Ngokuvamile, abesifazane bacela usizo esimweni lapho ubuhlobo bunenkinga ngesici esiseduze, ngamanye amazwi, uma umyeni enqaba umkakhe ngokuya ocansini. Lokhu kwenzeka ngisho noma umfazi ekhokha kakhulu ukubonakala kwakhe, ubheka kahle, ulungiselela kahle kakhulu, futhi umyeni wakhe ubonakala enganqamuki lapho enesikhathi esikhululekile, kodwa ukhetha ukuyisebenzisa nabangani noma kukhompyutha. Kwenzeka ukuthi lo muntu ngokwakhe akazami nje ukuzama ukukhombisa isinyathelo, kodwa futhi uyalahla yonke imizamo yomfazi ukuba abe nobuhlobo bobulili. Izizathu zokuthi umyeni uphika owesifazane osondelene naye isamba esikhulu.
Ukuphila nokuxabana ngokumelene nokuphila obuseduze
Incazelo ethandwa kakhulu, uma amadoda enqaba abafazi ngocansi - kuyinto ejwayelekile ekwenzeni uthando. Ngokusho kwamadoda amaningi, ekusebenzeni kwabo ngokocansi nomkakhe akukho into enhle, ngokulandelana, alahlekelwe yiyo yonke inzalo kumkakhe. Lapha, njengombuso, okuningi kufanele kuxhomeke ekubonakalweni komcabango wesifazane, ngoba umyeni ulahlekelwa isithakazelo endaweni yokuqala, inqubo ngokwalo futhi angeke athole injabulo ebulili. Kodwa akufanelekile ukuthi uphaqe wonke icala kumlingani ongaphezu kweyodwa. Ukuvuselela futhi wenze izinhlobo ezihlukahlukene zobulili kufanele uzame bobabili bomshado. Ngokuvamile, isizathu sifihliwe empilweni yomndeni engaqiniseki, isibonelo, izingxabano eziqhubekayo, ukuhlukumezeka, njll. Lokhu kungase kubhekiswe kwesinye isici lapho umyeni ephika ukusondelana, okuhlobene nokuntula injabulo kowesifazane. Nje lezi zici ezimbili futhi zibe yizizathu eziyinhloko zokwenqaba ukufeza umsebenzi wokushada.
Igazi legazi
Kwenzeka ukuthi indoda ayifuni ukusondelana nomkakhe ngoba yamcasula ngakho ufuna ukumfundisa isifundo. Intukuthelo kumkayo ibangela isimo sengqondo esibi kuye futhi ibulale noma yisiphi isifiso sokuba naye. Ngendlela, lo mkhuba woku "ukuxoshwa emzimbeni" yiwona owona owona wesilisa ongcono nje kuphela. Amadoda nawo ayisebenzisa ngokugcwele ngezinhloso zawo siqu. Ngendlela, ngaphezu kwakho konke, ngaphezu kokusondelana nomkakhe, oshade naye angakhetha ukubuka ama-movie we-porn noma amawebhusayithi. Lokhu kusikisela ukuthi le ndoda ifuna ukuthatha indawo engokoqobo ngamafantasti. Kulesi simo, uma lokhu kwenzeka ngaso sonke isikhathi, kufanelekile ukubonisana nesazi sokusebenza kwengqondo ukuthola iseluleko.
Izinkimbinkimbi esilungile
Isizathu sesithathu sokuphika umfazi ocansini - owesifazane uyeke ukuthakazelisa umlingani ngendlela yobulili. Lapha, ukungathembeki emshadweni ohlangothini zombili kuyafaneleka. Lokhu kungase kubonwe esinye isizathu, okuhlobene nokuhlaselwa okuqhubekayo komkayo kumyeni wakhe. Kulezi zihlaselo, umyeni uhlambalaza umyeni wakhe ngenxa yazo zonke izinkinga futhi ugxeke. Kuvela lapha ukuthi lo muntu uhlakulela phansi, okwenza ucabange ukuthi akasho lutho kumfazi.
Ukuphelele komfazi
Yiqiniso, lokhu akukwenzeki kuzo zonke imibhangqwana eshadile, kodwa iqiniso lihlala likhona. Kwenzeka ukuthi emva kokubeletha kwengane, owesifazane othola isisindo noma nje wayeke ukubuka ukubukeka kwakhe (abaningi bayazi isimo lapho owesifazane egqoke ingubo engcolile enezinwele ezinwele ezinwele zakhe kusukela ekuseni kuze kuhlwe kusimile esitofu). Futhi njengoba sonke siyazi, amadoda ayethanda amehlo, ngakho-ke angabonakali, umfazi akayeke ukuba nesithakazelo kumyeni wakhe njengento yezocansi. Okubi nakakhulu kulokhu, uma oshade naye engamane nje enqabe umfazi esondelene naye, kodwa futhi ugwema ukumbumbana, ukumkhathaza nokumanga.
Khuluma ngokuqondile
Uma kwenzeka lokhu futhi indoda izama ngazo zonke izindlela ukuthi 'ilahle' ukusebenza komshado, kubalulekile ukuthola isizathu esiyinhloko, ngenxa yalokhu kwenzeka. Ungakwenza lokhu ngengxoxo engagwegwesi nomlingani wakho noma ubheke ngokucophelela ukuziphatha kwakhe. Ngezizathu eziningi ezivame kakhulu ezithinta ubudlelwane bobulili, kungenzeka ukuhlukanisa phakathi kwezindima zomyeni nomfazi. Indoda ihlale ingumholi, kodwa ngokuvamile owesifazane uthatha indawo yakhe emndenini, okucindezela kakhulu umyeni wakhe. Lapha kufanelekile ukunikeza isinyathelo ezandleni zomuntu, hhayi kuphela kwezocansi, kodwa futhi ekuphileni kwansuku zonke. Oshade naye uzozizwa njengenhloko yomndeni futhi uzama ngazo zonke izindlela ukuze agcine lesi sihloko, ekhokha umkakho ngesimo socansi.