle kokubheka. Ukwesaba futhi kungomunye wabashayeli abakhulu bokuziphatha kwethu. Uma sesaba ubudala, kufanele siqale ukuzizinakekela thina. Into esemqoka ukuthola indawo yakho ngokwesaba, futhi ungamniki ithuba lokushiya. Futhi kukusiza kulokhu kuhlaziywa kwezenzo zakho nemicabango. Lo mzwa ujwayele kuzo zonke izidalwa eziphilayo, kodwa kulesi sihloko ngingathanda ukugxila ekukhathazeni kwabesifazane. Emva kwakho konke, singabantu abazenzisi nabangokomzwelo, lokhu kuzoqinisekiswa yinoma isiphi isazi sokusebenza kwengqondo. Futhi umuzwa wokukhathazeka ngokwabo, ngezihlobo zabo nabangane, uhlale usikhathaza njalo. Kungakhathaliseki ukuthi sasihlukile, kodwa izizathu zokwesaba esinakho ngokubanzi zifanayo.
Ukwesaba ukuba yedwa
Ngokuvamile, ukwesaba isizungu kusenza sibe nezenzo ezihlukahlukene ezingenangqondo nezingajabulisayo. Uvuka ngokungazi ikusasa lakhe. Sisezinkambeni zabantu abangathandeki, sibekezelela umuntu ongathandi, hhayi nje ukuba yedwa. Yiqiniso, akekho umuntu emhlabeni ongase abe yedwa isikhathi eside. Uma izibonelo ezinjalo zikhona, khona-ke lokhu kuyimpilo. Kusobala ukuthi kungani futhi kuvela abesifazane. Kodwa ungamniki intando. Uma umyeni esephuzile emsebenzini, ungazitholi isithombe esithile nomunye wesifazane. Othandekayo akakukhathaleli kancane, akusho ukuthi imizwa ibanda futhi ingakuphonsa. Futhi noma ngabe ungakafiki nomngane wakho, ungafaki isiphambano empilweni yakho kusengaphambili.
Zithande wena, nje uthando. Ungahlali emini futhi ungazitholi ngokungaqiniseki. Kungcono ukubhalisela umdanso noma iklabhu yokuzivocavoca, hamba nabangani endaweni yaseshashalazini. Ungakholelwa, awukwazi, kodwa sonke sizungezwe izingqimba ezingabonakali zamandla. Imizwa emihle kakhulu evela kithi, iyinto ejabulisa kakhulu ukusizungezile. Ngisho noma ungabonisi ukungazethembi, ukucasuka, abantu abaseduze bazozizwa. Ngeke nje bajabule nawe. Izazi ze-Psychologists zizoqinisekisa ukuthi impilo ayipheli lapho ihlukanisa. Ufanelwe kangcono futhi ngokuqinisekile uzofika. Futhi lokho kwesaba akukwesabisi injabulo onayo, thola nabathandekayo bakho izinto zokuzilibazisa nemisebenzi. Kodwa ungakhohlwa ukuwayeka ukuthi ahambe "mahhala", uhlangane nabangani, ujabulele ithimba lakho ozithandayo.
Ukwesaba ukungabi nandaba
Akunabesifazane ababi, azikho kahle kahle. Ngenxa yalesi sizathu, noma yisiphi isazi sezengqondo sizoqinisekisa ukuthi kufanele uzithande futhi uzizinake ngokucophelela. Yiqiniso, akusho ukuthi kubalulekile ukuphishekela izindinganiso ezivunyelwe ngokujwayelekile ezingu 90-60-90, noma ukulingisa onobuhle kusuka kumagazini omangalisa. Owesifazane ngamunye unomusa wakhe, udinga ukuzama ukukudalula kuwe.
Amadoda akholelwa ukuthi ayethanda amehlo, kodwa namanje akhangwa ngezinga eliphakeme ngobukhulu besimo semvelo. Futhi kubonakala ekuziphatheni kwethu, bheka, ukulinganisa nokuthinta. Emva kwakho konke, khumbula wena, abesifazane abaningi abanomuntu omuhle kakhulu bajabulela ukunakwa kubantu futhi baye bazuza okuningi ekuphileni. Uma uhlushwa ukwesaba kokungazenzisi kwakho, ngakho-ke, uzikhukhumeza ngezidlo ezinhle, ungakhohlwa ukuphendukela kokuqukethwe komphefumulo wakho oyingqayizivele.
Ukwesaba ukubeletha
Ngokuvamile ukwesaba ukubeletha kuvela ekungazi inqubo uqobo. Kusuka emlonyeni wabangane, ukulandisa mayelana nenqubo yokuzalwa kwengane, konke kuzwakala kuyingozi futhi kuyingozi. Futhi uma ubukela amabhayisikobho ngokukhala nokukhala, isithombe esicindezela kabili. Kodwa bheka nxazonke, izigidi zabesifazane zibeletha izibulo, bese ziqala okwesibili, okwesithathu. Abesifazane abahlelwe ngendlela yemvelo, ukuthi ubuhlungu bokuzalwa bukhohliwe emahoreni ambalwa. Futhi intombi yakho imtshela ngokomzwelo ukuthi indlela yakhe idlulisiwe kunokuba ingakaboshwa, kodwa ukukumangalisa ngokwengeziwe.
Muva nje, odokotela bavame ukucasuka ukuthi abesifazane bayakugwema ukuzalwa ngokwemvelo, futhi baholwa ukwesaba, benze konke ukuze bafinyelele imvume yecala lokugcina. Uma wenza isinqumo esinjalo, ungakhohlwa ukucabangela iqiniso lokuthi ngesikhathi sokulethwa ngeke ulimale. Kodwa inqubo yokutakula ngemuva kokusebenza izohlala isikhathi eside.
Ukwesaba ukulahlekelwa umsebenzi wakho
Ukwesaba kuhlukile. Kodwa ukwesaba ukulahlekelwa umsebenzi kungenye yezinto ezivame kakhulu. Lokhu kuzoqinisekisa kuwe noma yisiphi isazi sezengqondo. Ngakho-ke, ukwesaba ukulahlekelwa imisebenzi yabo nokusiyisa esigabeni sabantu ababizwa ngokuthi ama-workaholics. Kuyinto eyodwa ukwenza imisebenzi yabo ngekhwalithi. Enye into yokwesaba ukubukeka komnumzane, ukusebenza ebusuku, uthathe yonke imisebenzi elandelanayo. Uyakwazi umehluko? Ungazibonakali njalo ebuholi ukuthi ungcono futhi ufanelwe indawo yakho. Ukuqhathaniswa kwemizamo yakho kuyoholela ekukhathala okungapheli nokulala ebusuku.
Ungaqeda ukwesaba ukulahlekelwa umsebenzi wakho ngezindlela ezimbili. Thola wena inketho yokusekelayo, noma ube ngumphathi ensimini yakho. Khona-ke uzokwazi ukuthi ngaphandle komsebenzi ngeke uhlale. Yebo, futhi uma uba njalo, akekho ozokuncisha kule ndawo. Into esemqoka ayigodli lapho. Njalo ukwandisa intuthuko yakho: izilimi zokufunda, ukuya kuzo zonke izinhlobo zezifundo kanye nokuqeqesha. Ulwazi olwengeziwe lunikeza ukuzethemba.
Ungesabi ukuthi ungaba yisikhathi
Owesifazane kufanele enze izinto eziningi ngosuku. Yondla umndeni, uthenge ukudla, amahembe wensimbi, uye emsebenzini, uthathe izingane esikoleni. Futhi lokhu kuphela ukuqala kohlu. Futhi uvula amehlo akho ekuseni, ukhumbule izingxenye zawo, unomzuzwana enhliziyweni yakho. Kunalokho, ukwesaba nokukhathazeka kuza: kanjani ukwenza konke ngokuhamba kwesikhathi?
Nokho, njengoba usuku luqala, kanjalo uzolichitha. Ngakho funda ukulawula imizwelo yakho. Phela, bayothatha kuwe amandla angasetshenziswa ezindabeni zasekhaya nakweminye. Uma uqaphela ukuthi uphazamiseke, lungisa uhlelo lwezenzo zakho kusihlwa. Futhi, ekugcineni, kumele kube njalo ngabasizi phakathi kwamalungu omndeni wakho.
Abanye bacabangani ngami?
Ngokuvamile, ukwesaba kubangelwa ukuzethemba okuphansi. Lapho abantu bakubheka ezokuthutha, zama ukucacisa imizwelo yakho. Ngicabanga ukuthi ezimweni eziningi umcabango uzodula: "Ingabe kukhona okungahambi kahle kimi?". Kubaluleke kakhulu kithi ukuthi sinomqondo omuhle kuphela. Ngakho-ke, sizama ukujabulisa wonke umuntu. Kodwa lokhu akunakwenziwa. Yebo, futhi, ngezinga elikhulu, abantu abakuzungezile bangaba yikuphi isimo sakho sezenhlalakahle, ukuthi ngabe izinwele zakho zihle yini, kungakhathaliseki ukuthi le ngubo ikufanele yini. Akunandaba ne "I" yakho. Mane ube ngokwakho, futhi kuyohlale kukhona abantu abayithokozelayo.
Ukwesaba ukuguga
Intsha ayiyona ingunaphakade. Ngakho-ke, iningi lethu, ngokwezazi ze-psychologists, maduzane liqala ukuzwa ukwesaba ukuguga. Enhliziyweni, akekho noyedwa kithi ofuna ukubekezelela lesi sikhundla. Nsuku zonke sizibheka esibukweni bese sibheka imibimbi emisha kanye nemidwebo yobudala. Kodwa kufanelekile ukukhathazeka, ngoba lesi sikhathi asibuyanga emuva. Ungalahleki isikhathi ekuphefumuleni okungenalutho, kodwa kunalokho qala ukuzizinakekela. Abalungisi bezinwele, izimonyo zokubukeka, ezemidlalo, imizwa emihle, uthando, bheka-emashumini akho anamashumi amane unikezwa ngamashumi amabili nanhlanu. Sondela eminyakeni njengempahla eletha ukuhlakanipha nokwazisa wena. Futhi ungacabangi ukuthi ukuguga kuyothola isizungu futhi kungabi namandla. Bangaki abesifazane abadala abakhulisa abazukulu, bafunde izilimi zangaphandle, bahambe, futhi bahlele ngisho nokuphila kwabo. Khumbula ukuthi noma kunini, injabulo isesandleni sakho.
Ukwesaba kuvame ukuthatha thina, njengabesifazane abayizinhlangano ze-psychic ezicashile. Ngokuvamile, ukwesaba kuvela ekungazini, kuyoqinisekiswa yinoma isiphi isazi sokusebenza kwengqondo. Ngakho-ke, kubalulekile ukuqonda ngesikhathi ukuthi kungani kubonakala, futhi hhayi ukunikeza ithuba lokukuqonda. Ukuqeda kuphela ngokuqonda, kodwa nakanjani ngeke ulwa.