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Okokuqala kudingeka siyiqonde: kungani singavamile kakhulu namuhla ukuthi sihlangana nomlingani onamandla oqinile futhi onamandla?
Ukuphendukela kuzibalo, ungabona: eminyakeni embalwa eyedlule, isikhungo somndeni senze izinguquko ezithile. Uma ugogo nomkhulu bethu bezama ukudala isisombululo esinamandla nesingenakunqotshwa emphakathini, ke, emva kwesikhashana, lo mkhuba waqala ukwehlisa izinkomba. Abesifazane bazikhulula ngesifiso sokuzimela ngokuzibandakanya kobulili obunamandla obuthola eminye imiphakathi emphakathini, bathatha isikhundla esisha futhi baqhosha ngobuqotho ngempumelelo yabo. Ukuzimela kwabesifazane kushaya ngokuzethemba ukuhlonishwa kwamadoda - bayeka ukuzizwa bebavikela abalimi. Abanye bakhetha ukuhlukana nomuntu onamandla, ukuze bagweme ukucindezelwa emphethweni wezifiso zabo zesilisa. Futhi yini esiyitholayo ngokubuyisela?
Abesifazane abaningi abanamandla abanezingane ezandleni zabo, abakhululekile kwabashadile, kodwa abantu abanobuhlungu ngenxa yesizungu ...
Manje ake sicabange - uhlobo luni lomuntu owesifazane angakwazi ukuveza umsebenzi wakhe? Owesifazane ngaphandle komuntu, ngaphandle kwezandla ezinamandla, ngaphandle kokusekelwa ...
Mhlawumbe, nansi imbewu yokuhluma kwamadoda abesilisa abakhulelwe ngothando lomama kanye nesikhuthazo (okungenakugwemeka, ngoba wonke umama wazizwa enecala ngaphambi kokuba indodana yakhe ikhulele ngaphandle koyise, noma ngabe lokhu kudabuka kwakufihliwe phansi ngaphansi kwesisindo somuntu webhizinisi). Umfana onjalo akazange abone ngaphambi kwakhe isibonelo esihle somuntu ofanelekayo, ngaphambi kokuba amehlo akhe ekhanyise njalo abesifazane abese bevela emisebenzini, besakudla isidlo sakusihlwa futhi bahlanza izingubo, naphezu kokubaluleka komphakathi. Imfundo yababelethi ingaba yindoda, kepha kubi nakakhulu - ingane isetshenziselwa ukubusa kobulili obuthakathaka futhi uzizwa unamandla nakakhulu.
Yiqiniso, ukhetho lokuthuthukisa indodana emndenini onjalo lingaya kwenye enye ithrekhi - futhi umfana, eqaphela ukuthi uyindoda eqinile, uzoqala ukufaka ilungelo lokuthola amalungelo emndenini wakhe. Kodwa insizwa enjalo ingakhula i-misogynist eyiphutha ehlala ivuselela igama layo "othwala".
Ungayibona kanjani?
Akudingekile ukucabangela ukuthi owesilisa wesifazane anganqunywa "i-radar" yakho ngokubukeka okukodwa kuphela - isibonelo, uhlobo lwawo lokugqoka lapha alufanele neze. Uzobona ubufazi kuphela ngokukhuluma nalomuntu. Indoda enjalo isengozini kakhulu kunezinye. Ngezinye izikhathi, lapho ephikisana nawe, ngeke neze agcine (futhi mhlawumbe angagcinanga) izinyembezi, ngeke nakanjani uhambisane ngezandla zakhe futhi akucele ukuthi umthethelele ngisho nangalokho angakwenzi.
Amadoda anjalo avame ukuhlonipha, azohlale ehlinzeka amajazi awo, avule umnyango wokudlela, asize aphume emotweni. Ukuthandwa komuntu wesifazane osemusha, ohloniphekile ngisho nalapho ehlanganyela ezindabeni zansuku zonke. U-Pridyak ukuvakashela wena, emva kokudla ukudla, insizwa encane, cishe, yagijima ngokushesha ukugeza izitsha, ingakhohlwa ukugqoka ama-apron.
Uzokutshela ngosuku lwakhe lokusebenza olunembile kakhulu, engakhohlwa ukukhuluma ngesikhathi sokuphumula sasemini kanye nemenyu ngemininingwane. Emva kwakho konke, uzovuma, ukuthi amandla okuthola imininingwane, kunalokho, isici somuntu wesifazane, kuyilapho amadoda, engxenyeni enkulu, engathandi ukungena emininingwaneni futhi azikhathaze ngokwabo ngokulandisa okude.
Uma kuziwa ekwenzeni isinqumo esiqakathekile noma esincane esibalulekile - indoda enjalo izocabanga ngesisombululo isikhathi eside, icabangela zonke izinketho futhi ngesikhathi esifanayo esaba ukungaphuthelwa. Yilungele ukuthi uzoxhumana nawe nganoma yiluphi usizo: indlela yokuthola ama-nipples? Indlela yokupheka i-borscht kusuka kulokho okuseqandisini? Indlela yokuziphatha njengesisebenzi esisebenza nabo, ngubani ozama njalo ukugubha phansi phansi kwezinyawo zakhe? Indlela yokuqhuba ingxoxo kusasa futhi ungawa ngobuso odakeni?
Insizwa ensikazi izofuna owesifazane ukuthi ukuvikeleka kwe-iopor, evame ukutholakala kumuntu nganoma yimuphi intombazane.
Umuntu wesifazane: inzuzo kanye nokuqeda
Ngemva kokufunda konke okushiwo ngenhla, amantombazane amaningi angathola umbono: "Fi, njengokungathi bayichaza isitebhisi, indoda engafaneleki impilo, kungani kufanele?" Kodwa-ke, ungasheshi ukubeka isiphambano ngesithambile, ekuqaleni, umuntu obuthakathaka. Phela, unama-pluses akhe:
- Indoda yesifazane ilungele owesifazane othanda ukuyala. Insizwa ethandweni izokwenza noma yikuphi kwesigamu sayo - futhi ngesikhathi esifanayo ingabonakali yintombazane ekhuphukile.
- Indoda enjalo ngeke ilahlekelwe ikhanda uma ikwazi ukuphatha umnotho ngokwakhe. Uyakwazi ukuqala ukuhlanza jikelele, ukupheka ukudla, ukudlala amakhandlela azungeze umkhawulo wetafula ... Ukuhlala nendoda enjalo, akudingeki ukhathazeke ngokuthi lapho engekho khona uzochitha, ukubulala izibuko noma ukukhukhula omakhelwane bakhe - umqondo wokungcola kwekhaya lakhe kubaluleke kakhulu kuye , kunakho.
- Ngeke uzizwe unesimo sengqondo esiphezulu nesokuhoxiswa kuwe. Amanye amadoda ngale ndlela azama ukubopha intombazane esondelene naye - athi, ugijima emva kwami, uzophumelela - bese ethanda ngaphezulu. Esimweni sethu, bazozama ukukuthola, ngisho namahloni, ngaphandle kwamazwi aphezulu nezenzo zobuqili - kodwa awukwazi ukusiza ukuthi uzizwe kanjani ukuthi uyakuthinta ngothando.
- Amadoda wesifazane, ngokuvamile, ayenothando kakhulu. Bathanda ukwenza umnandi kunenekazi wabo wenhliziyo: babhala izinkondlo, bashiye izifiso eziphathekayo zosuku oluhle ngaphansi komshini efrijini, banike izimbali ngaphandle kwesizathu, thatha amathikithi e-movie ngomugqa wokugcina ...
- Ebhekene nokukhanga kakhulu intombazane, ngisho nomuntu onobungozi futhi onamahloni onjalo angakwazi ukwenza isenzo somuntu, ikakhulukazi uma umbuzo uqondene nokuphepha kwakho - kunoma yikuphi, ngeke kudingeke umshaye kumuntu ohlukumezayo.
Esikhathini esiningi ngokweqile umlingiswa wendodana yakho ungathola amaminithi akho:
- Awudingi ukuthembela kakhulu ukuthi umfana uzokwenza izinqumo ezibalulekile mayelana nokuphila - zilungele ukuthatha imithwalo yemfanelo ngisho nangezenzo ezincane kuwe.
- Ukuze umuntu onamahloni futhi osengozini ukuthola umsebenzi ohloniphekile, kuzodingeka aqhutshekwe kuwo. Kungaba nzima kumfana ukuba aphume izinga lezemisebenzi, ngisho noma enolwazi olwanele namakhono okuthuthukisa. Kungenzeka ukuthi, abahlakaniphileyo kakhulu, kodwa osebenza nabo abaphikelela futhi abaqinisayo kulolu hlelo bazoyidlula ngokushesha.
- Uma ungathandi kakhulu izingcingo njalo nezincwadi, uma ungathandana kakhulu - ungase ucasulwe ngokuhamba kwesikhathi ngesifiso sakhe esingavunyelwe ukuchitha nawe yonke iminithi yamahhala. Kodwa ingabe kubi? Mhlawumbe akusiye yena, kodwa ukukhipha kwakho ...
- Abathandi bezinkampani ezinomsindo bazozizwa beboshiwe phambi kwendoda enjalo: akulula ukuphumula, ukubamba ukubukeka kwakhe okubuhlungu, ekucela ukuba ushiye wonke umuntu uhlale naye yedwa.
Akunakutsho ukuthi owesifazane ungowesifazane - nakanjani kuhle noma akubi neze. Kunalokho, owesifazane uyindoda - lokhu kungenakuqhathaniswa ngokuphelele. Kuncike ekutheni intombazane uqobo, umuntu uzothola kumuntu ongakholwayo nomlingani wokuphila okuhle, futhi omunye uzokuqonda ukuthi udinga izandla eziqinile nezizethemba zesilisa - ngakho-ke izinsizwa ezisengozini ngeke zikwazi ukukubamba isikhathi eside.