Ngakho-ke, abazali bavame ukucabanga ngendlela yokufundisa izingane zabo kahle. Futhi izingane nazo zicabanga ngendlela yokuziphatha ngendlela ejabulisa abazali nomphakathi ozungezile?
Izinkinga zomndeni ekukhulisweni kwezingane zisalokhu zikhokhwa kakhulu. Esikhathini sesayensi (pedagogy) kuyisiko ukuhlukanisa izinhlobo zemfundo ngamaqembu. Nazi okuyinhloko:
Ukuhlukumeza kuyindlela enjalo yokukhuliswa kwezingane, lapho isinyathelo sokuthi "ukuphathwa" ngumntwana kudlulela kumalungu amabili noma embili omndeni. Futhi ngokuphelele. Kufana "nobukhosi obuphelele bomndeni." Ngokwenza kanjalo, kuncike ekutheni amandla omlingani wengane. Uma kuvela ukuthi kube namandla, umphumela wale mfundo uzoba yisenzo esiqinile sokuphikisa, ukuphikiswa kwabazali. Uma uhlamvu olubonakala lubuthakathaka, kuzoba nokuqedwa okuphelele kwezifiso zomntwana. Uzoxoshwa, futhi umqondo wokuhlukanisa uzovela.
I-Hyperopeka - kusukela esihlokweni kucacile ukuthi lena yindlela abazali abazama ngayo ngokugcwele ukujabulisa izikhwama zomntwana. Ingane enjalo ingakhula ngokwaneliseka, ukuziqhenya ngisho nobugovu. Ngomlingiswa obuthakathaka, angase abe nomuzwa wokungabi namandla emhlabeni, noma ngokuphambene, isifiso sokuqeda ukunakekelwa kwabazali, okuzophinde kube nomthelela omubi kakhulu ekuphileni okuzayo.
Ukungaboni ngaso linye - ngokombono wami, akuyona uhlelo olubi kakhulu, okumele lusetshenziswe ngokuhlakanipha. Zonke izinqumo nemithwalo yemfanelo kudlulisela ingane. Futhi yena ngokusebenzisa isilingo nokuphutha kumele aziqonde ukuthi yini elungile nalokho okungekho. Lokhu kunikeza ingane ithuba lokuphila okuhle kakhulu, eliwusizo kakhulu ekuphileni okuzimele. Kodwa kubalulekile ukuqonda ukuthi ukwenza kanjalo ukubeka engozini izimiso zokuziphatha zomntwana. Angase nje adideke, alahlekelwe yiqiniso.
Ukubambisana akungabazeki ukuthi ukuhlukunyezwa okuhlobene kakhulu emndenini. Lapha sonke basizana, futhi ikakhulukazi ndawonye, okubaluleke kakhulu ezinganeni. Amaholide, izenzakalo, ukuhamba, ukuhamba, kusihlwa kwamasiko - konke kwenziwa ndawonye. Ingane ingathola usizo lapho iyaludinga, ngoba isandla sabazali sihlale sikhona.
Kodwa lapha uzobuza: - "Khona-ke kuyini inkinga? Impendulo yombuzo obaluleke kakhulu. Sidinga ukuchitha isikhathi esiningi ndawonye, futhi basizana ... "
Konke lokhu ngokuqinisekile kunjalo, kodwa akubona bonke abangakwazi ukuhambisana nokubambisana. Izinkinga zomndeni zivame ukuqala nabazali ngokwabo. Futhi ezimweni eziningi, umama nobaba banezingxabano. Ngokwesibonelo, ubaba ufuna indodana yakhe ibe nesibindi, iqine, ngakho-ke uyayiphatha ngokugcwele. Ingane engenakho indawo, iyazama ukuthola ukuqonda okuvela kumama. Umama, njengoba ezwela kakhulu, njalo uzwela indodana yakhe. Futhi lapha kakade kwakukhona inkinga enkulu - umfana ucabanga ukuthi uyise ubi, futhi umama ulungile. Lokhu kwenza ubaba akathukuthele nakakhulu. Uyaqonda ukuthi ukubaluleka kwakhe emndenini njengomfundisi kuyaphela, futhi lapha izingxabano phakathi kwabazali zingaqala. Ingane, uma ibona lokhu, ingacabanga ukuthi yilesi sizathu salesi senkunkuma. Kungase kube nokuphazamiseka kwengqondo.
Ukungavumelani phakathi kwabazali nakho kungabangela ukungezwani kokuhlangenwe nakho kwezemfundo. Abanye abazali bakhulisa izingane zabo ngendlela efanayo nabazali bazo abakhulisa ngayo. Abanye, ngokuphambene nalokho, beqaphela ukuthi abazange bakhuliswe ngendlela engcono, khetha enye uhlelo.
Abazali bangahlukahluka emvelweni. Ngokuvamile ubaba, oqinile futhi othakazelisayo, futhi umama ulula futhi uzwela. Lokhu ukungalingani ngokushesha okubaluleke kakhulu kwengane kubazali.
Uyini umehluko phakathi kwabazali? Iziphi izinkinga umndeni ongaletha ekukhuliseni kwezingane? Lapha, futhi, konke kuxhomeke esimweni somntwana. Ngesinye isikhathi, izinga lokukhathazeka lingakhula - ngenxa yokulindela njalo ukujeziswa noma ukuthokoza. Kwesinye isikhathi, ingane ingasebenzisa lokhu. Lapho uyise eqinile, futhi ejezisa, ingane iya kumama futhi ifuna isipho sakhe esiduduzayo, candy noma nje ukunakwa.
Imiphumela yalezi zingxabano, eqinisweni, ihluke kakhulu esimweni somqondo wengane. Lapha unendima enzima kakhulu, ukukhetha indlela yokuziphatha ukuze ajabulise omunye wabazali abathandayo ngokulinganayo.
Futhi kanjani ukuba abazali ekukhuliseni izingane? Okokuqala. Akudingeki ukuba uthole ubuhlobo phambi kwengane. Akudingekile ukuvikela iphuzu lomuntu ngendlela engacacile. Lona ngumndeni, ungakwazi futhi uzinikele omunye nomunye.
Owesibili. Kuyafaneleka ukukhuluma ngale nkinga. Khuluma, ulalele ngokuphelele. Ngomoya ozolile, omnandi netiye ... Ngicabanga ukuthi okukhiphayo kungatholakala njalo. Kuyinto encane ukukholelwa omunye nomunye. Noma kunjalo, ayikho uhlelo olufanele lwemfundo. Kukhona okukufanele kakhulu. Udinga nje ukukuthola. Inhlanhla kuwe.