Mhlawumbe, cishe wonke umuntu ucabanga ukuthi kuzoba yini amadoda afanele ekuphileni kwabo.
Ukubuza imibuzo enjalo, kubalulekile ukuthi ungakhohlwa ukuthi wonke umuntu unemibono ehlukile. Ngakho-ke, ngokufana namadoda afanelekile, hamba wonke umuntu. Kodwa namanje, mhlawumbe, kunezimfanelo wonke umuntu ofuna ukuzibona ekhethiweyo lakhe.
Ngakho-ke, amadoda afanelekayo kufanele abe: ahlakaniphile, anhle, anakekele, anomoya omnene, enemizwa ehlekisayo, enamandla, enesibindi, eqondayo, enomthwalo wemfanelo, enomsebenzi omuhle, evikela nokuningi, okuningi okuningi. Futhi yini ngempela amadoda ayithandayo?
Kunezigaba ezihlukene kakhulu zamadoda, kodwa ngenxa yesizathu esithile zonke ziyisihlobo esihle kuphela. Isibonelo, kunabantu abasha ababizwa ngokuthi "umphefumulo wenkampani". Bayazi ukuthi bangajabula kanjani futhi bathole indlela yokuthola zonke izintombi. Akumangalisi neze insizwa enjalo. Uyayazi izindaba eziyinkulungwane futhi uyazi ukuthi angasho kanjani lokhu noma lokho kuhlaya ngesikhathi. Ngaphezu kwalokho, ngokuvamile, laba bantu bayizihle kakhulu. Futhi ngisho noma umfana onjalo engakwazi ukubizwa ngokuthi omuhle, unesihe futhi unesihe esinjalo ukuthi akunakwenzeka ukumelana. Kodwa abantu abaningi balolu hlobo banamaphutha abo. Ngokuvamile lokhu kuyinhloko elula. Abantu abanjalo abazi ukuthi bangathatha kanjani impilo ngokujulile. Bangabesifazane futhi baphathe abesifazane, nakuba ngenhlonipho, hhayi frivolously. Ngomfana onjalo kunzima ukucabanga ngobuhlobo obuvamile. Bashada kakade ngeminyaka ehloniphekile noma bangashadi nhlobo. Ngenxa yokuthi umfana onjalo ulula kakhulu, uvame ukushiya umsebenzi wakhe noma uthathe iholide ngendleko yakhe ukuya kwenye indawo. Ngakho-ke, insizwa, kaningi, ayinayo imali eyaneleyo futhi iphila kusukela ehoreni kuya emholweni, noma yilamba noma i-shikuya. Kulabafana, amantombazane ahlale eqaphela futhi athandane nabo. Lokhu akumangalisi. Insizwa ihlale ikwazi ukusho ukuncoma, ijabule, iyazi ukuthi kufanele ninike isandla nokuthi ninikeze umfazi phambili. Yiqiniso, umfana onjalo uyakhononda noma iyiphi intombazane futhi ucabanga ukuthi uphelele. Kodwa ngokuhamba kwesikhathi, amaminerali akhe adalulwe kanti le ndoda idumazekile. Wonke owesifazane udinga ukuzinza nokuzwa ukuthi angathembela kumuntu. Futhi umuntu onjalo akanakubizwa ngokuthi udonga. Kunalokho, gcwalisa insimu, ehamba emoyeni futhi iqhutshelwa kubantu abahlukene. Ngomuntu onjalo ungaba abangane abaphelele futhi ujabule. Kodwa uma ufuna ukushada naye, cishe, udumale kakhulu. Ngakho-ke, lesi sigaba sabantu abasha kuya ekahle asikwazi ukubalwa.
Futhi kukhona, isibonelo, esinye isigaba samadoda. Ngokungafani nabantu abathokozile nabajokeni abakwazi ukunqoba uthando nokukhathalela wonke umuntu, laba, kaningi, bathule futhi abathandi izinkampani ezinkulu. Ekuboneni kokuqala, kungase kubonakale ukuthi umfana uyayonda umhlaba wonke futhi uziphatha ngendlela enyanyekayo. Insizwa enjalo imane nje ihlazo ukukhombisa abantu, ngoba ukhuluma njalo izinto ezingavamile futhi uzama ukukhombisa izimfanelo zakhe ezingekho. Yebo, futhi kubonakala, cishe, hhayi okuhle kakhulu. Ngakho-ke, amantombazane amaningi ngokushesha abeka lesi sigaba sabantu abasha futhi angazami ukuqonda ukuthi bangubani ngempela. Kodwa uma noma ubani efuna ukubona ukuthi uhlobo luni lomphefumulo lo mfana ongaziwayo, khona-ke uyomangala kakhulu. Abantu abasha abanjalo, empeleni, banomthelela kakhulu futhi basengozini. Ukuziphatha okunjalo okunengekayo kuyisisindo sabo, ukusabela okuvikelayo kubantu abafisa izifiso. Yingakho abantu abaningi bengayithandi. Labo ababazi ngempela umfana onjalo bangasho ngokuqiniseka ukuthi unomusa kakhulu, unomusa futhi unakekela. Insizwa enjalo ifuna othandekayo ukuba athole izinkanyezi esibhakabhakeni bese ebhala izinkondlo. Kudingeka nje aqiniseke ukuthi intombazane ngeke ihleke imizwa yakhe. Uma ebona ukuthi uyathandwa ngempela, uzogqoka indodakazi yakhe enhliziyweni ezandleni zakhe futhi enze konke ukuze amjabulise.
Futhi kukhona isigaba esisodwa ngaphezulu. Kuhlanganisa nalabo bantu abangeke baphathe izandla zabo. Ingabe kudingekile kakhulu. Abavamile ukukhuluma ngothando nangemizwa. Kusukela ensizweni enjalo kunzima ukulinda ukuthandana. Ngeke alethe ikhofi yokulala futhi anikeze izikhathi. Kodwa nguyena ohlala ehlupha ukuba ube nezingubo ezifudumele, ukudla okuhle nokuphahleni oluhle phezu kwekhanda lakho. La madoda angakwazi futhi angakwazi ukukhuluma ngothando. Ngokuvamile akukho chivalry kubo. Kodwa baveza imizwa yabo ngezenzo, bakunike impilo enokuthula futhi enokuthula.
Kukhona futhi amadoda aziphatha ngokuthandana, futhi azuze ukuphila, kodwa cishe ayengekho ngokomzwelo. Basabela kuzo zonke izinto ngokuzithoba, balinganisa izikhathi ezingaphezu kwekhulu umcabango ngamunye nesinqumo, ungalokothi ugijimise noma kuphi futhi ungaphenduli ngokumemeza. Ngomuntu onjalo kunzima ukuqonda ukuthi ucabangani nokuthi uhlobene kanjani nesimo.
Futhi kukhona abantu abafihlekile mayelana nabo ongazi lutho, noma ngabe uhlala nensizwa iminyaka eminingana. Babonisa imizwa, kodwa abavuli noma bawageze umphefumulo kunoma ubani. Zinezwe labo, lapho zizinhle khona. Kukhona amadoda angaboni kakhulu asekulungele ukukunika igolide namadayimane, kodwa azohamba nge-T-shirt elula, futhi awukwazi ukwenza lutho ngakho.
Ngakho, njengoba ubona, wonke ama-plus ane-minus. Ngakho-ke, uma ufuna umuntu ofanele ngempela, yima bese ubheka nxazonke zakho. Okuseduze, kukhona nakanjani ozosebenzisana naye, futhi obani ozolungisana naye. Futhi uma lokhu kwenzeka, kuyoba okuphelele kuwe.