Kubi kakhulu. Usemncane futhi omuhle, uyaqiniseka ukuthi uqobo lwakhe unelungelo lokuziphendulela futhi ube nesimo esihle sengqondo esivela kumyeni wakho. Uhlala ekugxeka emphakathini, ukuphawula ngokuhamba kwakho konke futhi ngokuvamile uziphatha kabi. Futhi awuvunyelwe ukuveza isikhukhuni emnyango, noma ukumvimbela ukuba avele phambi kwamehlo akho.
Ubani "yena"? Uninazala? Umakhelwane? Umphathi wekhanda? Umphikisi? Cha, akunjalo. Lona udadewabo womyeni wakho.
Unomdlalo wakhe kanye nemigomo yakhe, ukuze afinyelele ukuthi angasebenzisa konke okusemandleni ngaphandle kwesimo senembeza: ngokungaziphathi kahle kwakho, ukuphikisana nomyeni wakhe, ukuphikisana noninazala.
Abangani bakho ngezwi elilodwa bathi: yebo funa uphinde ugibe, le nhlanhla imane ikuhawukele umfowabo! Konke, kuye, usengumngane wezemidlalo yezingane futhi ongenangqondo, obani "owesifazane wokuqala obanjwe angakwazi" ukuzungezile. " Kodwa umkhwekazi unzima, ikakhulukazi uma engakuthandi ekuqaleni, ezama "ukuvikela" umfowabo ngethonya "lomunye umuntu" ngomuntu wakhe. Njengommeli wendlu yakhe, ufuna futhi ukuthi umfowabo azikhethele yena nabazali bakhe.
Masiqaphele ngenxa yokwethembeka ukuthi wena ngokwakho akavami nje ukubamba iqhaza kule mpikiswano yobuhlobo. Wena, futhi, vumela ukuhleka usulu udadewabo womyeni wakho uma kungesiwo obala, ngakho-ke emehlweni akhe - ngokuqinisekile. Futhi vumela ekhelini lakhe iziqu ezinjalo ukuthi umoya phakathi kwakho usanda kugesi. Imindeni lapho abesifazane abasha ababili bebuswa khona uma kungenjalo ukuthula nokuvumelana, okungenani isivumelwano sokuthula esingenalo ukuhlukumezeka kwalabo ababambe iqhaza, akuvamile kakhulu.
Yiqiniso, umthwalo wempi phakathi kowomkhwenyana nomalokazana, njengokungathi kunoma yikuphi ukuphikisana, uhlangothi zombili. Kodwa-ke, kufanele sivume ukuthi udadewabo kadadewabo unendawo ekhululekile - eceleni kwakhe, njengomthetho, abazali bakhe bafana nomfowabo, uyazi kahle umfowabo, okusho ukuthi uqonda kahle ukuthi kungcono kanjani "ukucindezela" futhi ukumboze ubuthakathaka balo ngokuvumelana nalo. Kodwa eceleni kwakho - "ukuphakama" okucatshangwayo mayelana nesidingo sokugcina ukuthula nokuchuma emndenini, ngakho-ke ukuziphatha kunamandla. Kulokhu sizokwakha.
Izindlela zokuqeda ukulimaza umonakalo odadewabo ezweni lakho elingaphakathi lingabonakala kakhulu. Owokuqala - uma kukhona ukungqubuzana nomalokazana, ukuhlangabezana nodadewabo womyeni wakhe ensimini yamuva. Izindonga zamantombazane, njengoba uyazi, zinikeza ithemba kumuntu ohlala naye. Ngesikhathi esifanayo, ngokumema udadewethu ukuba akuvakashele, uhlanganise wonke amathuba avelele futhi afihliwe ukukhombisa ukuthi konke okukhona endlini yakho kuhlelwe ngokucacile, ngokuvumelana nangendlela efanele, nakuba kungenjalo ngendlela odadewabo abajwayele ngayo.
Ukubusa okunye: konke okungashiwo kufanele kushiwo. Lapho nonke nikhuluma ngokuzwakalayo, ubuhlobo benu buzoba lula. Into esemqoka ukukhuluma ngokwemvelo nangaphandle kwemizwelo engadingekile. Unganciphisi ukucaciswa kobudlelwane nezinga le-Babic hysteria. Ngisho noma unamahloni ukukhuluma izinto ngokuzwakalayo, ucabanga - kungcono kakhulu uma yonke into ngaphakathi yakho ihlaselwa ukucasuka okungenamandla ("futhi uyakhuphukela ebuhlotsheni bethu" noma "ngiphinde ngiye kule ndlu, njengeGolgotha")?
Ngisho noma uhlaselwe yilo mqondo walokho, ngezikhathi ezithile uzenze sengathi ulalele umbono womkhwekazi wakho futhi uqaphele iseluleko sakhe. Ukubonisa isimo sakho sokungahloniphi nodadewabo womyeni wakho silula. Hamba futhi uphaqa amehlo akho - ngokushesha uyaqaphela ukuthi kungcono ukungaphazamisi umbono wakho. Pho utholaphi? Ukwaneliseka kwangaphakathi? Kodwa - ngokushesha noma kamuva, futhi kuyodingeka ubhekane nakho - emva kokuziphatha okunjalo onesikhathi eside ulahlekelwa ilungelo lokuziphatha ukufuna usizo uma uludinga ngempela. Futhi impilo - into ehlala isikhathi eside futhi engalindelekile, kungenzeka ukuthi kungumalumekazi ozoba "wand-zhalochka" wakho ngesikhathi esilukhuni.
Inhlonipho - okokuqala. Ngokuziphatha kwakho kumkhwenyana wakho nezinye izihlobo zomyeni wakho, ubonisa umyeni wakho ukuthi angaphathwa kanjani, isibonelo, kuzihlobo zakho (nakuwe). Ngaphezu kwalokho - izifundo ezifanayo zithandwa ngumntanakho, ngoba izingane zamukela kakhulu futhi zizwela ubuhlobo bomndeni. Cabanga ukuthi kungani udadewethu enomhawu ngomfowenu futhi ugxeke umnotho wakho. Mhlawumbe nje "uhumusha" izimangalo zomama, umamazala akufuni noma angenalo ithuba lokutshela wena siqu? Mhlawumbe awunakekeli ngempela umyeni wakho? Yiba ohlakaniphile - okungenani emphakathini, bonisa ukuthi uyamthanda kakhulu, uhlonishwa futhi ulungele ngenxa yokuthi uyathandana nhlobo. Ungakhohlwa ukuthi izihlobo zakho umyeni wakho ungumuntu ongcono kakhulu emhlabeni, futhi ngenkathi ungumfokazi ...
Yenza ubungane nomkhwekazi wakho, ukufaka phakathi kwendilinga yezithakazelo zakho, wethula abangani bakho ... Noma kungcono - thola umbhangqwana wakhe. Khona-ke angakwazi ukukhulula zonke izibili zokunganeliseki ngokuqondisa kabusha amandla akhe kwesinye isiteshi. Wonke umuntu uyoba ngcono! Memezela kumkhwenyana, umemele emcimbini obalulekile kuwe, umnike ukunakekelwa okukhulu. Kukhona ithuba lokuthi uzomomotheka kuwe.
Futhi wokugcina: ungakhathazeki kumyeni wakho. Umfazi angashintshwa, kodwa udadewabo akakwazi.