Abantu abakuzungezile abavumelani nendlela yakho yokuphila

Abanye abavumelani nendlela yakho yokuphila, ungahlanganyeli nokuzilibazisa. Indlela yokuthola ukuqonda? Ukuqeqeshwa kwakho emidlalweni eyingozi kakhulu sekuvele kubazali abahluphayo: kudlalwa, bathi, futhi lokho kwanele! Isoka lihleka ezincwadini zakho ezinama-esoteric. Abangane bayamangala: kahle, kungakanani ongaba yi-freelancer? Isikhathi sokuthola umsebenzi ohlala njalo, ohloniphekile ... Futhi awukwazi ukucabanga ukuthi impilo yakho ihlukile! Letha ukucaca. Kodwa nokho ngezinye izikhathi ucabanga: mhlawumbe kufanele ulalele iseluleko sabantu abaseduze nawe nabanye abakuzungezile? Okokuqala, kubalulekile ukuhlaziya isimo samanje ngokuthula. Ziphendule imibuzo embalwa. Zama ukuqonda: kungani ukwakha impilo yakho ngale ndlela? Ingabe uvela enduduzo yakho noma nje ungafuni ukuba "njengabo bonke abanye"? Kukhulu kangakanani igebe phakathi kokuziphatha kwakho kanye nokulindela kwabanye? Yini ekunika indlela yakho yokuphila futhi iyinikela? Lokhu kuzosiza kuqala. Zama ukuqonda izizathu zokungaqondi kahle. Mhlawumbe ukhetho lwakho aluhambisani nemibono yabanye ngokuphepha noma ngemigomo yabo yokuphila? Zama ukuma endaweni yomama: ungabeka ingane yakho igibele ebusuku ngebhayisikili? Uma uqonda ukwesaba kwabathandekayo, kuzoba lula kuwe ukuthi uthole amagama afanele.

Umsindo okholisa. Kufanele simele kanjani lapho omunye wezihlobo noma abangane bethu eqala ukukhuluma ngokuthi konke "akufani nabantu"? Yini ongayenza uma othile oseduze nawe engavumi ngendlela yakho yokuphila? Ake ngiqonde ukuthi imikhuba yakho "engavamile" nokuzilibazisa, izinqumo "eziphikisanayo" - akuyona i-whim futhi hhayi yinto encane. Benza ujabule - usuku ngalunye luba ngcono futhi lube mnandi kakhulu. Buza izihlobo zakho ukuthi zikulungele ukuthatha umthwalo wempilo yakho. Futhi kuthiwani uma uzilahla ithuba elikhulu, uma uphikisana nopapa uya emsebenzini ukuze uqine esikhundleni sakhe sokuqala ukwenza umsebenzi wakhe ngokwakho? Unelungelo lokwenza amaphutha. Izifundo eziwusizo kakhulu esisazozithola kulokhu okuhlangenwe nakho kwethu. Mhlawumbe eminyakeni embalwa uzoqiniseka: abantu abakuzungeze babekhona ngezindlela ezithile ngendlela efanele. Khona-ke ukhuluma ngalokhu futhi ukhulume. Manje, manje ukhetha ukuthatha izingozi. Fakela isibonelo sabantu abaziwayo abaphumelelayo abaye babhekene nokungaqondi kahle. Bonke bahamba ngendlela yabo, benganaki ezinye ukuhlaselwa okuhlekisayo. Inwele yesikhumba esincane esifushane, eyayiqala ukugqoka iMademoiselle Coco Chanel, yavele ibonakala sengathi yayinamahloni amaningi. Futhi yini? "Neformalku" UKoko manje ukhulekela futhi uyayamukela yonke izwe.

Ngezimiso zalo. Kubalulekile ukuthi izintshisekelo azithukuthelwanga. Umndeni wakho noma abangani bakho bangesaba kakhulu uma benquma, isibonelo, ukuthi uwile ethonyeni elibi lomuntu. Abantu abakuzungezile kufanele babone: awukhohliwe ngabo futhi ngeke uhambe, nakuba udala impilo yakho hhayi njengabo. Abantu abakuzungezile abavumelani nendlela yakho yokuphila? Cabanga ukuthi imibono yabantu iyashintsha, futhi yisikhathi sejaji elihle kakhulu empikiswaneni mayelana nendlela yokuphila. Uqinisekile ukuthi ukhethe indlela efanele? Bese uya phambili!

Ungumuntu wesenzo? Ucabanga ukuthi isu elihle kakhulu "ukuhileleka empini, bese sizobona ..."? Sizokusiza ukuthi unqume ukuthi yini esiseduze nawe - izenzo noma ukucabanga. Wena uqobo "we-theorist"! Umsebenzi wakho ukuhlaziya, uqhathanisa amaqiniso, thola ubudlelwane obuseduze. Abangane nabazijwayele ngamehlo balinde izenzo zakho kanye nokufezekisa. Kodwa, uma uqala ukubuka ibhulogi yakho ku-Intanethi noma ukhuluma nenhliziyo yakho ngenhliziyo phezu kwekomishi yekhofi, bayathandwa yizindiza zemicabango yakho. Uma ukwazi ukuthola umsebenzi womphefumulo, nhlobo, i-theorist ehlanzekile iyinyoni engavamile, futhi akuwona wonke umqashi owaziyo ukuxhumana naye. Uma isikhathi sifushane - wenza isenzo, isimo sidinga ukuhlaziywa okucabangelayo - ucabangela inkinga. Ungakwazi ukuzivumelanisa nezimo futhi wazi ukuthi ungafani kanjani. Akulula ukuthi ube ngumqondisi enkampanini enkulu, nakuba ungavamile ukuhlala ekhoneni. Ngenxa yalokhu kuhlanganiswa kwezimfanelo, uhlale uhaqwe abantu abathandekayo.