Kunama-extremes amabili. Wabe eseqaphele ngokwengeziwe, ebekezela, egeza umntwana, ehla, ehamba naye. Awuboni umlingani wakho, ngoba awusoze wacabanga ukuthi angase abe mnene futhi anakekele, futhi ngezinye izikhathi ucabanga ukuthi ungcono kunokuba uphathe ingane. Yebo, kulokhu, ungajabula kuphela ngalomndeni futhi usho ngenkuthalo ukuthi unomzali ongcono! Kodwa ezimweni eziningi, konke kungenye indlela ezungezile ... Kuze kube yamuva, ujabule kanye nokuhamba kokuqala komntwana esiswini, umyeni wayehambahamba nawe nge-ultrasound futhi ebambe isandla sakho, ebukele isithombe esithombeni, waze wavuma ukuya esitolo ukuze akhethe dowry for the baby futhi ngenjabulo enkulu bahlangana isikhala for ifa yindlalifa (heiress). Futhi manje kwafika umzuzu othakazelisayo - umhlangano omdala omlindelwe wabazali nengane! Futhi umkakho ubonakala sengathi uthathelwe indawo ... wazithukuthela, wafihlwa, uvame ukuhlala emsebenzini noma akakwazi ukuza ebusuku, futhi akufanelekile ukukhuluma ngosizo oluvela eceleni kwakhe! Yini okufanele uyenze kulesi simo? Ungasiza kanjani ukubuyisela ubuhlobo obufudumele obudala? Phela, umntwana udinga bobabili abazali!
Okokuqala udinga ukuqonda ukuthi kungani lokhu kwenzeka? Ubuhlobo bakho bukhula kanjani ngaphambi kokuba umntwana azalwe?
Ukunakekelwa kwakho konke kwakhokhwa kumyeni wakhe, yonke imisebenzi yasendlini yayihlangene naye: "Yini eyokupheka ukudla okumnandi, ukuthi umyeni wami wayethande?", "Futhi uyothanda yini uma ngipenda izinwele zami zimnyama?", "Cha, sizoya Enye indawo yokudlela, ngoba uthanda ikhishi lapho! ".
Futhi manje kuthiwani? Yonke indlela eya ngokuphambene nayo - konke ukunakwa kugxile kulungu elisha lomndeni, futhi kumuntu othandekayo kunemizuzu embalwa nje ukuchitha imisho embalwa ekudleni.
Ukuze ungabi yisisulu sezinkinga zomndeni, izazi zengqondo zincoma ukuthi, ngaphambi kokuzalwa kwengane, zilungiselele amaphuzu alandelayo:
- ukuthatha umthwalo wezingane ezisanda kuzalwa, ukwenza izinqumo ezihlobene nempilo yakhe kanye nentuthuko evamile;
- funda indlela yokuhlela isikhathi sakho, uzimele ngokwengeziwe, uzithembele kuwe kuphela;
- ukwamukela iqiniso lokuthi manje usuzinika isikhathi esincane kakhulu sokwanelisa izidingo zakho;
- ukuphatha ngokuzithoba izidingo ezivela ezihlotsheni zomyeni, ngoba manje awunkosikazi kuphela, kodwa unina womzukulu wabo (umzukulu);
- ukuzwa ukulimala ebuhlotsheni nomyeni wakhe;
- khuthaza ubudlelwane obuvamile phakathi kwamalungu omndeni.
Kuningi kakhulu ... Kodwa into ebaluleke kakhulu ukwenza isinqumo mayelana nokulondoloza umndeni.
Ngaphambili emadolobheni emindenini enezingane eziningi, izingane ezincane zazihlanganyela ezinganeni ezindala. Manje isimo sesimo sabantu sishintshile ngokuphawulekayo. Ngisho nasemindenini eyenza kahle, kungavamile ukuthi abantwana ababili noma abathathu bazalwa, ngakho-ke omama abancane bancane ngokwengqondo ukulungele ukukhulisa izingane, kanti abanye baye bakuzwa kuphela ngezihlobo noma izintombi.
Ngokuzalwa komntwana wokuqala, ubuhlobo phakathi kwalabo abashadile bufika ezingeni elisha. Futhi uma indima yomama ingenakugwenywa kuwe futhi awukwazi ukuyigwema, khona-ke indima kababa kumuntu kuyinto "yokuzikhethela", kulula ngaye ukubaleka ezinkingeni zomndeni - kubazali bakhe, ukusebenza, kubangani. Ngakho-ke, ungaziphatha kanjani kuleso simo, ukuze ungaqhubeki ubudlelwane?
Kubalulekile ukuqonda into esemqoka: umyeni ushintshile futhi uyaziphatha ngoba unomhawu! Futhi-ke kubalulekile ukuthi ungagqugquzeli lesi simo ngokuhlambalaza okuqhubekayo ngokunyanyisa nokungafaneleki, kodwa zama ukubushelela isimo bese uphuma emibangweni. Izazi zengqondo zinikeza ezinye izicebiso zendlela yokwenza lokhu:
- Ukutshela umlingani ngokungapheli ukuthi manje ufeza imisebenzi hhayi kuphela yendoda, kodwa nobaba. Futhi ungafuni kuye ukubonakaliswa kwemizwa kayise ngokushesha. Mhlawumbe kuzothatha izinyanga, noma ngisho neminyaka. Ngokusho kocwaningo, isiko sikababa sibonakala kuphela ngonyaka wesithathu wokuphila kwengane yakho;
- ungazami ukubeka zonke izinkinga emahlombe akho, futhi uthumele ngokuthula okungenani ingxenyana encane yenkathazo kubaba wakho: hamba ekhemisi ngabadayisi, uthenge ukudla kwezingane, uye epilyclinic yezingane, ubambe ikhanda ngenkathi ugeza. Ngokuhamba kwesikhathi, ubaba omncane uzohileleka kule nqubo. Futhi ngokushesha lokhu kwenzeka, ngokushesha ukuvusa imizwa kayise;
- unake kakhulu umyeni wakhe, ukhulume ngalokho okukhathazayo nokukhathazeka. Akabheki nokucindezeleka okungenani, ngoba impilo yakhe ishintshile futhi. Tshela umyeni wakho ukuthi usamthanda, ukuthi uyakudinga manje kunanini ngaphambili;
- Ungagcini noma ulingise imicimbi. Uma umyeni wakho efika ekhaya ephuma emsebenzini uhhafu wehora kamuva, lokhu akusho ukuthi uyakhohlisa kuwe;
- Ungaphazamisi ebuhlotsheni babazali. Izinkinga zakho ziyizinkinga zakho nje. Inamba enkulu yemishado ihlukana ngokuqondile ngoba izihlobo ziphazamisa ubuhlobo. Yiqiniso, bakufisela okuhle kuphela, kodwa umphumela umndeni ophukile, ukucindezeleka, ukucindezeleka kwengane;
- khumbula ukuthi wena nomyeni wakho ninenkinga ye-psychology ehlukile! Futhi lokho kubonakala kubaluleke kakhulu kuwe, akukhathaleli - yikuphi uhlobo lwezinyo le kid elinalo lokuqala, lapho kudingekile ukuhamba nomntwana, ukuthi ukhululekile ... lolu lwazi lushintsha ngokushesha. Pho kungani uyenze ngekhanda?
Futhi okubaluleke kakhulu - kunoma yikuphi isimo, bobabili bayecala. Futhi udinga ukuxazulula isimo sokuxabana nawe, ngokuhlaziywa kokuziphatha kwakho. Ingane yakho yazalwa ukuze ikhule ngokuvumelana nangothando, futhi lokhu kungenziwa kuphela ngabazali abajabulayo abangathwali ukucaciswa kwempi yomndeni. I-FM Dostoyevsky inombhalo oqondile: "Akukho okubaluleke nakakhulu empilweni, akukho okudingekayo futhi okuwusizo kunememori ekhanyayo nefudumele, ecacile futhi enomusa. Ubekwe emndenini futhi usize ezikhathini ezinzima. " Kuseminyakeni yokuqala yokuphila ukuthi umkhathi emndenini unethonya elikhulu ekubunjweni kobuntu. Ngakho kuphela umndeni onobungane okwazi ukukhulisa ingane enempilo kwengqondo, nakuba umyeni eshintshile ngemuva kokuzalwa kwengane.