Abaningi besifazane bavame ukusebenzisa ulimi lomzimba, ngisho nangaphandle kokuqaphela, ngokuthumela izibonakaliso ezifihlekile zocansi kumadoda azungezile ukuze bakhangele noma banentshisekelo kubo. Izimpawu zobulili ezifihlekile zabesifazane zingahluka - zingabonisa ukuzwelana, isifiso noma isifiso sobulili.
Abesifazane kunalokho okungaqondakali ngokudala imvelo, kodwa imicabango yabo nezifiso zabo kulula kakhulu ukuqonda uma bazi ukuthi yini owesifazane oyithumela kumuntu ayithandayo. Lapho uhlangana nendoda enhle, wonke owesifazane uhlale evula, futhi amehlo akhe akhanyise izibani, okuvame ukunikeza ngisho namantombazane akhululekile. Ngakho-ke, lapho usebenzelana nendoda, akufanele nje ubuke ubuso bakhe nesimo somzimba, kodwa futhi umzimba wakhe uveza, njengoba umuntu engakwazi ukuveza imizwa yakhe futhi akhulume okuningi, ngisho nangaphandle kokuqala ingxoxo. Izimpawu zobulili ezingavamile ezithandwayo zabesifazane azibonakali njengabesilisa, kodwa i-interlocutor enolwazi noma umuntu othanda wena uzoziqonda ngokushesha. Ukuze wenze lokhu, akudingeki ukuba ube yingcweti yesayensi yezokwelapha noma i-NLP, okubaluleke kakhulu - ukwazi ukuzwa imizwa ye-interlocutor nokuqapha ukuziphatha kwakhe okungahambisani nokuzibandakanya kanye nendlela yokuxoxa.
Ukuqoqwa kwabesifazane abanomuntu onjengawo kuqukethe izibonakaliso zobulili. Uma ufuna ukuvumela indoda ukuthi ayinandaba noma ihle kakhulu, ke ukukhetha kokuthinta nokuhamba kuyahlukahluka! Isibonelo, lapho ukhuluma nendoda oyithandayo, owesifazane ubonisa isithakazelo sakhe, uma, lapho unyawo olulodwa luphonsa ngapha nangakolunye uhlangothi, ithotho lesikhangu noma idolo liphendukele ku-interlocutor. Indlela efanayo ihilela ukudlala nge-coquettish ngesicathulo esinezinhlamvu, inzwane iphinde ihlose i-interlocutor. Ungaphinda uthintane nomunye umuntu ngephutha, ngenkathi ubheka ngamehlo ubukeka obude, obude. Kubuye kubonakale kunomxhwele kakhulu ngokuchayeka emuva kwezingxenye zomzimba - isibonelo, entanyeni, ngaphakathi kwesikhumba, amaqabunga.
Uma i-interlocutor engahambisani nempawu ezithunyelwe, uzama ukukopisha izenzo zakho, kodwa ngokuqinisekile akuzona zonke. Emibonisweni yokukhwabanisa emadodeni ekuthomeni ukulungiswa kwe-tie noma ibhande, ukungaboni ukubuka amehlo nokubukeka "okuyimfihlo". Ukubuka okuqondile ezweni lesilwane kubhekwa njengesibonakaliso sokuhlukumezeka, kule ndaba, amadoda, ukulalela ukuhlakanipha kwemvelo, angaboni njengowesifazane osesweni. Kodwa njengoba bonke abantu bengabazingeli kanye nabanqobi ngokwemvelo, bazama njalo ukuthinta owesifazane omuhle lapho bekhuluma noma behlangana, futhi, ngaleyo ndlela, zama ukumthakazelisa. Ngakho-ke, izibonakaliso zomuntu zothando zilula ukuthi owesifazane abone, futhi, ngokufanele, ukuba aphendule kubo.
Futhi, besifazane, lapho umuntu ebonakala, ayeke ukukhuluma noma uqale ukuhleka, ukuzama ukukhathazeka nokuthanda umuntu.
Futhi okubaluleke kakhulu - uma le ndoda inamahloni, yiqiniso, ungakwazi ukudlala ngothando nomdlalo wothando, kodwa okubaluleke kakhulu - ungayidluli ngoba ungangethusa noma ungabonisi uhlangothi olungcono kakhulu.