Esinye sezizathu eziyinhloko zokwelashwa kwemindeni ku-sexologist ukungabi nobulili nabashadile. Ubuhlobo obuseduze buyingxenye ebalulekile yomshado ovumelanako, ukungabi khona kobudlelwane bocansi akufaneki ukuhambisana nabalingani. Kwenzeka ukuthi omunye wabalingani ulahlekelwa isifiso, kanti enye kufanele ibekezelele.
Abashadile bangaba nezinkinga zobulili ezingasakwazi ukuthola isixazululo, ngenxa yalokho ubulili emindenini enjalo buwela phansi uphawu "zero". Ozakwethu bangathola ukuthi kunezizathu ezimbalwa zokuphikisana phakathi kwezimpawu bese uqala ukuhlala, ungenalo itiye lomunye nomunye. Noma kunjalo, ubudlelwane obuvumelanayo abukwazi ukuhlala ngaphandle kobudlelwano bobulili.
Ungathola izincazelo eziningi nezizathu zobuhlobo obunjalo, kodwa zivame ukufihliwe, futhi ngisho ne-sexologist enolwazi kakhulu akakwazi ukubala ngokushesha.
Inkinga evamile kakhulu isifiso sokukhulelwa kwengane. Abashadile bahlanganyela ocansini kuphela ezinsukwini ezithile futhi bayibheka umsebenzi wabo, nesifiso esingavamile. Abatholi enkambisweni yenjabulo nokuphumula. Izinkinga ezinkulu emndenini zingaqala emva kwezinyanga eziyisithupha zobuhlobo obunjalo.
Ukukhulelwa kuyimbangela yokuzigcina ngokocansi. Abesifazane besaba ukulimaza ingane ezayo. Umzimba wesifazane uphinde uhlolwe ukuba ukhulelwe, ngenxa yalokho izinga le libido linciphile kakhulu. Abashadile bacabanga ukuthi umyeni kufanele aqonde isimo sabo, kodwa isigamu esiphezulu sabantu asivumelani ngaso sonke isikhathi nalokhu, okuyinto imbangela yezingxabano, okulandelana nakho okungase kuphele. Ngesikhathi sokukhulelwa, abalingani kufanele benze ukuyekethisa, hhayi bonke ukuqeda isifiso.
Ukunciphisa isifiso sobulili kungaholela ekucindezelekeni kwangemva kokubeletha. Kuboniswa ukukhathala, imicabango yokuzibulala, ukuhlolwa okungalungile kokuphila kwesikhathi esizayo esiseduze. Isimo sengqondo sowesifazane emva kokubeletha singagubuzwa, ngoba ngokuvamile ukukhathala, isimo sengqondo esidabukisayo nokuntuleka kokukhangwa ngokocansi akubonakali ngokujulile. Ubude bokucindezeleka kuxhomeke ebuhlotsheni bomndeni kanye namandla okuqhamuka kwamahomoni. Ngokuhamba kwesikhathi, yonke indawo, kodwa kunengozi ukuthi isimo sengqondo, inhlalakahle noma i-orbiosis ingase ingabuyiselwa.
Ukuphila obuseduze kuthintwa yizici eziningi, kuhlanganise nokucindezeleka, ukukhathala, ukushaywa isifo, ukwesaba ukukhulelwa okungafuneki, ukungathembeki komlingani nokuzethemba okuphansi. Kodwa-ke, inkinga eyinkimbinkimbi kunazo zonke, ngokusho kwezocansi, umkhuba. Lapho isivunguvungu sezifiso kanye nemizwelo iphela, ubudlelwane buba bomile futhi buyizinsipho, abashade baphila ngamunye ngezimpilo zabo. Ukuthandana ngokocansi kuyaphela ukuletha injabulo, kuba umkhuba, futhi ukungabi nalutho okucindezelayo kususa isifiso. Ubulili emindenini enjalo bungaba khona njengesiko esiyisibopho, futhi ngokuhamba kwesikhathi, futhi uhambisane ngokuphelele nabalingani abasha. Ubuhlobo bobulili abukhiphi ngokwabo, badinga ukugcinwa, ukuthuthukiswa nokuhlala befuthelwa yinzalo.
Ukuze ulungise ubuhlobo, isifiso esanele sokubenza ngcono. Ngisho nalapho ukhuluma no-sexologist, udinga ukulungiswa ukuze ushintshe, ngoba ochwepheshe bayonikeza iseluleko esijwayelekile ukuthi ungayithuthukisa kanjani ubuhlobo. Ungakwazi ukuhlela kabusha ifenisha endlini, thola isifiso esivamile, uhambe uhambo lothando, kodwa zonke lezi zibonelo zizosebenza kuphela kulabo abashadile abanesimo esihle.
Ukuze kuxazululwe izinkinga zesimo socansi, kukhona ngisho nokwelapha okukhethekile kwesayensi - ucansi. Ihlanganisa i-psychotherapy yokuziphatha neyomzimba, ngesikhathi lapho abashadile besithinteka khona, basiza ukususa isici sobulili sobudlelwane obuvela emabhulabhini. Ngenxa yokwelashwa, kuvame ukuthi izinto ezingalindelekile zingenzeka njengokuthi "ukuqhuma", isibonelo, njengokuthi ngemva kokuzalwa kwezingane oshade naye ubona umfazi njengesihlobo sakhe (umama, udadewabo). Njengemisebenzi yakhe, umyeni ubona ukunakekelwa komlingani wakhe kuphela, ukuxazulula izinkinga zakhe, kepha ukuxhasana ngokocansi kufakwe engqondweni. Ngokubukeka okunjalo kumlingani, akukho ukukhangwa ngokocansi, kodwa ukufudumala kobudlelwane nobubele buqhubeka.
Imibhangqwana eminingi ayikwazi ukuxazulula izinkinga zokuphila ngokobulili komuntu ozimele ngokuzimela, kodwa iqiniso elidabukisayo yukuthi abaningi abazami nokuzixazulula, bazikholisa ukuthi baphila impilo egcwele. Ubulili - isibambiso sobudlelwane bomndeni obuvumelanayo, futhi ukungabi khona kwayo kungaqhathaniswa nesibhamu sokulibaziseka.