Kungani ngiphupha ukushiya owesifazane omunye owesifazane?
I-Sonnniki inothi ukuthi ukukhishwa okuphusheni komyeni wakhe kungenzeka ukuthi akusho ukuthi kungokoqobo. Kunalokho, ngisho nangokwehlukile - kubonisa ukuthi oshade naye uthembekile kuwe. Njengokuzikhethela, iphupho elinjalo lingase lingabi nhlobo neze nemisebenzi yenhliziyo empeleni, kodwa ukuveza ukudumazeka okulindele wena nethemba elikhohlisayo.
Ukuchazwa okungenzeka kwephupho lapho umyeni ehamba khona nomunye wesifazane ukuthi ugcwele ukwesaba ukumlahlekelwa futhi uhlale wedwa. Umhumushi wephupho uncoma ukuba uthathe ngesandla futhi ushiye ukusola okungadingekile - kaningi, akusizi ngalutho.
Uma uphupha ukuthi lowo oshade naye waya kwenye, akufanele ube nesisusa sokukhathazeka - amathuba okusebenza okunjalo empilweni yangempela adluliselwa ekulaleni futhi, kanjalo, aqedwe. Noma kunjalo, lokhu kungabonisa ukwesaba kwakho kokushintsha okuthile ekuphileni kwakho. Mhlawumbe, kufanelekile ukucabanga ngesimo sakho sengqondo kulokhu, ngoba izinguquko zingahle zibe ngcono.
Emva kokukhashelwa komyeni wakhe nokuhamba kwakhe komunye umndeni ephusheni, ingabe uhlukanisile? Lindela ukungqubuzana okuncane okuzoxazululwa masinyane.
Ukuhlanganyela nomyeni wakhe ephusheni kubonisa ukuthi sekuyisikhathi sokushintsha into ebuhlotsheni bakho, ngoba phakathi kwakho nomyeni wakho uqala ukuphakama udonga lokungaphansi, ukungaqondi kahle nokusola okungadingekile. Ekuqaleni ususa umthombo wokunganeliseki, okwenyuka amathuba okugcina umshado wakho.
Uma uphupha ukuthi umyeni wakho ukuphonsa omunye owesifazane, ungase ube enkingeni, ngoba abanye abajwayelene nabo basuke bengenangqondo futhi bengenakuziphendulela.
Oshade naye ombamba futhi embanga omunye ephusheni lakho akusho ukungathengi okuqondile, kodwa kubonisa kuphela ukuthi uzohileleka esimweni esingangcolisa idumela lakho. Qaphela izinhlinzeko ezisolisayo zokubambisana ezivela osebenza nabo noma ukuzijabulisa nabangani.
Ezinye izindlela zokwelapha
Ukuxabana ephusheni nabathandekayo bakhe kubonisa ukusungulwa kobudlelwane obuvumelanayo empilweni yangempela. Uma umyeni, ngesikhathi sokuphikisana, engakuphikisa ngokungalungile okuthile, khona-ke lokhu kuyisibonakaliso esicacile sokuthi imizwa yakhe ngawe ifudumele, futhi usho okuningi kuye.
Ukubamba nomlingani wakho ephusheni akusizi kahle: ungadumala izimfanelo zakhe, noma uhlukanise esikhathini esizayo esiseduze.
Uma intombazane engenayo i-pair iphupho lomyeni omusha - izincwadi zamaphupho zibikezela ukuthi umshado wokuqala, okwamanje, ngeke uphumelele, njengoba isinqumo sokuboshwa sizobe siphuthuma futhi siphuthumayo. Owesifazane oshadile, uyisitatimende sokungathandabuzi ubudlelwane obuphakathi komndeni, okwenza ucabange ngokubonakala komthandi omusha.