Ezinyangeni zokuqala zokuphila komntanakho, ukujwayela nezwe kwenzeka ngokuzwa, ingane isaba umsindo okhaliphile. Lapho evula izingxenye ezibukwayo zobuchopho (lokhu ngokuvamile kwenzeka ezinyangeni ezingu-6-12), umntwana uqala ukwesaba lokho akubonayo. Phakathi nalesi sikhathi, kukhona ukwesaba okwedlulele ekuboneni abantu abangabazi, njengokuqala lapho i-analyzer of the world ibonakala. I-reflex evikelayo ithi ingane yonke engaziwa ingaba yingozi, ngakho-ke iyaqala ukungabi nhlobo. Cishe ngalesi sikhathi ingane iqala ukwahlukanisa abanye "kuba" bayo "abangabazi". Noma yimuphi umuntu ingane ebona ngezikhathi ezithile ingafika "kumfokazi". Uma zivela, umntwana angakhamuluka futhi akhale. Lokhu kungenxa yokuthi ingane izwa umuzwa wokwesaba nokukhathazeka lapho umuntu ehlukile kumama wakhe, uyesaba ukuthi umuntfu uyothinta ngokungazelelwe. Kule minyaka yobudala izingane ziqala ukulandela "umsila" womama wabo.
Kwabafana, lokhu kungabonwa kuze kube yiminyaka emithathu, emantombazaneni - kuze kube ngu-2 nangesigamu. Ingane izwa ukukhathazeka nesizungu, uma uphazamisa ukuxhumana kwakhe okubonwayo noma ngokomzimba nomuntu othandekayo. Ukuze unqobe ukwesaba kwezingane, khuluma nomuntu okufanele akuvakashele. Masiqale uhlale ngokuthula futhi ubheke, futhi wena ngalesi sikhathi uzobe usondelene nengane yakho, ngisho nangcono, uma ingane isezandleni zakho. Ingane izobona ukuthi umama ukhuluma ngokuthula naye lo muntu, emomotheka kuye, uyaqonda ukuthi umuntu omusha akayingozi kuye, futhi kancane kancane uyayisebenzisa. Khona-ke vumela isivakashi sakho sinikeze ithoyizi ingane, zama ukukhuluma naye ngokuthula, bese "ingane" yakho iyohamba ngokuqinisekile nayo ukuxhumana nayo, futhi emva kwesikhathi izoyithatha "i-" yakhe.
Futhi ingane ayifuni ukuya ukuyibona udokotela esibhedlela, ngoba uyesaba abantu abangabazi abangabazi. Ingane ingathola injabulo kakhulu emehlweni omalume omncane noma omncane engaziwa ejazini elimhlophe elizokhala isikhathi eside, ngisho nalapho eshiya esibhedlela. Kodwa ukuvakashela udokotela kungenziwa ubuhlungu obukhulu uma ujwayele ingane yakho, isibonelo, ukudlala naye ekhaya "esibhedlela." Ungathenga isethi yezinsimbi zezokwelapha zezingane, ugobe ithoyizi, idonsa noma i-teddy bear isembatho esimhlophe - bayoba odokotela. Vumela ingane iphulukise futhi ibeke ukucindezeleka emathoyizi akhe, igwebe ama-paws akhe ngamafutha, iboshiwe. Kodwa zonke lezi zenzo, kufanele uzibonise, ngoba ngaphandle kokuhlanganyela kwakho okusebenzayo kule geyimu, ingane izothola kunzima ukuyiqonda yonke inqubo. Akulimazi ngisho noma uthenga incwadi ethi "Aibolit" futhi uyifunde ingane yakho.
Ngomntwana udinga njalo ukuvakashela izindawo zomphakathi, uhambe naye ezindaweni zokudlala ezimatasa, amapaki, ukuze kancane kancane afinyelele iqiniso lokuthi kukhona abantu abaningi abaseduze naye. Futhi emva kwalokho lokho kuthumise kumfundisa ukuthi ahambele.
Kule nkathi yokuphila kwengane yakho awukwazi ukuhlambalazwa ngokuthi "ukwesaba"; Awukwazi ukwesabisa ingane ngezinhloso zemfundo nomalume wakhe, ingane, iphoyisa, impisi, noma omunye umuntu ukuthi uzofika amthathe uma ingane ingalaleli; Awukwazi ukuthola izivakashi eziningi phakathi nosana lwakhe; Awukwazi ukushiya ingane yakho nabantu abangabazi, abangabazi.
Futhi, akudingekile, njengokuqeqesha, ukuphoqelela ingane ukuthi ikhulume nomalume noma ubaba wakhe omesabisayo. Zama ukuphatha ukukhathazeka kwakhe ngokuqonda nokuhlonipha - kubonisa ukuthuthukiswa kwengane, ngoba uqala ukuhlukanisa phakathi "kwakhe" no "abangabazi."
Abanye abazali abathinteki ukwesaba kwezingane, baqala ukukhuluma nomntanakho, isibonelo, ukuthi lo ngumkhulu wakhe, ukuze eze ezandleni zakhe, ukuba khona kwabangamazi endlini kuthinta ingane ngezindlela ezahlukene. Kodwa ingane ngalesi sikhathi idonsela ingqondo ekhanda elincane ukuthi lo mkhulu akabukeka njengonina, ukuthi akaphiki njengenina, futhi ngokuvamile akayazi ukuthi uzokwenzani nami. Omncanyana uqala ukukhamuluka nokukhala, ngakho-ke ungena endaweni ye-crumb, futhi, njengoba sekulotshiwe kakade, makabe esejwayele umfokazi okwesikhashana.
Ngokwesaba abantu abangajwayelekile, cishe zonke izingane ziyahamba, ngisho nalabo emindeni yabo yonke into ezinzile futhi ezolile. Kodwa njengoba uyazi, lokhu kanye nokunye ukwesaba izingane ezihlala endaweni enokuthula, engabambisani, enomusa nangenhlonipho ekhaya ikhula ngokushesha futhi kulula.
Izazi zengqondo zisho iqiniso elilodwa elithakazelisayo: emindenini enesabelo sendabuko yezindima, lapho ubaba esebenzayo, futhi umama ethambile, izingane zikhula zikhathazeke kancane. Zama ukusiza ingane yakho isinde kule nkathi enzima empilweni yakhe.
Umama nobaba kudingeka baqaphele ngokukhethekile ngengane yabo, zama ukushintsha imfundo yakhe emahlombe kagogo nomama, isikhathi esiningi ngangokunokwenzeka sokunikeza ingane yakhe, ungahlali kude naye isikhathi eside, wenqaba ukuhamba futhi ushiye. Kodwa-ke, uma ukuhlukaniswa (ukushiya noma ukusebenza) nengane kungenakugwemeka, bese kungakapheli inyanga, qalisa ukujwayela ingane yakho kumuntu okumele asebenzise isikhathi. Kungcono kancane kancane ukwethula umsizi empilweni yomndeni wakho: ake ugogo noma umfana kuqala eze kuwe, kanye nawe udlala nomntwana, uyamkhathalela. Kufanele uhlale khona phakathi nalesi sikhathi, futhi ngemva nje kwesikhathi ungazama ukushiya ingane yedwa nalomuntu. Into engcono kakhulu abazali abangayenza ukuhlala kahle le nkathi kanye nomntanakho. Phela, isiqinisekiso sokuthi isimo esimnandi sengqondo somuntu omdala siwukukhathazeka kwabantwana abakuthola ngesikhathi.
Ungalwi ngokumelene nokwesaba. Ngemuva kwezinyanga ezingu-14-18, ukwesaba kunciphisa, futhi iminyaka emibili ngokuvamile idlula ngokuphelele. Lalela lawa mathiphu, kodwa okubaluleke kakhulu - kholelwa wena nomntanakho, umenzele zonke izimo ezidingekayo zokuthuthukiswa, bese-ke uzodala ukukhula komuntu omncane onamandla futhi onempilo.