Ngaphambi kokucabanga mayelana nendlela yokuxazulula le nkinga, kubalulekile ukuqonda izizathu zokubukeka kwazo. Ngokuvamile, uma kwenzeka ezimweni ezinjalo, umama ufika esiphethweni sokuthi ingane yakhe ayinayo ubisi obanele futhi ishintshe ekudleni okwenziwa ngezandla. Kodwa ngokuvamile ukuncelisa ukubeletha kungagcinwa, okungukuthi ungasebenzisi iqiniso lokuthi ngaphambi kwesikhathi sokuncelisa ingane kusukela esifubeni. Ngesikhathi esithile sokuthuthukiswa kwayo umntwana usondla ngamabele amaningi, futhi lokhu kungokwezifiso zomzimba. Esikhathini esizayo, sichaza izikhathi zentuthuko, engabizwa ngokuthi yibucayi - yilapho ingane ibuza isifuba kaningi.
Izingane ezisanda kuzalwa zivame ukucela isifuba
Ngokokuqala ngqa izinsuku zokuphila ingane ilele kakhulu usuku lonke, evukela kuphela ukwanelisa isidingo sayo esiyisisekelo, isb. isidingo sokudla. Kodwa-ke, uma uneminyaka engama-4 noma emihlanu, umama ubona ukuziphatha kwengane kwezinye izinguquko ezimbalwa - ingane ivukile isikhathi eside kakhulu, iqala ukuphendula ngokugcwele okuzungezile, okungukuthi, ukucasula - kungaba nokukhanya, umsindo, ukumomotheka. Umbono wakhe isikhathi esithile ugxile ezintweni ezithile. Ngokuvamile ngalesi sikhathi ingane iqala ukubeka umama wayo ngokumomotheka kokuqala okulindelwe isikhathi eside.
Lokhu kungenxa yokuthi phakathi nenyanga izinhlaka zengqondo zokulala zengane ziqala ukuthuthukiswa kwazo ngokushesha. Ingane iqala ukuqonda ukuthi ezweni elijwayelekile kuye, into eqala ukushintsha. Yiqiniso, ingane ibanjwe umuzwa wokudideka nokwesaba, isifiso sokubuyela ezweni elijwayele izwe. Kodwa-ke, ingane isivele iqonda ukuthi umama uhlala eceleni kwakhe. Ukumenza abe nomuzwa wokuthi uMama ukhona nokuvikeleka okukhulu njalo, ukuze kube nokuxhumana ngokomzimba phakathi komama nengane.
Lokhu kungafinyelelwa kanjani? Okokuqala, sifaka isicelo esifubeni. Isikhathi esinjalo senzeke kubo bonke abancane, kulula kwezinye kokunye kuboniswa ngokukhanya okukhulu, futhi kwabanye kubonakala kungabonakali. Isikhathi esinzima kangaka singaqhubeka kuwo wonke umuntu ngendlela ehlukile - umuntu unezinsuku ezimbalwa, kanti omunye unenyanga ezimbalwa. Abaningi omama abacabangi ukuthi kunezinto ezinjalo ngesikhathi sokukhula kwengane futhi ngokuzumayo bafune izizathu zokuziphatha kwakhe okungenasici kunoma yini. Ukuzwa ukudideka nokukwesaba akushiyi owesifazane ikakhulukazi uma isikhathi esinjalo sithatha isikhathi eside emasontweni amaningana. Ngezikhathi ezinjalo, umama ufuna usizo kumntwana wezingane, kodwa ngenxa yokuhlolwa kuvela ukuthi ingane iphilile futhi ayikho ukwephulwa. Kungenxa yokungazi ukuthi kukhona umbono ongenakuqondakala ngokuthi konke lokhu kuvela ekuntuleni ubisi lomama futhi umntwana olambile ukhala ngalesi sizathu.
Ngakho kufanele siziphathe kanjani ngezikhathi ezinjalo? Isizathu sokukhala kwengane sisezintweni ezingavamile zento entsha, zihlangabezana nesidingo sokududuzwa ngumama, okungukuthi angamnika yona kuphela. Hlehlisa ingane yakho nge maximalisation. Ukufudumala komzimba wakho kanye nephunga elizizwayo lapho uxhumana nomzimba wakho kuyinto edingekayo kakhulu okudingayo kuwe.
Ungakhohlwa ukuxhumana nengane kaningi ngezwi, khuluma naye. Izwi lakho lijwayele kuye, njengelinye, ngoba yena, ehlezi ngaphakathi kwakho, wamlalela izinyanga eziyisishiyagalolunye. Futhi kuyinto evamile futhi yemvelo ukuthi iqiniso liwukuthi ingane isetshenziswa ngokuvamile esifubeni futhi akufanele iphiwe, ukuzama ukubuyisela isifuba nge-pacifier ye-raber noma ibhodlela. Isimo esivela kulokhu ngeke sishintshe, kodwa singaba sibi nakakhulu. Kulula kakhulu ukuthatha ukudla ebhodleleni kunokuba usuke ebelethweni. Ngenxa yalokhu, ingane ingakwazi ukuyeka ngokuphelele ubisi lwebele, futhi isifiso sakhe sokuxhumana nonina, okubalulekile, singahlala singanelisekile. Njengoba ungenasici, ingane izomemeza ngokungapheli, futhi wena, cishe njalo, uzama ukuyihlisa, ugqoke ezandleni zakho nokuthuthumela.
Kodwa-ke, uma kukhona ukungabaza ukuthi kungani ingane idinga njalo isifuba futhi usacabanga ukuthi awunayo ubisi obanele, futhi ngenxa yalokhu ingane izwa njalo ilambile, kufanele wenze njalo: ungasebenzisi ama-diapers alahlwa okungenani usuku olulodwa. Uma isibalo sibonisa ukuthi izinwele ezimanzi ziba ngu-10-12, khona-ke ungaba nokuthula - ingane yakho igcwele futhi ibangela ukukhathazeka kwenye. Kodwa uma ungaqedi, kufanele uthintane nodokotela wezingane ozokala ingane yakho. Uma kwenzeka ingane ithola isisindo esidingekayo sale minyaka, lokhu kusho ukuthi ubisi lwakho lwanele. Ukuze uqede ngokuphelele futhi ungahambi ngaso sonke isikhathi ukuze uthintane kuphela nesisindo somntwana, uthole izibonakaliso zobuchwepheshe. Nsuku zonke, ingane enezinyanga ezintathu kufanele ibe nesisindo sama gramu angu-40. Kunendlela enjalo yokwenza isisindo, okubizwa ngokuthi ukulawula, kodwa ososayensi bayo banamuhla bayabheka ukuthi akusebenzi futhi akusizi ukutadisha inani lokudla elidliwe ngumntwana ngamahora ahlukene, ngoba ingane ngayinye ithatha inani elihlukene kakhulu lobisi ukuze lidle. Futhi ungesabi uma ingane yakho inezibonakaliso ezingenhla, ebonisa ukuntuleka kobisi lwakho, futhi ugijimele ekhemisi ukuze uthenge ingxube emnandi.