Ngokuvamile ingane yesibili cishe yonke imindeni iba yisilwane. Mhlawumbe, lokhu kungenxa yokuthi ukukhulelwa okwesibili, kanye nokubeletha, kubangela ukukhathazeka okungenani kokubili kubazali. Zizolile, zilinganise futhi zithande ingane entsha. Ngokubukeka kwengane yesibili emndenini, abazali baqaphela ngokwengeziwe, ikakhulukazi njengoba okuningi kuye kwavela, kudlulile.
Kodwa lapho ingane yesibili ivela emndenini, umhawu nokuphikisana phakathi kwezingane kungavela. Phela, ingane yokuqala yayikhuliswe njengeyokuphela futhi yathola konke ukunakwa nothando lwabazali. Futhi ngokuzumayo isimo sishintsha ngandlela-thile, uthando lwabazali luhlukaniswe phakathi kwakhe nodadewabo noma umfowabo. Ngalesi sikhathi, umndeni udala izimo ezintsha zokukhuliswa kwezingane, ngoba sezivele zibili.
Ngaphambi kokuzalwa komfowenu noma udadewabo, ingane yokuqala yazizwa iyisisekelo somndeni, ngoba yonke imicimbi yayisondela kuye. Wathola ukunakekelwa komzali nokunakekelwa okukhulu. Phakathi nalesi sikhathi, ingane iqala isikhundla esilandelayo: "Ngiyajabula kuphela lapho bengikhathalela futhi lapho benginake." Lokhu kuchaza ukuthi kungani ingane ixhomeke kubazali bayo - idinga ukunakekelwa kwayo nokuthanda, ukunakekelwa nokunakekelwa.
Kuyaziwa ukuthi yizibulo lokuqala elibhekene nokuhlukunyezwa kokuziphatha kanye nemikhuba egobile. Ngenxa yalokho, lapho ingane yesibili ivela emndenini kanye nemithetho "yemigomo yomdlalo", izingane ezindala zihlangabezana nesimo esingachazwa njengokulahlekelwa kokuthula kanye nezikhundla ezizuzayo.
Idatha kubantwana asebekhulile nabancane kusukela ekubonweni kochwepheshe
Umntwana omncane nomncane uhlinzekwa ngezidingo ezahlukene. Kusukela kumazibulo, abazali balindele okungaphezu kokuvela kwengane yesibili. Cishe yonke imindeni, izingane ezindala zibhekwa njengabaholi kanye nezibonelo zezingane ezincane. Kwavezwa ukuthi izizukulwane zokuphila esikhathini esizayo ngokuvamile ziba ngabaholi bezokuqoqa, zithatha isikhundla esiphambili, zikwazi ukusebenzisana, ziqaphele futhi zithintekayo enkonzweni, zikwazi ukuphendula ngokushesha ezimweni ezinzima, futhi zinikeze usizo. Futhi eqinisweni, ingane yokuqala iba "mdala" ngokuguga, okungukuthi ngesikhathi sokuvela kwengane yesibili emndenini. Izibulo kufanele zivumelanise nelungu elisha emndenini kanye nemibandela emisha. Ngenxa yalokhu, izingane ezindala zinezimiso ezinamandla zokuziphendukela kwemibandela kanye namakhono afanelekayo. Yilezi zingane ezikwazi "ukuqoqa intando yabo zibe yizintambo" futhi zenze isenzo noma zithathe isinqumo esibi ngokwabo.
Ngokuphathelene nezingane ezincane, abazali bazo benza okungadingeki kakhulu kubo. Ngakho-ke, mhlawumbe abantu abancane bancane amathuba okuphumelela empilweni. Ngokujwayelekile, lezi zingane azenzi izimfuno eziphakeme ezimpilweni zabo, kaningi azikho esimweni sokunquma isiphetho sabo, ukwenza isinqumo esibi. Kodwa, ngakolunye uhlangothi, izingane ezincane zinobudlova kakhulu, zilinganisela kakhulu. Abazi ukuthi kusho ukuthini ukulahlekelwa izikhundla zabo futhi uthole ingxenye eyodwa kuphela yothando lwabo kubazali babo. Izingane ezincane azitholi izinguquko ezimweni zomndeni, ngoba zihlala emndenini lapho kukhona abazalwane abadala noma udadewabo, futhi bancane. Kuboniswa ukuthi phakathi kwezingane ezincane kukhona ukuqhuma kwe "adventures". Benza kalula izinto ezintsha, baphathe ngokuqondile abazali babo, bazame ukubamba abadala babo, nakuba lokhu kungenakwenzeka.
Emndenini lapho kunezingane ezimbili, ukuncintisana ngeke kugwenywe, kuzohlale kube nezimo zokuncintisana nobuhlobo.
Qaphela abazali
Ukuzalwa kwengane yokuqala kuhambisana nesimo esinzima sokuzijabulisa, njengoba abazali bengenalwazi oluncane, okwenza ukuba bakhathazeke ngokwengeziwe.
Ukukhulelwa kwesibili nokubeletha kudlula ngaphezulu ngokuzethemba nangokuzethemba, ngakho-ke ingane encane ikhula emoyeni ozolile esesesibelethweni.
Ingane endala iyazi ukuthi kusho ukuthini ukuthi ungashadile. Futhi ukuvela kwengane yesibili kusho ukuthi ushintsho kuye ezimweni zobungane emndenini, okwenza ukuba azivumelanise nazo.
Ingane yesibili kusukela ekuzalweni ikhula endaweni engaguquki (abazali, umfowabo nodadewabo behlala njalo), ngakho-ke bahlaziye futhi bahlukumezekile.
Bathandeka ekusunguleni amasu nezinkambiso zokuphatha ukuze bafinyelele ingane engumdala noma bangalahlekelwa isimo "sobusha", bebevele bekhulile.