Indlela yokuziphathisa owesifazane lapho uhlangana nendoda

I-jibe engalindelekile, ukuphawula okungaqondakali noma inkulumo ephosiwe ngengozi kungashukumisa umuntu ngokushesha ukuba aqhubeke ejwayele.

Kulesi sihloko sizocabangela amaphutha avamile kakhulu abesifazane abawenzayo lapho bejwayele ukuxhumana nabantu, futhi sizohlaziya umbuzo wokuthi kufanele siziphathe kanjani nowesifazane lapho sihlangana nendoda futhi yiziphi amaphutha okufanele zigweme. Ngokuphathelene nokubuza ngokucophelela, ukungavikeleki noma ukuziphatha okubi, ukuhlukumeza ukufaneleka kwakho, njll. Yiqiniso, injabulo emhlanganweni wokuqala noma ngosuku lokuqala iyaqondakala, ikakhulukazi uma unesithakazelo esikhulu futhi uthinta umuntu. Kodwa ukuboniswa ngokweqile kwabo kunomthelela omubi ebuhlotsheni. Amadoda ayithandi abesifazane abasha abesabekayo futhi bazama ukuwagwema. Yiqiniso, ungase ube nezizathu zomgomo zokukhathazeka, kodwa lokhu akusona isizathu sokukhathazeka ngokucindezela ngeminwe yakho, ukuguqula unyawo lwakho, noma ukuguqula izinwele zomunwe wakho.

Akufanelekile ukwakha emhlanganweni wokuqala wezinhlelo zesikhathi eside, futhi okubaluleke kakhulu, ukuwaphonsa ekhanda lomngane wakho omusha. Ikakhulu uma lezi zinhlelo zihlotshaniswa nomuntu othobekile. Indoda ingesaba umsebenzi wakho okwedlulele kule ndaba, ikakhulukazi ngoba abantu ngokwabo bathanda ukunquma konke nokuhlela. Vumela okungenani bakholwe ukuthi yibo, futhi akusikho ophethe inqubo nobuhlobo.

Umqondo omubi kakhulu kumuntu, futhi ngokujwayelekile labo abakuzungezile, uveza inkulumo engalungile, imisho emincane noma ukuhleka okungalungile. Akubonisi nje kuphela izinga eliphansi lokuqonda kwakho, usenza umqondo womuntu ohlangene onentshisekelo yakhe yonke ekunciphiseni ukuba agqoke, agqoke izingubo zoboya, amakhekhe futhi ahlale eziqhingini ezingaphandle kwezilwandle. Umbono ovamile wokuthi amadoda angathandi abesifazane abahlakaniphile yindabakwane. Eqinisweni, amadoda ayakuthanda, aqonde futhi ahloniphe abesifazane abahlakaniphile, kuphela abesifazane abesaba lapho owesifazane ebonisa ngobukhulu ukuphakama kwakhe phezu komuntu ngokwe-erudition, ukufunda, njll. Lokhu kuyaqondakala, uzovuma, kunoma yimuphi umuntu, kungakhathaliseki ukuthi ubulili, Kuyinto engathandeki lapho bembeka njengesiwula noma oyisiwula.

Lapho usebenzelana nendoda, ungayisebenzisi isithakazelo sakhe kuwe, ungadlali nomphakathi futhi unganciphisi isithunzi sakhe somuntu - akekho ofuna ukuzizwa njengepopi ezandleni zomunye umuntu. Ngisho noma umnikazi walezi zandla efiseleka kakhulu futhi ekhohlisa.

U-Wit, amahlaya amahle, ukumomotheka nokuhleka ukukhipha lesi simo kahle, kodwa isikhala esiphezulu ekusebenzeni kwentombazane encane esibhekile ibonakala ingalungile futhi ihlambalaza.

Ukuzizwa ngokweqile kuyamcasula umuntu. Ngokuqinisekile, umusa wakho nesihawu yakho kuyohlale kuhlangene, kepha ukuxolisa ngokumangalisa mayelana nokufa kwenja yakho oyintandokazi eminyakeni eyishumi edlule noma ihlaya elibi phezu komuntu kuzomenza abe nomuzwa wokuphazamiseka nokungahambi kahle. Khumbula, izinyembezi zabesifazane zinamandla kakhulu ukuzisebenzisa ngezimo ezingabalulekile. Abasindise kangcono amacala amakhulu kakhulu, ukuze amadoda angahlakuleli ngalesi sikhathi sokuzivikela.

Ukuzizwa kungakhathazeki kubangelwa ukuthi umuntu akhamuluke ngokweqile, ukwesaba, ukuphonsa okhiye okwesabekayo, njll. Ama-antics anjalo ahlukumeza lo muntu e-rut, ebonisa ukuthi awukwazi ukuziphatha futhi uphendule ngokuthula ngesimo esingathandeki.

Akufanele futhi uzibandakanye kuwo wonke umuntu futhi uvumelane nayo yonke imicabango yakhe - ukuntuleka kwemibono yomuntu siqu kubhekisela kuwe njengomuntu omusha futhi kunciphisa intshisekelo yesilisa. Kulesi simo, uzobukeka njengomdonsa omuhle kuye, hhayi umuntu obuka imibono ngokuphila kanye nesimiso sokuziphatha okuhle nokuziphatha. Kodwa, uma uveza umbono wakho, gwema ukuyibeka kwabanye abantu. Khumbula ukuthi bangaki abantu - imibono eminingi kangaka.

Ungalokothi futhi ungalokothi ukhumbula nomuntu omusha wezinkabi zakhe ezedlule. Amadoda angabanikazi, futhi ukukhulunywa ngabanye, kungakhathaliseki ukuthi bebancintisana nabo ngaphambili, benza izenzo zabo, njengombala obomvu enkunzi e-bullfight yaseSpanishi. Uma ucela ngokuvulekile, ungasho ukuthi akukhathazi ngempela, ngoba konke kudala. Endabeni yemibuzo eqhubekayo mayelana nenombolo yabo, ngokucophelela uveza umqondo ovamile wokuthi kunabalingani abambalwa abalingani bobulili empilweni yakho kunokuba abe nakho.

Ungalokothi uphakamise izwi lakho kumuntu. Itheyiphu yomyalo ihambelana kuphela ebuhlotsheni nabangaphansi, hhayi kumuntu ongathanda ukuyenza, ngakho-ke gwema izenzo enkulumweni yakho ngenhla yokubheka. Uma ucela umuntu ukuba akwenzele okuthile - ulethe amanzi, vula i-ventilator, njll - ungakhohlwa ukwengeza igama lomlingo "sicela", futhi umbulele ngenkonzo eyenziwe.

Madly besyat amadoda kanye nokubiza njalo izintombi, izingxoxo ezinde nabo efonini ngesikhatsi sosuku, i-powdering spout, njll Kulokhu, le ndoda iqala ukuzizwa ingadingekile futhi ingathandeki, futhi ilahlekelwe isifiso sokuqhubeka nokujwayele.

Ukuziphatha okuhle uma ulwa nomuntu kuyisithakazelo esiqotho kumuntu wakhe nangenkhulumomphendvulwano enobungane, ukungakhathaleli ngokweqile lapha akusizi ngalutho: Amadoda amaningi athi ukuhlazeka okuncane kancane komuntu wesifazane ngokuvamile kubonakala njengendlela ekhangayo noma evusa ubulili, nakuba ukuthula njengesixuku akuyona kuyadingeka.

Qaphela isikhundla sakho ngesikhathi sengxoxo - ukuma komzimba womzimba ku-interlocutor kubonakala njengentshisekelo, futhi ukuhlukaniswa - njengobunqunu kanye nesethulo sokuphakama. Owesifazane uvame ukukhanga kakhulu kumlingani uma ehlezi ngokuzolalisa ngezandla nemilenze engekho. Ukuphikisana kuyisibonakaliso esingenalutho sokwesaba nokugwema ukuthintana.

Futhi ekugcineni, amathiphu ambalwa ajwayelekile ngokuziphatha kwabantu besifazane lapho behlangana nendoda: uzibeke njengowesifazane onothando futhi okwazi ukujabulela ukuphila (amadoda angathandi abesifazana abahlukunyezwayo nabesifazane abahlukunyezwayo), zama ukubheka okukhangayo ngangokunokwenzeka (owesifazane omuhle ngokushesha uvusa umuntu emehlweni akhe), ungabonisi isifiso sakho esiningi sokushada, ube nezingane futhi ukuhlela ukuphila komuntu siqu, ungagqugquzeli ukuthuthukiswa kobudlelwane bakho, ubheke ukungenakwenzeka (vumela lo muntu anqobe), ubheke sengathi uyabukeka, kodwa ngokucophelela, ubuke inkulumo yakho kanye nokugcizelela.