Owesifazane uzithola eyindoda encane kunaye lapho engenaso isithakazelo ohlangothini lobuciko lobuhlobo. Laba besifazane baqhutshwa emkhakheni wezobuchwepheshe, banikezwe izindlu nezinkokhelo ezizinzile. Esinye isizathu sokuthola izinsizwa kuyinto ebalulekile ekuphileni. Mhlawumbe, abesifazane abadala abakutholi ukukhathazeka nesimo sezontanga zabo futhi balwela okuthile okunye. Njengoba izimbali zomkhwenyana wesilisa nabesifazane ziwela ngezikhathi ezahlukene. Futhi esinye isizathu esithile kungokwemvelo kokubeletha, okunikeza imizwa yokuzethemba nokulondeka kwabesilisa abasha.
Imibhangqwana enjalo, lapho owesifazane omdala nomfana osemusha kufanele banqobe izithiyo eziningi kunamabhangqwana ajwayelekile. Okokuqala, ekubukeni komuntu wesifazane, kunezidingo ezingaphezu kwezinguquko ezibhekiswe phambili, kufanele ngaso sonke isikhathi zibuke ezingeni elifanele uma zingeneminyaka engaphansi kweminyaka yakhe, ngakho-ke, ngokusemandleni akho eminyakeni yakhe, ukumelana nokuncintisana namantombazane amancane. Ngakho-ke, ubuhle nentsha kufanele kugcinwe isikhathi eside ngangokunokwenzeka. Kulesi simo, ngokuvamile ukubonakala kungesisindo esifanayo ngothando.
Uma ubudlelwane obunjalo buphathwa kuphela ngemali kanye nobulili kanti konke okushiwo ubudlelwano kuncipha kuphela kulokhu, ukuthi owesifazane ukwanelisa zonke izimali zezimali zomngane osemncane, ukukhuthaza izidingo zakhe, kanye nokufaka esikhundleni esilinde kuphela ubulili, esikhathini esizayo indoda izokhathazeka indoda edlala ezandleni zesifazane. Ikhwalithi yezocansi kanye nesimo sezezimali akuzona amaqiniso angabalulekile empilweni yabo bobabili, kodwa ngaphandle kokuthembela kokuhloniphana nokuqonda, inyunyana ngeke ihlale isikhathi eside.
Akuvamile ukuthi imibhangqwana engalingani njalo iphumelele emshadweni, futhi umshado awuqinisekisi ukuphila okude ndawonye. Izinzuzo zamabhangqwana anjalo, ukuqonda nokuzwa okuzinzile, ukuhlakanipha. Kodwa kuyadingeka ukuba avele umhawu, ngoba ngaphambi kokuba abambalwa abaneminyaka engamashumi amabili bakwazi ukumelana, njengoba ubuhlobo bungalahla. Ngakho-ke, isibopho semibhangqwana engalingani ukuhlakanipha nokwethemba.
Izinsizwa zivame ukuzwa isidingo sokuziqaphela lapho ziba ngumuntu, isifiso sokuba umholi sikhulu, ngakho-ke owesifazane akufanele abeke umlingani wakhe esinyathelweni somntwana omncane futhi abonise konke okusemandleni akhe omama kuye. Uma owesifazane emshaya ngesimo sakhe sobugunyazi, uzoba umholi ebuhlotsheni, khona-ke indoda izozithola ngokushesha noma kamuva izithandane "obuthakathaka". Ubuhlobo phakathi kowesifazane nowendoda kuyisici esinzima kakhulu.
Inhlangano enjalo yabantu abaningi iyajabulisa futhi iletha inhlekelele ngesikhathi esifanayo. Kunezibonelo eziningi ezivela ekuphileni lapho owesifazane omdala kanye nentombazane egunyaza ubuhlobo, babe nezingane futhi baye baphila impilo yomndeni ejabulisayo amashumi eminyaka. Ubuhlobo obunjalo besifazane abaningi buvuselela, kusiza ukuzizwa njengowesifazane onenhlamvu enkulu. Kodwa kuyinto evamile ukuletha izinkinga lapho imibhangqwana, ingakwazi ukumelana nokuvivinywa, ihlukane ekuhlebeni kwenhlebo, ukugxekwa nokulahlwa. Abaningi abafaki ukucindezeleka okuvela ngaphandle.
Ukuphila akumi - futhi akunandaba ukuthi wena nomlingani wakho uneminyaka engakanani. Kubalulekile kangakanani ukuthi uzizwa uqobo kangakanani, ngoba umzimba wethu kuphela ubudala - futhi umphefumulo uhlale usencane. Futhi uthando nemizwa enhle ayinayo imingcele, kufaka phakathi iminyaka.