"Ukukhipha isisu kuyingozi yini ngenyanga yesithathu yokukhulelwa?" - isihloko sendaba yethu yanamuhla.
Ekuphileni kwabesifazane bonke, kunomzuzwana lapho ezithola ekhulelwe. Injabulo yophiko lobubele oluzayo luyavuma, cha, hhayi bonke. Kukhona imibono enhle: yini okufanele uyenze manje? Njengoba kungekho ngesikhathi! Lokhu kungenzeka kanjani? Ifulethi liyingcosana noma lingenakuzithokozisa, ngithole umsebenzi nje, emva komdala ngisanda kufika kimi ... Iqembu elilodwa lalawo mqondo liphikisana ekhanda lami. Futhi kukhona abacebisi: ukwenza isisu, ngaphambi kokuphuza kakhulu. Kungani kungasheshi kakhulu? Ukuze uqiniseke ukuthi akazange akhule futhi angakuvumeli ukuthi uzizwa kanjani ukuphoqeleka ukuthi uphonswe isithende esincane?
Asikho isikhathi esihle sokuzalwa kwezingane. Ungathola njalo izizathu eziyinkulungwane zokubheka ingane engadingekile.
Iyini ingozi yokukhipha isisu? Iqiniso lokuthi owesifazane uphula umyalo oyinhloko - ungabulali! Noma kunini isikhathi lokhu kungenziwanga: ngesonto lesibili noma izinyanga ezingu-3 zokukhulelwa - lokhu kubulawa kwengane - umehluko kuphela ekukhuleni nasekuthuthukisweni kwayo. Ukubulala ingane engenakuzivikela - yini engaba yimbi?
Emzimbeni wesifazane kuneminye imiphumela engathandeki:
- Ku-20% wabesifazane emva kokukhipha isisu, izifo eziphathelene nokugula zikhula;
- ku-12% yabesifazane emva kwalokhu, umjikelezo wesivivinyo ungaphazanyiswa isikhathi eside, ngisho nokuphuma kwegazi kungaba;
- lokhu ukucindezeleka okukhulu kwengqondo;
- ukuphazanyiswa okungenzeka komsebenzi wezinhlelo ze-nervous and endocrine, ukuphikiswa komzimba kuncishiswe kakhulu;
- izinkinga zobunzima obuhlukahlukene kungenzeka;
- ezingeni eliphansi, owesifazane ubona ukukhipha isisu njengobudlova emzimbeni wakhe.
Futhi kungakhathaliseki ukuthi kungase kuzwakale ubuhlungu kangakanani - imiphumela engokwengqondo izohlala impilo. Iningi labesifazane bayalizisola, kodwa alikwazi ukulungiswa. Kukhona ngisho nokuxilongwa - "ukucindezeleka kokubuyisela emuva". Iningi lokucindezeleka kokubuyisela emuva lihlangene nabesifazane abakhulile, ikakhulukazi uma ukukhulelwa kwaba ngowokuqala. Amantombazane amancane abhekana nalesi simo kalula, ngoba bayaqiniseka ukuthi kukhona ukuphila okude okuzayo futhi ungenza okuningi. Ukucindezeleka okukhulu ngemuva kokukhipha isisu kwenzeka kwabesifazane abagubha usuku lokuzalwa kwezinsuku ezingamashumi amathathu, ikakhulukazi emindenini engenayo engenayo.
Ngemuva kokukhipha isisu, ukucindezeleka kungadlulela iminyaka futhi kuvame ukuhambisana nokwesaba ukulahlekelwa umsebenzi wesisu (ngokwemvelo kwabesifazane abanesifo somzimba, isizinda esingenakuqina se-hormonal).
Abesifazane abanomntwana omunye umshado emshadweni omusha ababhekene nokukhipha isisu akulula nanoma yini elula kunalabo abangakabi umama.
Amatshe athile emphefumulweni uyokhipha isisu esiphumelele. Ubudlelwano nomyeni wakhe buvame kakhulu, ngisho noma ekuqaleni waqala ukukhipha isisu. Izingane ezazalwa ngaphambi noma ngemva kokukhipha isisu nakho, zihlushwa izifo nokuphazamiseka kwengqondo. Ngakho kungani uzakhela izinkinga ezinjalo?
Omunye angaphikisana: ukuzalwa kwengane kudala nezinkinga. Ukuntuleka kwemali, ukungabi nendlu yokuhlala evamile - konke kungenzeka ukuxazulula futhi ingane izogqugquzela kakhulu ekufinyeleleni imigomo. Owesifazane uzwa imizwa engenakuqhathaniswa lapho ethatha uhlangothi lwakhe, edla, ebuka amehlo akhe. Uma owesifazane enikezwa ithuba lokuba ngumama, kudingeka asebenzise, ngoba ayinikezwa wonke umuntu.
Uma kungekho imizwa yengane, yini engaphansi kwenhliziyo, indlela engcono kakhulu yokubeletha ingane bese uyiyeka ekhaya lokubeletha, edela amalungelo omzali. Ukwamukelwa kwezingane emadolobheni amaningi emgqeni, ngakho-ke kuyoba lula ngaye ukuthola abazali abanothando. Futhi umzimba wezinto eziphilayo ngeke "ukhonjiswe phansi" ngokukhipha isisu nangomphefumulo ngeke kube khona isono sokubulala.