Lokhu kuyabuhlungu kakhulu futhi kuhlambalaza, futhi ngezinye izikhathi kusishukumisela ukuba senze izinto ezehlukene ngandlela-thile ukunciphisa ubuhlungu nokufutheka kwethu. Ngezinye izikhathi kungqubuzana nokuhlambalaza, ngezinye izikhathi ukucindezeleka, futhi ngezinye izikhathi kungukuhlubuka, yilokho esizokhuluma ngakho.
Ngakho-ke ukuphikisana komfazi emva komshado, futhi yiziphi izimbangela zayo? Okokuqala, ngeke silahle noma sisekele ukuhlukunyezwa lapha, ngoba lokhu kuyindaba yabantu abangu-3 kuphela, hhayi umhlaba wonke. Futhi asicabangi ngamacala uma owesifazane engacabangi (umyeni wakhe uyisidakwa, ushaya, uyabamba ekhaya). Sizama nje ukuqonda izimbangela ezingase zivele futhi ezivame kakhulu, ukuze umuntu angagcina noma ngokuphambene nalokho.
Ngakho-ke, ake sicabangele ngezansi izizathu ezimbalwa eziyisisekelo, ngenxa yalokho abesifazane abasombulule ukuhlukunyezwa, emva komshado obonakala sengathi uphumelele.
Icala lokuqala. Ngifuna ukujabula.
Umshado, futhi, ngokuvamile, impilo yomndeni, icala lihle kakhulu futhi ngezinye izikhathi lithandeka kakhulu futhi lidambisa. Yini okufanele uyenze kowesifazane ongene kwinethiwekhi yokuphila, noma ngabe lokhu kuphila nendoda ethandekayo? Ngempela, nsuku zonke izenzo ezifanayo, ukupheka, ukugeza, umsebenzi ofanayo, kusihlwa nomyeni wakhe phambi kwe-TV. Ejwayelekile - ngegama elilodwa. Akumangazi ukuthi kuleso simo owesifazane kakhulu ufuna ukuzwa okubukhali, nokuthi ungabathola kuphi? I-Skydiving ne-diving ayifanele ngaso sonke isikhathi, bese umama omuhle, othakazelisayo futhi othunjiwe ubona amehlo alo wesifazane. Ukukhululwa okusheshayo kwe-adrenaline egazini, futhi manje bahlanganiswa ekuvumelaneni okuthakazelisayo kokuphinga. Ukungathembeki okunjalo, okokuqala, akunikezi injabulo yocansi, kodwa kunomqondo wengozi. Kukhona ukuthandana okuncane phakathi kwabathandi, kodwa kunesithakazelo esikhulu. Kodwa kunzima ukukuqonda, kulolu hlobo lokuhlukumezeka, inzwa yokuthi impilo yakho yomkhaya ayikhombisi. Ukuze ugweme ukukhwabanisa, udinga ukwengeza ama-thrills empilweni yakho yomndeni
Icala lesibili. Ukunakekelwa okwanele nokuthandwa.
Cabanga ngesithombe esinjalo, intombazane yonke yaqala ukuthokoza, othandekayo, ukuthandana, lezi zihamba ezinhle, lobusuku obude bothando. Futhi wenza iziphakamiso, Yebo, uthi "yebo", futhi konke kubonakala kuhle. Kodwa nansi iminyaka embalwa, futhi sibonani? Yonke indlela efanayo yokuphila, kodwa umyeni kakade akayena owakhe, akanalo uthando olwanele kanye nomdlandla wangaphambili, kuyilapho kungashiwo ukuthi umyeni wakhe akawuthandi. Uyakuthanda, kodwa akufani neze. Kulokhu, lo wesifazane uqala ngokubheka ukungafuni uthando nokukhathalela, ngokuvamile kuvela ozakwethu asebekhulile embusweni ongashadile. Ukuze ugweme ukukhwabanisa okunjalo, kufanele uzame ukuletha impilo yakho emndenini emfudlaneni omusha, imidlalo ye-erotic, amakhandlela njalonjalo.
Icala lesithathu. Umsebenzi womyeni wami usekuqaleni.
Leli cala lifana nelinye elidlule, kodwa lapha isizathu asikona nje ukwehlisa isisa nokuthandwa komyeni, lapha isizathu silula futhi sinkimbinkimbi ngesikhathi esisodwa. Lona umsebenzi wakhe ozithandayo futhi obiza kakhulu! Ukukhathazeka kumyeni wakhe kungakwazi, futhi akuzange kuhlile phansi, kodwa manje kuyaqondiswa emibikweni yonyaka bese kuhlola izilinganiso. Umkakhe nje akanaso isikhathi, futhi manje, evela esimweni esinjalo ekuphelelwe ithemba, owesifazane uthatha ukukhetha ukukhaphela, kunelisekile kuphela izidingo zomzimba. Kulesi simo, njengomthetho, konke kuwukuthi ibutho lihlanzekile, lihlelekile futhi lihlehlisiwe. Izindawo, amaphasiwedi nesikhathi, konke kuxoxwa futhi kubalwa! Gwema lokhu ukukhwabanisa, kuphela uma umuntu ngokwakhe eyeka umsebenzi wakhe.
Yiqiniso, zonke izizathu ezingenhla azizona ezodwa, futhi ukuhlukumezeka okumele kusetshenziswe kufanele kusetshenziswe ngokwehlukana, kodwa nokho lokhu kungenye yezizathu eziyinhloko zokugqugquzela ukuhlukunyezwa.