Eqinisweni, ukuphila okuhlangene akulutholi othandweni olulodwa kuphela, lobu buhlobo bufana nemiklamo yesimanje ezindizeni eziningana, lapho kugcinwa khona enye indawo phansi kwezindleko zomunye. Lo mklamo ufana nesistimu eyinkimbinkimbi, kunokuba isipho sekusasa. Ngisho nezinhlobo zokuthandana kakhulu kufanele zibheke ngezinto ezinjalo ezingathandeki njengokuzinza kwezezimali, ukwehlukaniswa kwamandla emndenini. Ukubusa kuba yilokho okwakungavamile.
Ubuhlobo be-Free in pair kukhona enye yezinhlobo zendlela ehlangene yokuphila, lapho ukuziphatha mahhala of amabili noma eyodwa ally kuthiwa. Kunezinhlobo ezimbili zobudlelwano obukhululekile - lokhu kungukubukwa kokukhululekile kokubili kanye nesifiso senkululeko yomunye wabalingani. Ngokuvamile le ndlela yokuziphatha ibanjwe ngamadoda.
Abesifazane, bathanda kakhulu ukuba nomndeni ovamile, izingane, indoda ethembekile, okungukuthi, isibonelo sobuhlobo bomndeni. Kulo modeli, isidingo sokuba nehlombe elinamandla senyuliwe, badinga ukuqonda ukuthi ezikhathini ezinzima bazoba usizo. Kungenxa yabantu baleli zwe lokubuka ukuthi umbono wobudlelwane bamahhala awuthandeki kakhulu. Bakholelwa ukuthi ubudlelwane bekhululekile ukuphunyuka emithwalweni hhayi umbutho ovela othandweni. Okunye okuningi kubo, ukufudumala komndeni, umuzwa wokuphepha nokuzethemba ezindabeni ezizayo. Kulokhu, owesifazane ofuna "ukufundisa kabusha" umuntu onjalo, ukwethembeka, akunakwenzeka.
Enye indlela, umuntu ojwayele ukuthembela kuye kuphela, ngoba bonke abantu bayashintshana, uyakwazisa kakhulu amathuba okuvuselela impilo yakhe ngemizuzu. Labo abasekeli bobudlelwane obukhululekile. Laba bantu, ngenxa yomthethosisekelo wabo wendalo okhethekile, abakwazi ukwenza ngaphandle komlingani oyedwa futhi akunandaba ukuthi uyindoda noma owesifazane. Ukufunwa okuqhubekayo kwendabuko, i-adventurism, i-adrenaline igijimela egazini labo. Lokhu kuyimvelo yesithembu, abahlukumezi ngalokhu, ngakho-ke abalahli. Kubantu abanjalo, uthando luyisibopho esingokomoya (njengoba sibiza kanjalo) kanye nabalingani abasheshe bahlale nje baneliseka ngokwezifiso. Ebudlelwaneni behhala, umhawu nomqondo wobunikazi yizici ezidlana.
Inkululeko ebuhlotsheni - njengendlela ehambisanayo yobudlelwane bomndeni, ukuxazulula ngamunye ngamunye. Uma ugxiliwe, kodwa ukuze uziqhekeze, yakha kabusha imibono yakho bese uphula ingqondo yakho ayikufanele, akukho okuhle okuhle okusondelene nenye yezinto ezikulo futhi akuveli kuwo.
Ngempela, esikhathini sethu, wonke umuntu wesibili ukwesaba ubuhlobo obunzima. Phela, akubona wonke umuntu ofuna ukuqonda ukuthi ubudlelwano buyinto yokuzibophezela kanye nomthwalo wemfanelo othile wokulungele ukwenza izinto eziyekethisa kanye nekhono elikhethekile lokungaqapheli ukwehluleka komunye nomunye. Uma okuthile kungasebenzi empilweni, abesifazane bajwayele ukusola abantu ngalokhu, futhi amadoda akholelwa ukuthi inkinga yenkinga yansuku zonke ihlala yabesifazane. Yiqiniso, zikhona, zombili zilungile. Kodwa kaningi ngokwanele ukuzizwa sizijabule kakhulu ukwesaba kwethu kanye nezinkathazo eziphazamisayo.
Ngemuva kwalokho, ubudlelwane bokudala bakhelwa kuphela ekuthembeleni, ngobuqotho nokuvuleka. Ukukhuluma nokulalela inkinga kusho ukuthatha izinyathelo zokuqala ekuxazululeni, ngakho kubalulekile ukukhulumisana, hhayi ukuhlala nokuqagela ukuthi yini engqondweni yakhe.