Ingabe kukhona inkohlakalo kumuntu noma iso elibi?


Isimo esilula: usendleleni yokuphumelela. Ayikwazi ukuqukatha injabulo, tshela ukuthi iphupho lakho lizogcwaliseka maduzane. Futhi ngokuzumayo ... konke kuphazamiseka. Kuyini lokhu - iso elibi, inkohlakalo? Noma ukwephula imithetho ethile yengqondo? Futhi wazi kanjani ukuthi kukhona ukulimala noma ububi kumuntu?

Ngabe umuntu oyedwa angayithatha isinyathelo komunye ukuze abe nezinkinga zempilo noma amapulani? Yiqiniso, sonke sixhumana nomunye umuntu ngezinga elingezona amazwi futhi sizizwa lithonya. Ngabantu abathile esibafisa ukuxhumana nabo, ngifuna ukuphinda futhi ngisondele. Futhi nomuntu ongekho isifiso ngisho nokusho izwi, nakuba lo muntu engenzi lutho olubi. Ngomuntu okhulume naye, futhi kwaba lula kuwe, futhi nomunye umuntu, nje ukuba enkampanini efanayo, wazizwa unesisindo emphefumulweni, ekudakeni, ekukhathazeka. Uma sikhuluma ngempumelelo yethu, mayelana nokulindela into enhle, sivulekile. Futhi uma kuleso sikhathi umuntu oshaywe kabi egcwele umona womona, into okuthiwa yi "iso elibi" ingenzeka.

Mhlawumbe lokhu kungachaza izinkinga ezithile ezingalindelekile. Isibonelo, owesilisa oneminyaka eyishumi obesebenza emdanini ngokucacile, uguga ngokuzumayo, kangangokuba akwazi ukuqeda isikole ... Empeleni, ukusabalalisa kweso elibi kuyagxila kakhulu. Ngokuvamile kunalokho, akukaxazululwa izinkinga zengqondo ngesikhathi. Insizwa okuthiwa "iya emdongeni" ihlala esimweni sokukhathazeka: abazali, othisha, abazali bakhe, othisha, usephakathi kwesikole sonke, yonke imisebenzi yokulawula ingcindezi enkulu. Uyesaba ukuvumela labo abakholwa kuye. Ukwengeza lokhu umona wabazali babanye abafundi, isifiso sothisha sokuthi "banqume" abafundi abahloniphekile, izintshisekelo zabaqhudelana, ukudelela "isitshalo sezitshalo" esikoleni esifunda nabo ... Uma le ndoda inesimiso sezinzwa ezibuthakathaka, akumele kube neso elibi - angeke abeke ukucindezeleka, futhi i-psyche izokwenza uhlobo oluthile lwesifo se-somatic kuye.

Abantu bavame ukukhononda kubangokwengqondo bezokwelapha ngezikhalazo ukuthi "zine-jinxed." Njengomthetho, laba yibo abangafuni ukuthatha imithwalo yempilo yabo. Kulula ukuchaza zonke izinkinga ezenzeka empilweni yabo, umthelela wamandla athile angaqondakali. Baphendukela kumagilane, izazi ze-psychologists, ngakho-ke ngesikhathi esisodwa bavele "bakhumule" noma baxazulule izinkinga zabo. Futhi kuyinto efiselekayo ukuba ingabi nesimo ngesikhathi esifanayo. Kodwa lokhu akukwenzeka. Inkinga ayiphumekanga namhlanje, isivele iqalile ngempela. Ngakho, ukuze ubhekane nayo, udinga isikhathi nesifiso esikhulu somuntu. Kunamandla kakhulu ukuthi yonke iminye imisebenzi ifakwa kumshini wokushisa emuva. Ngesikhathi esifanayo akunandaba ukuthi kunomonakalo noma okubi kumuntu. Ngezinye izikhathi kunezimangalo ezimnandi nje lapho umuntu ekhishwa, isibonelo, kusuka kokwesaba okungapheli ngokuphelele futhi ekugcineni. Kodwa ngaso sonke isikhathi kuwufanele umzamo omkhulu kokubili isiguli kanye nengqondo.

Kulabo abanenkinga yengqondo, konke, ngokujwayelekile, kucacile. Uma umuntu owaqala inkathazo athola imidwebo ebonakalayo yomthelela weso elibi, njengezinaliti ezinamathele emnyango wangaphambili, umhlabathi ohlakazekile emnyango ... Ngabe-ke? Manje sekukhona izincwadi eziningi zemimoya, lapho kuhlongozwa khona izinqubo ezihlukahlukene zobuthakathi. Futhi kukhona abantu abacabanga ukuthi konke kulula: kufanele wenze lokhu nokuthi, futhi umuntu ongakuthandi uzogula. Kodwa, okokuqala, abasoli ukuthi yiliphi uhlobo lengozi abazenzayo. Ububi bubangele enye ukubuya njenge-boomerang. Lokhu futhi, incazelo enhle yokuthanda izinto ezibonakalayo. Umuntu odale omunye umonakalo, engazi lutho unomuzwa wecala. Futhi lokhu kusho ukuthi uzokwenza amaphutha ngokuziphatha. Futhi ngenxa yalokho, izinkinga ngeke zithathe isikhathi eside. Okwesibili, lezi zinsuku zinama-nuances amaningi, futhi akuwona wonke umuntu ongakwazi ukukubeka kahle. Kodwa ngokuvamile umuntu owenziwe kuso uyangena enkingeni ... Empeleni, ngokuvamile nabo banesimo sengqondo. Le ndoda yathola imidwebo yomkhuba wendlovu. Ngaphandle kokuqonda, usevele elinde: into kumele yenzeke - ngoba inkohlakalo noma isici. Uqobo ubiza izingcindezi empilweni yakhe, ngoba into embi kakhulu ukungaqiniseki. Eqinisweni, esikhathini sethu eside akudingeki ukuba abizwe ngokuthi ...

Indlela yokwenza kulesi simo ngokufanele? Qhathanisa lokhu nalunye umkhuba. Uma ukholelwa onoganga-abahlakaniphile, ungabheke kubo. Uma kungenjalo, hamba ochwepheshe - izazi zengqondo, i-hypnologists. Futhi kanye nabo, qondani ukuthi kungani umuntu efuna okubi. Yini ekucasula kwabanye abantu kakhulu ukuthi ukulungele ukwenza ubulovu, ukuze nje kukucasule? Futhi ngemva kokuqonda lokhu, hlela ukuziphatha kwakho.

Kodwa konke lokhu akusho ukuthi kufanele njalo ube "igundane elimpunga", ungahlanganyeli impumelelo yakho, ungabonisi inhlalakahle yakho nombuzo othi: "Ukuphila kanjani?" - ukuphendula: "Kubi kakhulu kunanoma iyiphi indawo!", Ukuze kungabangeli umona. Kulesi simo, kufanele uhambisane nencazelo yegolide. Yebo, ungazigabisi, ungavuki imizwa emibi kubantu. Kodwa ungakhathazeki. Okokuqala, abanye bazizwa bengathembeki lapho uthi: "Okubi kunazo zonke!", Empeleni, hhayi ukubala. Futhi baqala ukuhleka usulu kuwe. Okwesibili, uma uphinda njalo lokhu, impilo izoba yingozi kakhulu: leli gama linomthelela omkhulu kithi. Ukuze uzivikele esweni elibi, zama ukuziphatha ngendlela engabangeli ukungafuni kwabanye. Zama ukuzithiba, ukukhalipha, ukuhlonipha. Khona-ke noma iyiphi impumelelo yakho izobonakala ilungile futhi ngeke ibangele ukusabela okubi komona.