Ukungcola negolide
Nazi izindaba ezimbili zangempela futhi ezijwayelekile lapho abalingani abazitholile khona emaceleni ahlukene emingceleni yabo. Umlando kuqala. Uthembekile futhi uhloniphekile, kodwa unesizotha futhi unamahloni. Uyintombazane enamandla enezimfanelo zobuholi. Ukuhlangana, uthando, umshado. Bobabili babengabathandi bokuqala. Embhede, lo mfana osemusha waba mnene futhi ozwela, nakuba engasebenzi kakhulu. Umkami akazange abone i-orgasm, kodwa wanquma ukuthi akukho lutho olwesabekayo kulokhu, futhi bakhetha ukumane ujabulele ukusondelana komuntu othandekayo. Konke kwakushelele futhi kuzolile. Futhi ngokuzumayo wahlangana nomunye umuntu, othandana naye futhi ozethemba, embhedeni naye obhekana nakho okuthakazelisayo, mayelana nokuba khona kwakhe engazange akwazi. Owesifazane wanquma ukuthi ukukhulumisana ohlangothini akufanele kuqhubeke, kodwa uchaze ngomyeni wakhe ukuthi ezinye izinhlobo ze-caresses, ezijabulisa kakhulu, kungenzeka, zizosiza umshado. Futhi - ukuhlukunyezwa: oshade naye wacabanga ukuthi izimangalo zakhe "zingcolile" futhi "azamukeleki owesifazane ohloniphekile," umkakhe wakuthola kudingekile ukuphendula ukuhlambalaza ... futhi cishe kwavela ekuhlukaneni. Indaba yesibili. Intombazane engenalwazi yashada - futhi yathola ukuthi yayingenandaba neze nobulili, yayiyokhonxwa futhi iwanga. Ukwaziswa okungaphezulu emibhedeni, lo mlingani akazange alahlekelwe ithemba lokuvusa ubuzwa bakhe, kepha kusobala ukuthi umkakhe akazange ajabule ekucindezeleni futhi wakhetha ukuthi isenzo socansi sizophela ngokushesha. Wazama ukwethula ucansi ngomlomo "ekudleni", kepha wathola ukuthukuthela okuthukuthele: umfazi wathi kusukela emcabangweni wokuthinta umlomo ngelungu lezinyathelo zakhe, akazange aphendule futhi imizamo yomyeni wakhe yokucindezela i-clitoris ngolimi lwakhe. Ngemuva kwalokho, umyeni wamemezela ukuthi uyomuma futhi wathi uzomshiya uma engaphenduki kumuntu olwa nobulili. Ukugcina kokubili kwezindaba kuyaphumelela: zombili imibhangqwana isifinyelele ochwepheshe, bathola ukuthi akekho ozakwethu abenezithiyo zomzimba zokuthola injabulo, futhi bafunda ukulalela izifiso zomunye futhi bazivumele kakhulu kunanini ngaphambili. Kodwa uma ukubamba iqhaza kwezocansi kuleso simo kwakungekho - konke kuzophela noma ukuwa komndeni, noma isidingo sokuba omunye walabo ababili abenze "abonakele" kusukela endaweni yabo yokubuka, ngesenzo. Ngeshwa, imindeni eminingi kangaka ihlala, futhi esizukulwaneni sabazali bethu, lokhu kwakuvame kakhulu. Futhi kungakhathaliseki ukuthi yikuphi, ububanzi bomuntu siqu yokwamukelwa ngokocansi (kungukuthi uhla lwekwamukeleka kwe-caresses) ludlala indima yalo. Ezincwadini zesayensi leli gama lichazwa ngokuthi "ukuhlanganiswa kwamafomu okuziphatha ngokocansi ekusondelene okuseduze, okungafaki ukungathinteki ngokomzwelo kwabalingani futhi kuthathwa njengabavunyelwe." Kuhlanganisa kokubili izinhlobo ze-caresses, futhi kuthinta lokhu noma leyo ngxenye yomzimba, nezinhlobonhlobo zesini, nesimo. Ngamunye wethu, ububanzi bokuvunyelwa kocansi buyimfihlo, futhi bukhawulelwe ikakhulukazi ngokuziphatha, ukuziphatha nokuziphatha okuhle. Ezimweni ezingavamile, kunemikhawulo yemvelo. Futhi kanengi singacabangi ngokungaziphathi kahle okungalungile nokungekho emthethweni (njenge-pedophilia noma i-zoophilia), kodwa futhi ukwamukelwa ngokuphelele futhi kwemvelo kwamanye imibhangqwana yezenzo zocansi, uthi, ubulili obudala. Lokhu kuyisimiso sethu somuntu siqu (sikhumbula futhi ukuthi ukujwayelekile akuyona iphuzu, kodwa ububanzi?), Futhi lo mlingani kufanele abheke ngakho. Njengoba kufanele sikhumbule imingcele yayo. Ebudlelwaneni bombhangqwana kufanele basebenze okuthiwa ukulawulwa kwegolide kwesiguli: embhedeni, ungavumela konke okufanelana nabalingani bobabili. Igama eliyisisekelo "kokubili". "Uma nje kukhona ukuphazamiseka komunye wabalingani, lokhu kuvukela kubonakala komunye. Ukwenza into engamukeleki embhedeni ngokusebenzisa amandla, njengesabelo kumlingani, ufaka imayini yesenzo esilibambezelekile, esheshayo iqhume futhi iholela ekudleni - ukwephula ukusebenzisana komshado. " Ngakho-ke, kusukela ekulandeni kwegolide kulandela okwesibili, "isiliva": uma uzizwa ungakhululekile - yisho ngakho. Ukuthula kuyabiza kithi.
Amahloni amantombazane
Ngombhangqwana, kufanele ulahle, njengomthetho, owesifazane. Lona umphumela wokukhuliswa kwabazali: "owesifazane uyindlala ebuthakathaka, umsebenzi wakhe ukuveza nokukhuthazela, lokhu ukuhlakanipha kwabesifazane." Yebo, futhi imvelo isungulwa ukuze owesifazane ocansini ahambisane naso: akakwazi ukuthatha ubulili ngokujwayelekile, ngoba i-orgasm yesifazane yokukhulelwa ayidingi. "Cishe kuzo zonke izilwane eziphilayo, isinyathelo sokuthandana singokwesilisa. Abesifazane njalo babonisa amadoda, banikeze impendulo, bavumelane, bavumelane. Embhedeni, cishe yonke into ihlelwe yindoda: imvamisa yezenzo zocansi, nobude bayo, nezinhlobo zokuxhumana. Ingxenye yalokhu ilungile: emva kwakho konke, owesifazane akakwazi, isibonelo, ukwandisa ubulili kuphela ngentando, nge-orgasm yomlingani, ngandlela-thile iphetha. Esimweni esivamile sobulili, lo mlingani ukhethe kakhulu. " Yingakho ububanzi bokwamukeleka ngokobulili emadodeni ngokuvamile bubanzi kunabo besifazane, futhi inqubo yokwazi komunye nomunye emibhangqwaneni eminingi ukukhula kancane kancane kancane komkhawulo womlingani kuya emingcele yamadoda. Ubulili obuqinile buzimisele kakhulu ukuzama ukuhlukanisa isimo esivamile socansi. Futhi uma lo mbhangqwana uhlala isikhathi eside, ufishane isandulela-izinhlobo zivame ukubhekwa ngezinhlobo zesini, izikhundla ezintsha, izindawo ezingavamile zokwenza uthando, ukusebenzisa amathoyizi ezocansi. Futhi okuningi kuxhomeke ekuqapheliseni nasekuhlakanipheni kwalowo muntu, futhi kulula kakhulu ukuba bamemezele umlingani owenqaba kusuka kulokhu noma ukuthi "ukuhlongozwa okungalungile" kunomsoco kunokuba aqonde ngokunembile ukuthi kungani engakhululekile ukwenza lokhu noma isenzo socansi. Ngezinye izikhathi izithiyo zokuphila okuvamile ngokocansi akulindelekile neze. Sithi, uGeorge Selyukov wangitshela indaba yomunye weziguli zakhe - owesifazane ongakwazi ukukhuluma nodokotela kunoma yiziphi izihloko zocansi, kodwa ngesikhathi esifanayo isimo esibi sezenhlalo: uyakuthola kunzima ukwenza abangane abasha nokuthuthukisa ubudlelwane, okusho ukuthi cishe akukho ukuphila kocansi okunjalo. Kodwa ukuze ufike ezingezansi zezizathu futhi uqonde ukuthi zingasuswa kanjani noma zivinjelwe, kumele kube nokuthembela okuphelele phakathi kwabalingani, futhi ngeshwa, akuwona wonke umbhangqwana ongaziqhayisa ngalokhu. Eziningi zezinkinga zivela eqinisweni lokuthi omunye wabalingani unombono ocacile wezinga lokuvunyelwa komunye. Isibonelo, sivame ukuzama ukuhambisa umlingani kukho konke okusembhede futhi singabonisi noma yisiphi isinyathelo, ngoba siqinisekile ukuthi amadoda afana "nokuzithoba", nakuba empeleni iningi lawo lifana nabalingani abasebenzayo (into esemqoka akumele iphoqe induku: abalawuli embhedeni wabo kakade Ungathokozi). Ngesinye isikhathi amadoda ayengazi ukuthi eqinisweni ubulili obukhuni, nezakhi zokuhambisa, njengenani elincane kakhulu labesifazane, kanye ne-orgasm enobulili obudala lihlangene kuphela ngabamele abathintekayo bobulili obuhle. Emkhakheni wokwamukelwa ngokocansi, umehluko emtsetfweni webulili webambisene nawo ubonakala. Ngomthethosisekelo wezocansi obuthakathaka, ngeke nje sizizwe sifisa kakhulu - futhi lokhu kungenye isizathu somlingani ukuba anqume ukuthi sinenkinga, uma, isibonelo, unomthethosisekelo oqinile wesondo. Ukunciphisa kuzokusiza lapha: isibonelo, awukwazi ukwenza uthando kaningi, kodwa ungathumela umlingani ngesikhathi "esingenangqondo" ngenye indlela, ucabange ububanzi bakho.
Izithelo zokukhanyisa
Imingcele yohlu lomuntu siqu yokwamukelwa ngokocansi isungulwa masinyane, isikhathi eside ngaphambi kokuhlolwa kokuqala. Ukulala okokuqala, ngezinye izikhathi kakade ngokuningiliziwe sicabange ukuthi lokhu kumele kwenzeke kanjani - futhi udumale kakhulu lapho iqiniso libonakala lihluke kakhulu. Inkulumo yempilo yomndeni yesazi-mlando sezobuciko ngesikhathi sika-Victorian, uJohn Ruskin, yayiyinkulumo yedolobha. Ukufunda umzimba wesifazane kuphela ezithombeni zasendulo, washaqeka ngobusuku bokuqala bomshado ngokuthola ukuthi abesifazane babe nezinwele ezindaweni eziseduze, futhi baze bagula isikhathi eside. Lokhu-ke, cishe kudala, kepha okokuqala okuhlangenwe nakho kocansi akusikho okuvusa amadlingozi: cishe akukho namantombazane athola i-orgasm eneqhaza lobulili. Ukwakheka kobubanzi bokuvunyelwa ngokocansi kuthinta konke esikufundile mayelana nobulili, kusukela ebuntwaneni, futhi lolu lwazi aluyona isayensi njalo. Phela, ngemfundo yezocansi ezikoleni sasingakasebenzi, futhi abazali bakhetha ukuthula ngendaba ebucayi noma ngisho nokubeka i-taboo kuyo ("ukubambisa ukukhuliswa kwama-Victor"). Ngenxa yalokho, uthisha uba umgwaqo, futhi emlandweni wesigodi, ubulili bugcwele inani elingenangqondo lezinganekwane ezingahlangani nhlobo. Amantombazane asezintombi ngokuvamile ayingxenye yobuhlobo obuhle kumanoveli omculo namafilimu. Ngemva kokufunda izincwadi mayelana nokuthi induna ehhashi elimhlophe, umthandi ozwela futhi olalelayo, uthatha umfokazi omuhle, amantombazane alindele ukuthi izibhamu zokuqala zichazwe - futhi ngemva kokudumala okwenzeka kwangempela akukwenzi ulinde. Ukwabelana ngocansi kuma-novels ashukela ashicilelwe kakhulu kakhulu futhi kunesizotha, ngesethi efanayo ye-caresses kanye nezikhundla. Uke wazihlangabeza ezindabeni ezinjalo, ukuthi owesifazane ujabulela kumlingani ophethe i-caresses yomlomo, noma ukuthi abathandi bazama ezinye izikhundla kunezithunywa zevangeli, futhi-kakhulu kakhulu - "owesifazane ovela phezulu"? Ngakho-ke akumangalisi ukuthi amanye amantombazane angena ebucansini ngokuqiniseka ukuthi i-blowjob ingcolile futhi ayifaneleki owesifazane ohloniphekile, ungasho ukuthi isikhundla sabantu "abasemuva." Ukwamukelwa kwabo ngokocansi kuqale kulinganiselwe, futhi kungenangqondo. Enye imithombo engenamsebenzi yolwazi ngezocansi amafilimu e-pornography. Uma kunamanoveli othandana ngokobulili kungcono kakhulu "okuhlanzekile", ngakho-ke kuyi-porn, ngokuphambene nalokho - kuhlanganisiwe futhi kuncishiswe ukuba kube yintanethi. Ngakho-ke, i-prelude ayitholakali noma ayifushane kakhulu: kubonakala sengathi owesifazane ujabule ngaso leso sikhathi, kodwa nokho lokhu akude neze - embhedeni, kuthatha isikhathi esiningi sokuba nesifiso sokufinyelela esiphezulu. Okuyiningi kulokho okuboniswa ngocansi kuyisici nje: opharetha bayakwazi ukudala umqondo wesayizi omkhulu wobulili besilisa, futhi abahleli bahlangana ndawonye isigamu sehora lesenzo socansi kusuka ezicucini zamaminithi amabili nanhlanu eduze kweqiniso. Ngakho-ke kuvela ukuthi umgcini oyinhloko wemingcele yezigaba zethu ukungazi okuyisisekelo ezindabeni zobulili. Enye indaba evela kulesi sigameko sikaGeorge Selyukov: owesilisa ukhononda ngokuthi umkakhe ngesikhathi se-orgasm engenzi lutho, kodwa, ngokuphambene nalokho, uyathula. Ngokusobala, isipiliyoni esandulele ngokocansi, kanye namafilimu e-porn, samfundisa ukuthi ngesikhathi se-orgasm owesifazane kufanele akhamuluke futhi ngokuvamile asabele ngokuhlukumezeka. Okwamanje, kukhona uhlobo lwe-orgasm, uma owesifazane "ephuza", futhi akunakucabangeki ngesikhathi esisodwa, kodwa imisindo ayiphumeli. Ochwepheshe babekuchaza lokho kuphela kumuntu - futhi inkinga yanyamalala. Ngenhlanhla, ngokuqoqwa kokuhlangenwe nakho, ububanzi bokwamukelwa ngokocansi luyanda. Uma kunesivinini esingenakunqotshwa, i-sexologist izomsiza ukuba anqobe, okuyizinsuku eziningi ezidingekayo ukwenza umsebenzi okhanyisayo, ukusiza abalingani bakhethe ukukhetha izinhlobo zokusondela ezifanelekayo. Konke lokhu kungenzeka uma lo mbhangqwana unothando, isifiso sokwakha ubudlelwane njalo futhi sikhule kuwo - kokubili kanye kanye ndawonye.