Kodwa-ke umbuzo uvela, uma umyeni wakho othandekayo nomyeni kuphela ekubangela ukucasuka okukhulu ngokukuguqula, ingabe udinga ukuthethelela ukukhashelwa kwakhe noma lokhu akuthetheleli?
Ake sithi masinyane ukuthi lokhu akusiyo inhlobonhlobo yobuhle, kodwa indaba okufanele ikusize ukuthi uqonde ukuthi kungenzeka yini ukuthethelela ukukhwabanisa kwakho okuthandayo. Futhi kungukuthi unqume lokhu ngokusekelwe esimweni. Ngoba ayikho isixazululo jikelele kulo mbuzo. Phela, ungathethelela noma cha kuncike ezintweni eziningi: kungakanani, nini futhi obani, ebuhlotsheni bakho, ukuba khona kwezingane nezinye izinto.
Ake sicabangele ngezansi, ukuthi sibheke nini lapho sinquma ngokuthethelela noma singathetheleli.
Ubukhulu bokukhashelwa.
Ubukhulu bokukhashelwa, kungakhathaliseki ukuthi kunzima kangakanani ukuziqagela, lo mqondo uhlobene futhi ngo-kilogram awukwazi ukulinganiswa. Phela, lowo wesifazane uzothethelela kalula, omunye ngeke athethelelwe noma yini futhi angalokothi athethelelwe. Kodwa-ke, singakwazi ukuhlukanisa ezinye izigaba ezijwayelekile okufanele sizinake. Futhi kungcono kakhulu ukuqala, ngokulinganisela kwesilinganiso sobude bobudlelwane bakho nokukhwabanisa.
Emva kwakho konke, uma emva kweminyaka eyi-10 yokuphila okuhlangene nokuphumelelayo umyeni wakho kwenye yezinyawo ezide awakwazi ukumelana nesilingo somfundi osemusha, lokhu kuyinto eyodwa, futhi uma, ngemva konyaka wokuhlala ndawonye, umlingani wakho uzishintsha wena nomakhelwane wakho esitebhisini, . Esimweni sokuqala, ngokuvamile, ungathethelelwa, futhi, mhlawumbe, akudingekile ukuba uphule ngokuphelele ubuhlobo obusunguliwe ngenxa yokukodwa okukodwa, indoda kufanele ixolise futhi iphenduke. Kodwa esimweni sesibili, ukuthethelela, mhlawumbe, akufanelekile, uma egijimela esikhwameni sokuqala uthola ngokoqobo ngaphansi kwempumulo yakho futhi emva konyaka wokuhlala ndawonye, ngisho noma umyeni wakho ecela intethelelo emadolweni akho, akufanele ukholwe ekuphendukeni.
Esinye isibonakaliso sokuqothulwa kobudlova ukuthi kwakungashadile noma ngezikhathi ezithile. Phela, kuyinto eyodwa ukuthethelela ubuthakathaka obusheshayo, lapho umyeni evele ehlukumezeke, futhi enye into yokuthethelela ukuhlukumezeka okubonakalayo, ayekuhamba ngokuphindaphindiwe ngemuva kwakho. Njengoba kunzima ukuqonda, ukhetho lokuqala kulula ukuthethelela kunesibili.
Isici sesithathu ongayahlulela ubukhulu benecala ubuhlobo bakho nomyeni wakho, ngesikhathi sokuhlubuka. Isibonelo, uma uxabana kakhulu, futhi washiya phezulu, wamemeza kakhulu emnyango, waya kubangani bakhe enkampanini futhi lapho washintsha, lokhu. Kodwa uma ehamba ngosuku lwesabatha, ekukhohliseni ngobuqili, ukuthi uya kubahlobo, futhi yena ngokwakhe enkosinikazi, kungenye indaba. Esikhathini sokuqala, indima yadlala yizinzwa kanye nokwesaba, kanti okwesibili kungamanga okusobala futhi okunenjongo.
Izici ezihambisanayo.
Ngeli gama elijwayelekile sisho konke okungahambisani ngokuqondile nemizwa yakho - imali, izindlu zokuhlala, amaphutha akho adlule, njll, konke okungathinti ngqo imizwa, kodwa kuthinta kakhulu indlela yakho yokuphila. Lezi zici, futhi, zingakwazi ukuguqula ngokuqinile izikali embuzweni, zithethelele noma ungathetheleli ukukhishwa komyeni wakhe. Okusho ukuthi, uma wena ngokwakho usonile, ngokwemvelo awunalo ilungelo lokumangalela ngokuhlubuka.
Kuzo zonke ezingenhla, ungangezelela lokhu okulandelayo, ukuthi ungakwazi ukuthethelela umyeni wakho kuphela emva kokuba yena ngokwakhe ecele intethelelo futhi uzobonakala ukuthi uphenduka ezenzweni zakhe. Uma lokhu kungenjalo, khona-ke ngisho nokungathembeki okungenacala kakhulu akunakuxolelwa. Futhi ngizophinde ngiphinde ngithethelele, ukuthethelela umyeni wami noma cha, lena yindaba yomuntu siqu ngemizwa yakho, futhi kuyafaneleka ukugxilisa kuyo, kunokuba umbono wabanye.